Babolat Posted August 28, 2013 Share Posted August 28, 2013 Kathy, I found myself wondering is the reason why Leigh keeps bringing up how "unattractive" her current is and how "attractive" her old FWB is, is because her current's unattractiveness fills a need. I wonder if she really wants to see herself as deep (as opposed to shallow). So the thinking goes, it is all too easy to love someone as or more attractive than you (such as Leigh's FWB) but if you can fall for someone less attractive than you (such as Leigh's current) then you truly are made of special stuff. Especially if you dump someone more attractive (such as the old FWB). So the thinking goes anyway... Leigh I must say, a 26-year-old woman kissing 19-year-old boys.... something about that just seems really off. Most 26-year-old women would just be way ahead in maturity than a 19-year-old and wouldn't be interested. Its not hard for an attractive woman to find guys her own age who would want to kiss her. What is it with these younger guys that appeal to you? Did you discuss w your therapist? I have been wndering why she is not going for the FWB as he sounds perfect for her. No sarcasm there either, being serious. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted August 28, 2013 Share Posted August 28, 2013 Hey, don't be busting on us older guys... 40 and upwards. I love you guys! Link to post Share on other sites
Babolat Posted August 28, 2013 Share Posted August 28, 2013 You're out on a date with him and you're posting to LS? You seem to have zero respect for him. More snot blows out of my nose laughing...really...NEVER take your darn phone with you on a date..unless you HAVE to..soooo unattractive. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted August 28, 2013 Share Posted August 28, 2013 Eh, most people gave SD and Ronnie the thumbs up for dating 20-yo women while being 30+ yo themselves. I'd give Leigh the same courtesy, really - not sure why her being 26 and kissing 19 yo boys is that much of a concern. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted August 28, 2013 Share Posted August 28, 2013 I don't read replies now cos they are by people who don't know me and make incorrect assumptions about who I must be as a person. Many of us *do* know you, Leigh. You have spread yourself out more in your voluminous writings than anyone else on this site. Which is why this thread is so long and why many of us have tried to caution, cajole, guide, and help you. To no avail, it seems... 6 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted August 28, 2013 Share Posted August 28, 2013 Eh, most people gave SD and Ronnie the thumbs up for dating 20-yo women while being 30+ yo themselves. I'd give Leigh the same courtesy, really - not sure why her being 26 and kissing 19 yo boys is that much of a concern. Uhmmm... Forgive me for inferring this.....Most Women mature faster than men...Many "men" under 30 are just figurinmg out how to master the X-box, rather than navigate a life and build a future as a young adult... Remember....30 is the "new" 18 when it comes to guys... TFY 2 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted August 28, 2013 Share Posted August 28, 2013 Uhmmm... Forgive me for inferring this.....Most Women mature faster than men...Many "men" under 30 are just figurinmg out how to master the X-box, rather than navigate a life and build a future as a young adult... Remember....30 is the "new" 18 when it comes to guys... TFY Leigh may well be at the same life stage as a college age guy. And that is a shame about guys, but then again I've heard that 40 is the "new" 20 for women 3 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted August 28, 2013 Share Posted August 28, 2013 So you're finally turning 21!!! Partaaay Not me...I already had my own business and a mortgage when I was only 23.. Thats why I can have my fun now..All my shyt is paid off. I know a lot of 27 year old women, I have many customers in this age range..They have good jobs, make good money and they arent dicking around with 19 year old little boys .. TFY 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Babolat Posted August 28, 2013 Share Posted August 28, 2013 I don't read replies now cos they are by people who don't know me and make incorrect assumptions about who I must be as a person. You are correct, we DON'T know you, never will. That's part of the point to some of the comments on here. You open yourself to opinions by starting a post in a very public forum; like I said earlier, filter out the ones that do and don't help you. You also open yourself to all kinds of different commentors whith all kinds of life experiences similar to, and different than yours. In the end I truly believe EVERYONE on this thread was trying to hlep you, well, because you came here for help. If you go to a bar and spill your guts to the bartender, and he/she offers advice, well, it's kind of like LS. When you go see your therapist do you tell them how bad their advice is? Do you tell them they are wrong? No, you listen, you filter, you walk away with what makes sense to you and you apply it. Same thing here IMHO. And, I am glad you are doing well with the new guy, and, a little grossed out you were on LS whileon the toilet! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted August 28, 2013 Share Posted August 28, 2013 So age doesn't mean maturity or immaturity? It's an individual thing? Tell me moar. Go back to the original post I made on it...I highlighted the words "Many" and "Most"...So, yes, you are correct in your assumption/proclamation. However, I dont think I am going on too weak a limb to suggest the OP is immature...Id say that limb is very strong. TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted August 28, 2013 Author Share Posted August 28, 2013 I don't even know what to say to this. Respecting my date would mean turning off my phone and giving him my full attention. I hope you carry Clorox wipes and hand sanitizer. Um. We were together for hours. I didn't look at my phone once while I was in his presence. Believe me. This boy gets my full attention. Link to post Share on other sites
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