Author Star Gazer Posted August 23, 2013 Author Share Posted August 23, 2013 You have a trend of keeping the company of unsavory men yet you see no fault on your part in this? Explain to me how I've "kept the company" of these men. Explain it. Link to post Share on other sites
snowflakes88 Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 Girl, please. I'm "hating" because I disagree with you? I see you responding to his inappropriate messages at all as encouraging continued communication. You (somehow) don't. You're entitled to your opinion, as I am to mine. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Star Gazer Posted August 23, 2013 Author Share Posted August 23, 2013 Sorry, but I'm not allowing either of you to BLAME ME for being on the receiving end of totally unsolicited sexual messages and pictures that come out of effing nowhere. Nice try. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Knoxpwns Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 I'd like to do a poll on how many guys have taken a picture of their dick and presented it to a woman who they barely met briefly and haven't spoken to in 2 months. I'm going to assume the majority is highly skewed in favor of "I haven't done that". Could it be possible that the type of guy you are attracted to is more likely to have a mindset like that? Link to post Share on other sites
snowflakes88 Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 Blocking AFTER receipt (which costs money, not gonna pay for that) does not prevent it from happening in the first place, which *is* my complaint - that they go there AT ALL, EVER, IN THE FIRST PLACE. Mr. Number is just one of numerous absolutely free apps that allows for blocking text messages and/or sending designated calls directly to VM. And sure, it's annoying that some guys go there in the first place, but not much you can do about that. I understand that that is your complaint, but again - I think responding to that kind of crap is wholly inconsistent with the notion of finding it such an affront. Sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Star Gazer Posted August 23, 2013 Author Share Posted August 23, 2013 I'd like to do a poll on how many guys have taken a picture of their dick and presented it to a woman who they barely met briefly and haven't spoken to in 2 months. I'm going to assume the majority is highly skewed in favor of "I haven't done that". Could it be possible that the type of guy you are attracted to is more likely to have a mindset like that? That are that sexually aggressive? No. If that were the case, this wouldn't be such a recent phenomenon; and it is recent. (I've had guys get innuendo-y in the past, long ago... but this has been a recent rash of really aggressive/forward sexual stuff.) I polled my guy friends when I received those cock shots, and they were of two extremes. The either said something like, "That's serial-killery weird, don't ever respond or talk to that guy again!!" or on the other extreme, "Eh, guys are visual. No big deal, I do it." And that was from guys who are outwardly pretty conservative, just like the guy who sent them! Egads! No middle ground, even from the guys. Link to post Share on other sites
snowflakes88 Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 Glad to see it's not just me. No, you can't control the initial pervy message, but you waive your right to complain if/when you indulge it. Quoted since it's being "missed." Link to post Share on other sites
Knoxpwns Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 That are that sexually aggressive? No. If that were the case, this wouldn't be such a recent phenomenon; and it is recent. (I've had guys get innuendo-y in the past, long ago... but this has been a recent rash of really aggressive/forward sexual stuff.) I polled my guy friends when I received those cock shots, and they were of two extremes. The either said something like, "That's serial-killery weird, don't ever respond or talk to that guy again!!" or on the other extreme, "Eh, guys are visual. No big deal, I do it." And that was from guys who are outwardly pretty conservative, just like the guy who sent them! Egads! No middle ground, even from the guys. Would you prefer if we all just cut to the chase and agree that 50% of men are sexual miscreants and womanizers, and the other 50% are sexless monks? Is the point here for us to all agree that all men keep a catalogue of penis pics to bring out based on the woman and situation? I mean, frankly, this entire thread just seemed like a generalized, judgemental "lets get together and hate males" topic. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Star Gazer Posted August 23, 2013 Author Share Posted August 23, 2013 Would you prefer if we all just cut to the chase and agree that 50% of men are sexual miscreants and womanizers, and the other 50% are sexless monks? Is the point here for us to all agree that all men keep a catalogue of penis pics to bring out based on the woman and situation? I mean, frankly, this entire thread just seemed like a generalized, judgemental "lets get together and hate males" topic. Sorry you see it that way. I love men. I just don't like this breed of pervy men, and it seems like this breed is all that's left. