I have known Temptation Before, But I would never Fall to a Ho

[Soul Doubt]

I have Been with My girl for 1.5 years, I love her with all of my heart, and if I could find the words I would tell you all, but Call me un-read because all I can say is she means the world to me. That in mind please read on

 

 

1 year ago after a wonderful evening I got up out of bed to use the bathroom, I came out only to meet my fully dressed girlfriend in the hall way. I asked her where she was going and she didn't answer. I followed her to her car asking what was wrong, and she wouldn't answer. Finally right b4 she drove away she said that she found something in my room and she never wanted to see me again. To my surprise when I returned to the room I found a black Bra(not hers) in my bed. Now after reading someone else post I doubt anyone will believe me, but I know I never cheated, so anyone can say what they are gonna say, anyways I swore to her up and down it wasn't mine, I even went as far as to call my EX(whom i no longer talk to) and asked her if maybe it was from her and I dated(it was her cup size anyways) she had a tab on all her bras and said no. Now i was dumbfounded, maybe somehow it was my room mates mom's bra mixed in with his laundry(yes she does his Laundry 2 times aweek) but that wasn't the case. Now I don't know how she could tell but, after looking at the bra, Roomies mom surmised that Nobody had ever even worn the bra because it still had tags in a spot that would be uncomfortable. I have an a very busy schedule, and if I am not with her I am at one of my two jobs, and most of the time I am on the phone with her when I am away from her. She did not believe me that I never cheated on her for almost a month b4 she finally said she didn't really think I was cheating on her, and it was only after most of my female friends told her she was crazy if she thought I would cheat on her, and when I got mad that she didn't believe me and told I wanted to break up, she changed her tune and apoligized for months. Ok here is my problem since this whole experince she has accussed me several times of cheating, even though I see her everyday, and when we are not together, I am usally on the phone with her. If by chance I am taking a nap, or didn't hear the phone, she freaks out, and says I am cheating on her. I know she was cheated on in the past (over ten years ago) and I also know that they guy that cheated on her, also cheated with her agaisnt his girlfriend. I know this happened quite often b4 her and I got together. So does all of this explain her lack of trust with me? and Am I out of line complaining about it here? Does anyone think she wikll ever get over it? or does she believe that I am cheating on her?

[MelodyJ]

Well, I'm not the best one to give you advice, but you will get plenty from this place, the people here are petty cool and have lots of good thoughts. But I have to ask, what would you do if you found a pair of boxers in her bed? And, did you ever find out where the black bra came from because you skipped over it and that is a big part of the story. Just curious.

[tattoomytoe]

maybe if it is your roomy's mom's .....ask him or the mom to tell her so.

[Soul Doubt]

sorry bout that.. No we never found out. I called any girl I knew who's cup sie it matched. F***I even asked my mom, Like it was mixed in the sheets or something. which was embarrassing as well as foul to have to explain why i was asking. And I thought about it, and she even askd me"what I would do if I found something like that in her bed." I would ask ask her not just run away and not expect her phone calls. I have been cheated on twice b4( not by her) so I know how it feels, but I never gave her any reason not to trust me. When she asked me about it, and I told her I had no idea where it came from, she called me a liar. Which is something that I hate, so again except for white lies like "this burnt dry steak is amazing" I never lied to her, I couldn't . I have not had many lasting relationships, and I am not gonna jepordize another by lying thru my teeth to her. My room mate went so far as to try and talk to her at the time but she wasn't hearing it. Oh and just so you all know if I did cheat on my girl, my roomie would be on the phone with my girl b4 I finished, just how he is and i respect him for it.

 

I guess I am just wondering why she constanly thinks I am cheating on her, when everyone who knows me will tell her that I would shoot myself b4 I did it.

[supermom]

I feel that your girlfriend has some insecurities about this relationship, or else she wouldn't of freaked like that, and still accuse you. You need to explain to her that you didn't cheat and that she just has to accept it or move on.

[tattoomytoe]

ok, although it is unfair to you...or any other innocent man she may meet...since she has been hurt previously, she more than likely is ust protecting herself from getting hurt again. Sure, it may not have been your fault or any action by you....but the fact that she thinks something is or maybe upHer wall has gone up, and you may not be able to do anything about it.

 

and this is no fault of your own...it is her not being able to let go of her past, and Her Own Biases that will ruin dudes for her.

 

but it sucks that you have to be unfairly judged by the actions of other guys.

[EnigmaXOXO]

Arg! Tattoo beat me to it!

 

I was also going to ask if your roomie was another guy.

 

What are the chances it may belong to his girlfriend (or someone else he had over in YOUR room), and he isn't fessing up either out of embarrassment or because his mom is now playing the underwear detective. Maybe he's a closet cross dresser?

 

Since the Victoria's Secret Fairy isn't in the habit of dropping off free samples - someone in that house is lying their ars off. Hope it isn't you! The only other plausible explanation I can come up with is that someone might be up to no good and did it as a joke, or may have pulled the stunt to cause a rift between you two.

 

Unfortunately, you've been left holding the smoking gun and it will be near impossible to prove your innocence unless you get to the bottom of this. Even if she wants to believe you, there will always be a shadow of doubt. Can't blame her there, I'd be looking at you sideways, too.

