youaremysunshine Posted August 23, 2013 Share Posted August 23, 2013 I recently posted about having sex with my neighbor and I feel like since then my feelings have been spiraling our of control. I never even thought of him that way untill now and now all these sweet memories are rushing back, him visiting me when I broke my foot, the birthday cake I baked him with salt instead of sugar, him calmly and firmly speaking to my ex about the fact that he hadn't paid his half of the rent in months, all the times I came home from work to find him there, or him showing up when I'm in my pajamas. I would be so embarrassed for him to see me like that. There's probably a thousand more things that I have forgoten, even circumstances of our meeting are lost to me. He gave me a book, Tess of d'ubervilles saying he heroine reminds him of me. Its not totally flattering but spot on, I feel like he has really thought about who I am. Like he knows the real me, which is nothing like him. I dunno I'm just used to these self absorbed guys trust to change me into themselves. Anyway I'm away working and living on a horse camp for girls (cooking for the kids) and I had plans to visit new York city when I'm done but now I just want to go back to my stupid home town and live in my mothers house just so we can be neighbors again. At 27 he still lives at home, he says he will until he finish es hi PhD and gets married. People make fun of him for being a home body and I'm sure that's what attracted him to me, the girl next door so to speak. I know he's looking for a relationship because I saw him on a dating site but have no idea if he considers me suitable. A Link to post Share on other sites
Author youaremysunshine Posted August 23, 2013 Author Share Posted August 23, 2013 It just sucks that going back home is not it my plans Link to post Share on other sites
Author youaremysunshine Posted August 26, 2013 Author Share Posted August 26, 2013 I am going for a short visit to my mothers house this week before I leave for new York. Should I contact him? Link to post Share on other sites
dallet66 Posted August 26, 2013 Share Posted August 26, 2013 Seriously, what have you got to lose, and what have you got to gain? You don't live there, so not like you'll be running into him all the time if it turns out awkwardly. Sounds like a good texting, phone, Skype friend. Life goes by faster than you might think. Link to post Share on other sites
Author youaremysunshine Posted August 27, 2013 Author Share Posted August 27, 2013 We did have a short email exchange initiated by him (see my previous thread "slept with neighbor now what") I'm just not sure if he wants to be with me or anything. I'm terrible at maintaining text or email convos Link to post Share on other sites
Author youaremysunshine Posted August 27, 2013 Author Share Posted August 27, 2013 I can't help but feel like what's the point in engaging him now when I can't get into a relationship with him, it will probably make him like me less Link to post Share on other sites
Author youaremysunshine Posted August 27, 2013 Author Share Posted August 27, 2013 He ended his last correspondence with "good luck, I'm always here" that sounds like the end of the conversation right? I. Link to post Share on other sites
Author youaremysunshine Posted August 29, 2013 Author Share Posted August 29, 2013 He didn't email me back! Link to post Share on other sites
Author youaremysunshine Posted September 4, 2013 Author Share Posted September 4, 2013 He just messaged me back saying I'm unlike any one he has ever met and he'd like to come to Toronto to spend more time with me. But I'm in new York now! !! Gd Link to post Share on other sites
Heart of the Desert Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 (edited) Might as well keep in touch though. You never know what direction life will take. you said "I had plans to visit new York city..." how long are you planing on visiting for? Do you have a clear picture of the direction of your life right now or are you considering many options? Are you going back to toronto after your visit? An hour drive is not that far apart. Edited September 4, 2013 by Heart of the Desert Link to post Share on other sites
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