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Star Gazer Posted August 23, 2013 Author Share Posted August 23, 2013 (edited) Were any of these randomly unsolicited messages? It seems they had your number if they were texting you. You should have been able to pick up on who they were before this since you spent time with them. This is ridiculous. Because he had my phone number, it's now my fault?? Before ever giving my number, I should have known that two months after seeing him and after two months of silence, he'd sext me in the middle of the night? Or that after one great date where he was a complete gentleman, another guy would send me nude selfies? Get real, guy. I'm not going to respond to your bait, sorry. Edited August 23, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 4 Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 Perves abound alright!! If it helps, I have noticed the same thing. It's surprising to me when guys don't turn sexual early on these days. I am actually talking to a guy now and he's not made things sexual at all, and I'm starting to wonder if he just isn't interested. How f*cked up is that? Blanket statement and chicken and egg. There are plenty of respectful men out there. Men are taught to move fast for a reason! Link to post Share on other sites
Lani Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 Chalk me up as someone not understanding why this is Star's fault. Still, playing the "blame the woman" game seems like almost a national pastime around these parts. Don't get me wrong, I partake in plenty of sexual innuendo, but it is usually at the persons expense rather than being suggestive. Let me explain that, because it doesn't sound good on the face of it. At work the other day, a female colleague needed to use her ruler, but couldn't find it. Giving up, she held up a finger on either hand and said to me "Does this look like six inches to you?" All I did, in a very mischievous manner was to say "I beg your pardon." She went bright red and laughed until she cried. Sexual innuendo, but as a tease, a pun. Not as an aggressive come on. See, I'm all up for this sort of thing. It's just when things get explicit after a first meeting, or texting for a couple of days. Perhaps it's a vibe I give off without realizing, I can't deny that. I dunno. This thread got out of hand. I think it was initially meant as a lighthearted rant and some took it too far. As per LS rules I guess. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 Chalk me up as someone not understanding why this is Star's fault. Still, playing the "blame the woman" game seems like almost a national pastime around these parts. I disagrees with her about no kiss guy being indifferent but I don't blame her for feeling frustrated abouteeting pervs. I guess it's one of those it comes with the territory things with OLD. I can somewhat relate to her about the extreme ends of the spectrum and hard to find someone "balanced". In my dating experience it seems like most women fall into controlling or too passive. It seems haed to find a woman who's not a pushover but NOT controlling. Could be the type of women I attract but it's my exp. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Knoxpwns Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 Chalk me up as someone not understanding why this is Star's fault. Still, playing the "blame the woman" game seems like almost a national pastime around these parts. Honestly I don't think its a blame game, just her unwavering mentality of "All men are pigs based on the [#] out of some 3.5 billion men in the world I have dated" I mean, I can't think of anything left to say other than this; Not all guys are ****ty, and I think you know that just as well as I know not all women are ****ty. I'm genuinely sorry you're having kinda crap luck with dudes right now, surely it happens to the best of em. Don't give up on guys yet, I promise you not all of us are *******s. I would be uncomfortable having a picture of my dick anywhere, more or less on the way to the phone of someone I barely know. To each their own, but to be honest it sounds like you're getting wrangled up with a bunch of meatheaded manchildren. I would wager I was more mature than that with relationships even when I was 17, moreover 30 something. Keep your chin up, head down, and if you get another dick pic just delete/ignore it. any response is a good response, for some people, I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 The next morning, I responded: Why? ...... 8 Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 I hadn't heard from him in two months when I was awoken by the sexts. As for Mr. Cock Shot, I received the pictures on the way home from the first meet/date. It's not like I'm enabling/engaging/encouraging this crap. Can't send cock pics over a cell phone. I tried to with my last GF. Used up way too much bandwidth & brought down the network. Perhaps now that they have 4g? 8 Link to post Share on other sites
