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[Star Gazer]

I don't think this is a fair comment. I am not looking to get into a relationship with a girl for the sex. If I find an awesome girl that didn't want to have sex until marriage and everything else was great about her I wouldn't hesitate to be in a relationship with her. If you are saying I would want to have sex with her eventually... Yeah, but, all people who aren't asexual are looking to have sex at some point so you can change you line to say "everyone wants to have sex"...

 

Yes, the bold.

 

I was not commenting on WHEN they want it, just that they do... Especially the men who are attracted to Leigh.

[Star Gazer]

If a guy really likes a woman, the fact she put out on the first date will not stop him wanting to see here again. He is a hypocrite if he thinks he has more right to put it about than her anyway

 

Disagree. Having sex too early can make him lose attraction.

[Leigh 87]

women like this make me want to date farm animals....

 

 

 

Whatever dude.

 

100 bucks says you would enjoy being around me.

 

People need to realise that you don't have a good idea of how someone acts based on their online ramblings.

[Emilia]

I think men make up their mind about you pretty quickly as soon as you open your mouth. Whether you sleep with someone early or not does not necessarily make a difference. Though I agree with RR that if you want a relationship, it's a good idea to allow intimacy and trust to build naturally, rather than jump into things.

[Star Gazer]

women like this make me want to date farm animals....

 

Like a sheep? I'm not surprised.

[Star Gazer]

I think men make up their mind about you pretty quickly as soon as you open your mouth. Whether you sleep with someone early or not does not necessarily make a difference. Though I agree with RR that if you want a relationship, it's a good idea to allow intimacy and trust to build naturally, rather than jump into things.

 

Yes. True intimacy isn't formed in a couple hours or days.

[Bluebelle38]

Disagree. Having sex too early can make him lose attraction.

 

On the hand, there are some men that will have incredible mind-blowing sexwith a woman and pursue them.

 

This generalising is pointless. Some will be hypocrites and find it a turn-off, others won't. No point arguing that fact.

[CptSaveAho]

Like a sheep? I'm not surprised.

 

yup, they are sane, tight, dont talk back, or self destruct

[thefooloftheyear]

Disagree. Having sex too early can make him lose attraction.

 

I agree...

 

And I am all man..If she puts out right away, the first thing I think of is that she puts out for every swinging dick that comes along..Its NOT an appealing thought. I, nor anyone else, is THAT special..

 

TFY

[Leigh 87]

Well this is MY thread, and therefore I have decided that yes, I feel that I had sex too early. For ME. MY best friend got lucky in my opinion with her guy.

 

And even he said the fact they did not have sex right away on the first date, gave him more respect for her.

 

They bonked fairly early but still.

 

I have never felt good about myself the times I had one nigh stands. Not that I have done it for a very long period in my life. It made me feel awful though. Very dirty and disgusting.

 

I am not cut out for one night stands or early sex with boys, I now realise.

 

I need things to be simple; to get to know a guy and not throw early sex in.

 

I DO realise that there are guys who do not get perturbed by early sex!

 

I DO know some men, if they are into a girl, will have sex on the first day of meeting them and then keep wanting to see them!

 

It is just not for me; early sex. I can see how it will always put a shadow of doubt in my mind.

 

After how awful I felt about giving myself up to men I was not deeply attached to, I don't think I am cut out for anything but sex within a LTR or with a trusted FWB who respects me as a person such as the lovely one I had.

 

It is strange. I do FWB just fine. Yet with one night stands and early sex I feel bad.

[Babolat]

Nah. I just think this guy and any guy who sleeps with me can see I have substance and have more to offer than sex ya know; I am a nice person to talk to, I am interesting and funny. A very nice girl.

 

Then stop offerring the sex so quick....problem solved.

[Star Gazer]

On the hand, there are some men that will have incredible mind-blowing sexwith a woman and pursue them.

 

This generalising is pointless. Some will be hypocrites and find it a turn-off, others won't. No point arguing that fact.

 

I'll repeat myself since you're not reading: It can't hurt a relationship oriented women to wait more than a day or two before letting a guy enter her. It just can't.

[Leigh 87]

I agree...

 

And I am all man..If she puts out right away, the first thing I think of is that she puts out for every swinging dick that comes along..Its NOT an appealing thought. I, nor anyone else, is THAT special..

 

TFY

 

 

I agree.

 

There are men who would go on to fall hard for and adore a women and want a loving relationship with them after a ONS. Albeit I do find respect and first date sex is sort of a paradox.

 

It happens though.

 

I think I have figured out how I feel about the matter, but I will not assume a guy loses interest BECAUSE of sex.

 

I think it pays to wait still.

[Babolat]

Whatever dude.

 

100 bucks says you would enjoy being around me.

 

People need to realise that you don't have a good idea of how someone acts based on their online ramblings.

 

I would LOVE to be around you, especially since I can have sex with you in 4 days, and all it takes is some smooth talk, dinner and a movie...just sayin'

[Star Gazer]

I would LOVE to be around you, especially since I can have sex with you in 4 days, and all it takes is some smooth talk, dinner and a movie...just sayin'

 

That's mean.

