littlelaxer Posted November 9, 2004 Share Posted November 9, 2004 OOOKK so im very confused at this point. Earlier in the week this all occured ------------> http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t51081/ So its been about 4 or 3 days since i have talked to the ex. This morning around 5 am i get a phone call. And i was half out of it so i didnt answer and it was him. HIm and his friends called and sang into the phone. They sang: "My name, we've been thinking about you, and we miss you, bye" ]They sang it like dragged out, u know like singing it. THen i got anohter call at 5:30am from him but he didnt leave a message. Im like whoa!! ok what does this mean. i called him back this morning and left a voice mail commenting on his voicemail and told him if he wanted to call back i was free after 2. But i havent heard anything.............. The last we talked wasnt the greatest if u read the site above. I just dont know what to think, or what he is doing......anyone have any ideas?!?!?!? Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 9, 2004 Share Posted November 9, 2004 That dude has some issues. Hopefully he will grow up enough that mommy and daddy can throw him a party for completing his potty training and he can chant "I'm a big kid now." Seriously, this guy sounds like he is 13. Link to post Share on other sites
Author littlelaxer Posted November 9, 2004 Author Share Posted November 9, 2004 oh dont i know it.....and when we broke up he told me I was immature .......hmmmm im just so confused about what he wants and stuff....i just dont get it im tryin not to read into it but he keeps doin stuff that just makes me think more and more. Why is he doin this junk, i mean if he does regret it (im not even sure he does) why doesnt he just say so?!?! Link to post Share on other sites
daphne Posted November 10, 2004 Share Posted November 10, 2004 Off topic... weird, i noticed you're a guy that seems to be extremely mature for whatever age you are. how is it that you're single? Link to post Share on other sites
iceisles Posted November 10, 2004 Share Posted November 10, 2004 Unfortunately, this is how most early-morning phone calls seem to begin and end. The message was clearly childish, if not idiotic, not to mention being left at an hour when he had to know you were asleep. That said, it was an attempt to contact you, and I can only see that as a small step in the right direction. One would assume that he was probably drunk, but I don't get that feeling here. This seems to be more of a "two guys up late" kind of deal. They were probably talking about anything and everything, including you. The fact that your ex called you is noble, even if was 5:30AM and the message was nothing more than a stupid song. How he responds to your phone call will be key here. Will he feel bad about leaving that message? Will he want to talk about important issues? If he continues to act childish when he returns your call, that could be cause for concern. That would be a sign of someone just wanting to keep you "on a string" for any number of reasons. True, genuine remorse will only come in the form of a sincere effort to reconcile. I would not settle for anything less - if this relationship means something to him, let him fight for it. Your call following the message was a good idea, but I would revert back to strict NC until he either shapes up ships out. Good luck with this, and keep us posted! Link to post Share on other sites
iceisles Posted November 10, 2004 Share Posted November 10, 2004 Originally posted by daphne Off topic... weird, i noticed you're a guy that seems to be extremely mature for whatever age you are. how is it that you're single? "Off topic" is the understatement of the year. This makes as much sense as a buffet at a strip club. Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 10, 2004 Share Posted November 10, 2004 Originally posted by daphne Off topic... weird, i noticed you're a guy that seems to be extremely mature for whatever age you are. how is it that you're single? hehe:) I'm turning 26 next week and am probably single because it'd make too much sense if all the ladies wanted me. Seriously, I don't know. My ex went wiggy first off and then since her I just have not met any female that I think has long term potential but then again, not like I have really gone out seeking to find one. Sorry for taking this thread even more off topic. Link to post Share on other sites
Author littlelaxer Posted November 10, 2004 Author Share Posted November 10, 2004 so he called me back.......he said that he and his friend were very intoxicated and he was sorry. He said that him and his friend called awhole bunch of other people too........He didnt even ask what he said though. You would think if u were maddd wasted u would wonder what the heck u said to ur ex girlfriend?!?! but its cool, im cool......he then asked about how my family was doing and i asked about his but he couldnt hear me casue he was somewhere loud. So i said that i had to go bye and he was like oh alright bye and i just hung up. I guess im just fed up with the games, and im going to continue on with the no contact.....................he broke up with me and im tryin to let him go but hes not going away, i just dont get it Link to post Share on other sites
iceisles Posted November 10, 2004 Share Posted November 10, 2004 Originally posted by littlelaxer I guess im just fed up with the games, and im going to continue on with the no contact.....................he broke up with me and im tryin to let him go but hes not going away, i just dont get it That is the best thing you can do. Make yourself available to him if he wants to seriously talk, but outside of that, you don't need to play his games. If there is a positive in this, it's that he's clearly not ignoring you. That would suggest at least some interest in wanting to keep you in his life. Has there been any indication that he may be interested in someone else? If not, he is probably just confused and not really sure how to handle the situation. My money is on him hoping you will be the one to start talking about the relationship, but that's not your responsibility. I really hope that he will come to his senses, show some maturity, and want to make things right. How do you all feel about this? It would seem to me he wouldn't be hanging around if he didn't at least partially care. Link to post Share on other sites