jma500 Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 So if they are too sexual, they are perverts, and if they aren't sexual enough, they are boring/dull/probably uninterested. So guys are stuck trying to find this perfect goldilocks area that is going to be different for every person and personality, and if you were even kind enough to not just ignore them outright they have a solid 1-3 day window to nail that exact area spot on, or pretty much their shot with you dies in a fiery oblivion. and then women ask why there are no good guys left. Yeah, I got this impression too. Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 You wonder why I'm single? This is why. This is precisely why. I go from one extreme (unsolicited cock shots) to the other (hug at the end of the second date, with no innuendo ever). I'm hoping the pendulum will eventually settle somewhere in the middle. Are you sure you aren't giving off some negative, non-sexual energy these guys are sensing and giving up over? All they know what to do with you is send a cock pic or not make any move whatsoever? I remember when you had that super tiny pic of yourself and you seemed very attractive, so it's weird if guys aren't putting the moves on you on a regular basis in order to advance things into the bedroom. It's gotta be something you're giving off if the result is the same so frequently. At least that's been the case with every woman I've met in RL that was stuck in your situation. You also seem to talk about dating and your dates a whole lot, much more than most other people, which reminds me of a gay guy overcompensating by talking about how he hates gay people a lot. Are you sure at your core you really want a guy right now and aren't just going through the whole dating process because you feel obligated to it? For whatever reason? Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 (edited) I've been through all scenarios while dating just for a few months after being in a relationship/marriage for 20 years and never dating.I've experienced similar situations and similar men. I handled them better or worse, mostly worse, but it was all a learning experience. Now I'm in a relationship, but if it doesn't work out, and I'll go on the market again, I'll know exactly what to do in every situation. These guys "abound", yes. I've had them and indeed, the last "perv" kept texting me up to 2 or three weeks ago. My problem with all of them, including this one was that I responded. With this one, I told him please stop texting me, it was nice talking to you but now I've met someone blah blah blah blah blah...he didn't stop until I put his number as 'spam' and stopped responding at all. Then he texted me from a different number, but I know it was the same guy, I just didn't respond and placed that number as "spam" too in my phone. So if I date again, I'll apply the "rule". If they say anything sexual via email or text early on in the process (before we are actually in a relationship), is delete/not respond/block number/next. Wishing that these guys don't exist is useless. They do. Edited August 23, 2013 by BluEyeL Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 Explain to me how I've "kept the company" of these men. Explain it. Sorry, Star, but now you're keeping company with Blaidd Drwg. Expect pics and texts. You have to be careful of the jackasses. They are everywhere. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 It sounds like you have picked up some of my rejected 'winners'. So sorry (I had NOTHING to do with it)! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 "Who here is a perv?" <raises leg and tentacle> But sending out dick pics is something I've never been able to fathom. Sexy pics of women makes a little more sense, I suppose, but really, f*ck that. I want to see the real thing. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 This goes back to the reality: most "good men" or "gentlemen" are snatched up sometime between their late 20s and early 30s. So what you've got left is what you're encountering. It's like seeing a 20 dollar bill on the street. If it were really a 20, someone would have picked it up a while ago... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SugarLips72 Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 He just wanted to get laid. I would have been shocked too if he texted suddenly after 2 months. Link to post Share on other sites
curlygirl40 Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 You guys are being far too hard on Star with this blame game. Unfortunately, as women, this is what we deal with. Unsolicited. Not asking for it. Even after months of nothing from a guy a naughty text comes and you're pretty sure they got the wrong number but they didn't. Not sure what they are trying to accomplish but it's happened to me also. I had a guy ask me for a picture once and I told him something like 'I'm not that kind of girl' and he still went on to send me a below the belt pic right after. Ummmm, thank you?? Evan Marc Katz even has a whole blog about it. A woman wrote in with a question because this was common with her where completely out of the blue, not asking for it, a guy sends a picture like that. Just goes to show, in my opinion, how much men misunderstand women. Then, like has been mentioned earlier, when I'm so used to dealing with this from men and finally a guy is actually a gentleman, I start to question if they like me or not. When so many women are dealing with this, to imply that she's doing something to ask for it is crazy talk. And are we supposed to block the number of every guy we've gone out with just incase in the future they get horny and decide to send an unsolicited naughty text? Nope. That's on them. It's entertaining anyway, for me. Makes for some good stories. Thanks for posting this Star, at least we all know we're not the only ones who deal with this!! 7 Link to post Share on other sites
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