[Leigh 87]

So how soon should I wait the next time with a guy I feel has potential?

 

Which, by the way, I never seek out and never will.

 

Once they call me and we hang out.

 

A month of hanging out and kissing?

 

Perhaps second base and oral after 2 weeks?

 

Fcked it I know. I have never really dated.

 

I only know the general signs of when a man is into you or NOT.

[Babolat]

I agree...

 

And I am all man..If she puts out right away, the first thing I think of is that she puts out for every swinging dick that comes along..Its NOT an appealing thought. I, nor anyone else, is THAT special..

 

TFY

 

Yeah, and how many times have we heard a woman say "I have never done that before". Heck, I met a woman on match.com, drove 5 hours to her door, she opened the door totally naked, we were in bed having sex within 5 mins. And the entire weekend was sex...with some other entertainment thrown in like dinner, a festival, a boat ride, but sex was alwasy during, before or after. She persued me for weeks after that and I simply could not do it...never saw her again.

 

Back to my earlier comment about "it was my choice". Looking back, I should not have done this, though, at the time I probably needed it.

 

I thought I was the man...uh huh...

[Babolat]

I'll repeat myself since you're not reading: It can't hurt a relationship oriented women to wait more than a day or two before letting a guy enter her. It just can't.

 

We talking fingers or penis? Big difference ya know!

 

He only go this fingers in on the first date.....

[Babolat]

That's mean.

I was trying to lighten the mood here...but you are right..I retract...

[Leigh 87]

Well I think he thought he got very lucky. I am 120 lbs with a good body shape and he though I was pretty.

 

He is overweight with acne. But I found him to be adorable. I am not shallow when it comes to men I see potential with. They do not have to be Brad Pitt or eveb gym toned. Not that I am Americas next top model myself, but I am normally better looking than the guys I go for, according to everyone that knows me and many outside perspectives.

 

I do not think he believes he can go out and get a girl like me every weekend, to be perfectly frank.

 

My FWB was much better looking objectively than the current dude and he found me very attractive so I think this guy will probably call me if he knows what is good for him.

 

I know it sounds bad but I am just being honest. I think he very much liked me and he is either just not into calling new girl she meets every day when we were together for 4 days straight, or he got freaked out by the early sez and intensity of our fling.

[Leigh 87]

Yeah, and how many times have we heard a woman say "I have never done that before". Heck, I met a woman on match.com, drove 5 hours to her door, she opened the door totally naked, we were in bed having sex within 5 mins. And the entire weekend was sex...with some other entertainment thrown in like dinner, a festival, a boat ride, but sex was alwasy during, before or after. She persued me for weeks after that and I simply could not do it...never saw her again.

 

Back to my earlier comment about "it was my choice". Looking back, I should not have done this, though, at the time I probably needed it.

 

I thought I was the man...uh huh...

 

 

 

:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

My best friend, and older guy from my home town ( I love around a bit) said a girl did the EXACXT same thing!

 

Except she was spread on his bed like a star fish:lmao:

 

And people think I act crazy (on here):rolleyes:

[Emilia]

I do not think he believes he can go out and get a girl like me every weekend, to be perfectly frank.

A guy won't necessarily appreciate you just because you are better looking than him or his prospects. He needs to get to know you to see whether you mesh.

[Star Gazer]

A true FWB situation is a friend, who knows you well, and you two can enjoy casual sex occasionally and if you're both single.

 

A ONS is some dude who's first impression of you is you fhuck guys that take you home from the bar.

 

Some people can fhuck the first night and fall TRULY in love. And they just *know* that's the right person for them. They are the EXCEPTION to the rule.

 

The RULE is if a guy gets to bone you before he cares about you, youayou're simply reduced to a warm hole with a nice smile who can maybe make a sandwich.

 

Print this out and tape it to your mirror, Leigh.

 

Always operate by the RULE. Don't be a sandwich making warm hole.

[Leigh 87]

A true FWB situation is a friend, who knows you well, and you two can enjoy casual sex occasionally and if you're both single.

 

A ONS is some dude who's first impression of you is you fhuck guys that take you home from the bar.

 

Some people can fhuck the first night and fall TRULY in love. And they just *know* that's the right person for them. They are the EXCEPTION to the rule.

 

The RULE is if a guy gets to bone you before he cares about you, youayou're simply reduced to a warm hole with a nice smile who can maybe make a sandwich.

 

 

Agreed. Except I believe he genuinely thinks I AM amazing. Based on who he came across as, and the quality of girls he normally seems to get. Lacklustre at best. Which I am certainly not:lmao:

 

He could want more from me. Who knows.

[Treasa]

A guy won't necessarily appreciate you just because you are better looking than him or his prospects. He needs to get to know you to see whether you mesh.

 

Yep, like I mentioned yesterday about my cousin. She's in shape and cute and young, and dates these guys that...ugh, let's just say she can do better in every aspect.

 

She falls hard for them, and they STILL dump her. And she's an awesome person and I love her dearly. But she's also sort of messed up and her priorities are out of whack.