Bf hiding what's on his phone..

[It-is-what-it-is.]

Ah. Ok. Well I'm talking to them as friends since before this anyways. Not because of it. We don't live together but I stay at his house a lot.

It's hard because we're supposed celebrating my birthday in a few days. And my best friend won't hardly talk to me for whatever reason so it's just kinda like, ehh.... :/

 

Ok so you obviously are not as worked up about this.

 

Could your friend know or be involved in his cheating?

 

You should know that he is likely cheating physically too. I do not believe it is just virtual. I also believe that he is going to try to keep both if you.

[tme0]

Ok so you obviously are not as worked up about this.

 

Could your friend know or be involved in his cheating?

 

You should know that he is likely cheating physically too. I do not believe it is just virtual. I also believe that he is going to try to keep both if you.

 

I am worked up over it. I apparently was crying loud enough in the shower that he came to see what's wrong even though I thought I was quiet.

 

No. She never liked talking to him to begin with. She's just gone MIA basically.

[It-is-what-it-is.]

I am worked up over it. I apparently was crying loud enough in the shower that he came to see what's wrong even though I thought I was quiet.

 

No. She never liked talking to him to begin with. She's just gone MIA basically.

 

So you have your own place, but you are still with him at his place even though he is cheating?

 

He knows you are upset but is unremorseful?

 

Why don't you go home alone. Go NC and assess your future?

[tme0]

So you have your own place, but you are still with him at his place even though he is cheating?

 

He knows you are upset but is unremorseful?

 

Why don't you go home alone. Go NC and assess your future?

 

He's not apologized But he keeps Rubbing and kissing me and asking if I'm ok.

I'm not leaving tonight it's late And a long drive home.

[It-is-what-it-is.]

He's not apologized But he keeps Rubbing and kissing me and asking if I'm ok.

I'm not leaving tonight it's late And a long drive home.

 

So you are not ok...but I assume you are not discussing breaking up?

 

 

Why not.

[tme0]

So you are not ok...but I assume you are not discussing breaking up?

 

 

Why not.

 

I will. I've kind of had a bit to drink, so I don't feel like having an intense convo right now.

[It-is-what-it-is.]

I will. I've kind of had a bit to drink, so I don't feel like having an intense convo right now.

 

Okay.

 

Good luck.

[Nik1]

Never mind, it would have worked earlier.

Edited August 25, 2013 by Nik1

[veggirl]

How old are you two? You sound very young and insecure.

 

I mean you want to make him realize that SEXTING other girls is wrong?!

 

Honest question, is your boyfriend mentally retarded?

 

Because, if not, there is no reason a man in a relationship would HONESTLY think that those actions are okay

 

Why are you being PURPOSELY blind and obtuse. You KNOW he knows he is wrong. Come onnnnn. He is a pig, and a cheater. You have little to no self respect and want to win over a cheater?!!!! for what??

 

seriously, do you REALLY think your boyfriend is such a f.ucking mental midget that he doesnt know sexting multiple other women is wrong? you need to somehow trick a man in a relationship into realizing that? really?

 

you are full of excuses. his actions are inexcusable!!! He will continue cheating because you let him!

[tme0]

How old are you two? You sound very young and insecure.

 

I mean you want to make him realize that SEXTING other girls is wrong?!

 

Honest question, is your boyfriend mentally retarded?

 

seriously, do you REALLY think your boyfriend is such a f.ucking mental midget that he doesnt know sexting multiple other women is wrong? you need to somehow trick a man in a relationship into realizing that? really?

 

He's mid 20's I'm a little younger. He is normal.. however he does have a veey unique way of thinking I've not encountered before. His silence afterbi confronted him about it, along with changing the focus to my sexual tendencies shows me that yes he knows he's wrong. He just wants to justify his actions and get away with it.

[It-is-what-it-is.]

He's mid 20's I'm a little younger. He is normal.. however he does have a veey unique way of thinking I've not encountered before. His silence afterbi confronted him about it, along with changing the focus to my sexual tendencies shows me that yes he knows he's wrong. He just wants to justify his actions and get away with it.

 

So far you are accepting it, so he is getting away with it.

 

Thing is...this is who he is...take it or leave it, dont expect him to change.

 

Have respect enough for yourself to walk away from someone who is like this, who treats relationships like this, and who does not respect you.

[NomiMalone]

Holy f***. Get away from him. Do not pass go, do not collect $200. Go NC. Do you have family or close friends you can confide in? Because now is the time to get some support.

 

There are many, many decent guys out there who DON'T do that s****.

[Betterthanthis13]

Silence for about two minutes. Then he said what I said, that he feels like I'm not attracted sexually to him lately. And he gave examples. Like how a little prior we were looking at pics on tumblr. Sexy pics. Mainly of girls. He asked if I liked the pucs and I said not really. I don't like looking at sex pics. Doesn't mean I don't like sex. It makes me feel uncomfortable. Porn too. He said I've not initiated sexy texts with him recently. I have. I got my phone out and showed all the Recent sexy texts I've sent him. Eventually I was like, why are we discussing this right now...it's a topic for another conversation. He said it was relevant. I've yet to figure out how. He said she gets off that way. That there's no one else and that's the out there their convo has gone. It's not his job to be getting other girls off. I know he likes srx and talking about it. Ok. Fine. But there's a line you dont cross..

 

A couple weeks ago we had another of these when I found a text to a woman 20+ years older whom he asked for a pic of her plessuring herself. (She refused but that's beside the point) that turned into being about things I don't do to for some reason...

You know as much as has happened now.

I just want to know how to articulate it so he sees it from my eyes. That it's wrong. That you don't do that.

 

He already knows its wrong. He already knows you "don't do that". He is not stupid.

 

You don't have to articulate anything because there is nothing for him to learn. He already understands 100% What he's doing is manipulating you by avoiding the topic and trying to confuse you.

 

He wants you to drop it, and stay with him anyway. He won't even mind if you complain about his behavior, as long as you stay with him and he can still sneak around and do it.

 

The only way to let him know his behavior is not acceptable to you is to leave him. Tell him his behavior is unnaceptable , then Dump him and go NC. Become a ghost. That is the only way. Anything less than that and you are allowing his behavior, by not leaving. Doesn't matter how much you explain it to him or how much he knows he is hurting you. He knew it was hurting you when he did it. He did it anyway. Because he wanted to. Because he figured if you found out, he could talk his way out of it and blame you. It was worth the risk to him. He is manipulating you.