 

This is terrible. Just terrible.

[Soul Doubt]

At the time I had two room mates...One who i grew up with and some guy and My Current Roomies band. The Guy I grew up with and my current Roomie are the same guy. 9/10 he is with me for we have similar interests outaside of work, and you could say in a way he works for me...my other room mate now was dating my current room mates sister(confused yet?) My current roomie is lookig at trees longingly lately, and was a year ago. So he was usally with me, and would have no time to get into my room, let alone through the Lock I have on my door, Only My girl and I have keys to it. What I can't figure out is I said we spent a wonderful evening together...that was spent in my room, and she told me she found the Bra underneath a pillow...how would we not see it earlier? And I had changed my sheets the day b4 and saw no Bra...This is still bothering me mostly because I don't know where it came from, and the women that looked at said there was no way anyone could have even worn it to begin with...So WTF???

[tattoomytoe]

tell her it was yours and you were too embarressed to tell her.

 

but if you do not know how it got there, i sure as hell don't......unless it's black-bra mail!

[EnigmaXOXO]

Under the pillow, huh?

 

And by tags...do you mean the 'price tags' were still attached?

 

Hmmmmm....I don't know, friend, but if that's the case, I smell a rat.

[savethedrama4allama]

Okay if I found a bra in my man's bed that would be it for me too. Unless the tags were still attached...then I'd be thinking foul play or perhaps someone set a shopping bag on his bed. I don't know, but it looks awfully bad.

 

Food for thought: would you consider paying for a lithograph (lie detector test)? If she means that much to you, and she wants to work it out but doesn't believe you...I think you can get them done for about $200. Tell her you can split the fee in half if you pass and you pay the full amount if you're found "guilty."

[Soul Doubt]

Well I am not exactly loaded enough to pay for a test, but i would take one, and I told her the same..

 

As for the tags...it was the plastic part that the paper tag would be attached to, and it would have been right at the swell of the breast. there was no Price tag or anything like that on it, but like I said 3 Different women said that it would hurt like hell (to much so) to wear. When i told her that I asked around about it, and when I said it didn't make sense to me or anyone else she was angry that I asked about it, because she felt it was a private matter. For a time I thought She planted it there, I even confronted her about it, and she was so insulted i still feel bad.

 

 

But all that Aside... I have a question about cheaters, and this kinda ties into what I have been talking about. One person I talked to when I was trying to find the Boobs for that Bra. They asked if she was ever a cheater. I said that she said she never cheat6ed Except that she slept with a guy for 2 years knowing he was cheating on his girlfriend, and my friend told me that she could be cheating on me and felt Guilty about it, and she(my friend) thinks that is what is going on, Mostly cause since last year I have been accused of cheating several times. Does this make sense, and i am just to ignorant to realize it, or admit to it? Does that make her a cheater?

[savethedrama4allama]

How big are the boobs in question here? Bra size please?

 

I dunno- I guess she could have planted it in an effort to have an easy way out, but I can't see why she'd waste money on a new bra to do so. Seems fishy to me. And yeah, any plastic pieces would be very uncomfortable there.

[Soul Doubt]

the bra was a 34 b and she is a 36C. I kinda like bigger boobs

[savethedrama4allama]

OMG it was my bra!

 

Just kidding.

[Soul Doubt]

LOL that would solve it but then I think I would be in trouble

[tiki]

Haha llama.

 

I think the girlfriend planted it. To try and get you to admit to something. Either way, she's freaky insecure. Wake up!!! You're cheating on me!!!! - God, I can hear it now.

[Soul Doubt]

I know she is insecure. I have tried to talk to her about. But she says it's my fault Cause I said alyssa Milano is Hot. She says that my roommates subscription to MAXIM makes her feel insecure. About the only time she sounds secure is when she talks about her past. Which like I've said b4 had nothing to do with me, I hate hearing about her sleeping with the guy who had a girl friend. she almost sounds as if she has pride that she was cheating with someone. but then she says it's not cheating because she was single...I don't know any input on this on???

[tattoomytoe]

umm.....she has issues...and not just magazines!

does not trust you, does not really feel great about herself.

 

i would take this time to chill with out her. has she tried calling you or anything?

[savethedrama4allama]

I have to admit that telling me Alyssa Milano is hot or reading Maxim wouldn't make me feel so great either. Part insecurity, part respect.

[tattoomytoe]

not saying it makes me feel super sexy either, but these women are airbrushed multi-$$$$ sexy stars...that is why they are on the cover. i am sure if i were on the cover I would look just as good Too.

[savethedrama4allama]

Very true fourtoes, I agree completely. But I think that some men don't get that models are so altered and perfected. I can't compare to that in the flesh. Why look at it if its fake? Its a mystery. But not so myserious as the random bra-in-bed!

[oannamarie]

I have to agree. I think your girlfriend planted it. I think she planted it because she wanted out of the relationship but couldnt tell you so she mad it look like you were the bad one so she wouldnt feel guilty about leaving. Why would it still have tags on it?

[tattoomytoe]

But not so myserious as the random bra-in-bed!

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Agreed. This is quite a case, Soul, you are lucky that Llama is here to over see this.

[tiki]

Did the bra look worn? Ya know, mine's all tattered and has fuzz balls and sh*t.