Author littlelaxer Posted November 12, 2004 Author Share Posted November 12, 2004 So to continue on with the whole ex situation~ I went out to lunch with a nice guy today and we went to a little resturant in town. About 20 mins into the lunch guess who comes strolling in with his buddies. Thats right the ex. Yes i know this is a complete coincidence but still very odd (talking about signs and stuff). He came in and they sat down but then got up and moved cause i guessed they didnt like their seats or maybe it was to close to me.........throughout the rest of the lunch i thought to myself "should i say hi, or should i act like i didnt see him??" I decided to do the mature thing and go up and say hi to him and his friends. my ex gave me a big hand slap like we were old buddies or something. I was very cheery and nice and asked how they were all doing and such. His one friend brought up the whole phone thing and he was like it was so funny but sorry it was so late..................after about 2 mins i said well i got to go guys talk to ualter and i left. The whole time my ex couldnt really look at me he was like lookin at his buddies maybe he was uncomforable......(i notice little things) they were all lookin up and talking i mean yeah he was being social but still hardly any eye contact. I think it was the best thing for this to happen. it was good because if he has thoguht i have been sitting around waiting for him, this whole thing showed him i wasnt. I think it was good i said hi becuaes if i didnt it would of came off like i had a chip on my shoulder or that i was still hung up on him and bothered that he was there. I suppose i suprised him that i said hi. I still wonder if all of this is buggin him......I kinda think maybe because i havent been keeping contact iwth him, he might be thinking "So this is why she hasnt been calling, shes met new guys" i dont know though so the only thing i wonder is if seeing me with someone else when i know he thoguht i was just sittin around at home doing school work and junk is buggin him????...... Link to post Share on other sites
iceisles Posted November 12, 2004 Share Posted November 12, 2004 IMO, this is one of the best things that could have happened. This will hopefully be a wake-up call that shows you aren't just sitting around waiting for him. I bet anything he figured you would be there when he finally felt like talking, and now he realizes that this isn't the case. He should be feeling jealous, if not downright worried. Seeing you with another guy should give him that sense of urgency that he has failed to demonstrate to date. The fact that he didn't make eye contact with you tells me that he feels uncomfortable about the entire situation. He's likely still bothered by everything, which is definitely a good sign. I would be very surprised if he doesn't call you this weekend. He has to be concerned that you are moving past him, or perhaps he even thinks you are already dating someone else. These are things that I would be thinking if I were in his shoes. Do you all agree that the next few days will be very telling regarding his true feelings for her? There is a neon sign in front of his face that says, "Do something quick" - the question is, will he finally stop hiding behind his pride and come around? Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 13, 2004 Share Posted November 13, 2004 I like the way you handled stuff and I would not be surprised if you got a call from him sometime in the near future. Link to post Share on other sites
Author littlelaxer Posted November 14, 2004 Author Share Posted November 14, 2004 i really hope i do get a call....................but i guess the more i sit and think about it, i begin to worry about things like what if him seeing me iwth someone else makes him feel better, so he thinks he can go out and date too, or what if it made the whole situation worse?? I cant help think these things, and what if he isnt even worrying about it or even thinking about it?????????? Link to post Share on other sites
iceisles Posted November 14, 2004 Share Posted November 14, 2004 The way he reacted last time tells me that he likely isn't seeing anyone. It appears that he is still uncomfortable with the situation, probably moreso now that he has seen you out with someone else. I think if he was seeing someone else (or really wanted to), he would have acted more casually and politely at the restaurant. It's natural to worry about what he's thinking, but I don't see any cause for concern at this point. It's really a question of what he does next. Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 14, 2004 Share Posted November 14, 2004 I agree...if he was seeing soemone else or was in the mindset to do so he wouldn't have acted so weird around you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author littlelaxer Posted November 14, 2004 Author Share Posted November 14, 2004 Well my best friend works at a clothing store in the mall................she was working last night and matt came in the store with his friends. She said he acted all cool like they were still good friends like when him and i were together even though she hasnt talk to him since the whole thing. They talked and he brought up the whole lunch thing....her and i hadnt talked yet for the day so i didnt get to tell her about it first! He said he saw me with some guy. And he asked if she knew who he was. She wasnt sure cause i had been talking about this kid from one of my classes but that wasnt him. She said it might be this guy from my class. He was liek ohh ok. And then she asked if he had talked to me and he said yeah he did. And she said soemthing about the weekned before about him commin in my work and didnt say anything. And he was saying something liek he didnt know if i wanted him to talk to me cause i hadnt talked to him when he went home on vacation and junk. And i was busy or seomthing.(u know the bull). Then they talked about other junk and he was leaving and he told her he was having a party tonight with a couple of close friends and that she was invited but she was like yeahh ok. and that was the end So what does this mean now? Link to post Share on other sites
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