Is it too late to tell him how I feel?

[Ronen]

Hi everyone...

 

My boyfriend broke up with me almost 9 months ago. It still hurts. We've had contact once and awhile and about 5 or 6 months ago he told me he still had feelings for me, but that he was confused. I chose to cut contact at that point because I couldn't just wait around while HE figured out what HE wanted. He emailed me a couple weeks ago and I didn't respond back for 2 weeks. Lately he's been on my mind a lot. I miss him and it's hurting all over again. I want to see him and tell him that I miss him. I don't know if he's seeing anyone or in a relationship? He very well could be! Is it ever too late to tell someone how you truly feel. Do you think I should?? We haven't spoken in over a month. We rarely have contact. Buy yet I still feel he's the one for me and I never wanted things to end. What should I do??? Let him go? Or spill my true feelings?

[Pocky]

Contact him and see if he's open to getting together. If he declines the offer, then I think it's best to keep your feelings to yourself as it would indicate he has no interest in talking to you. If he accepts, then I would proceed with caution, but I wouldn't instantly discount the possibility of sharing your feelings. See how the get together progressed and watch how he responds to you. You'll be able to tell by his body language if he is being aloof. If so, then your feelings are probably best kept to yourself. If he appears to be open to discussion and doesn't shy away from emotional issues, then I'd tell him.

[seductress989]

Although I totally agree with Pocky's post, I have to tell you it's not always the best idea. I'm in a situation somewhat similiar to yours except I'm the dumper. We have been broken up 5 months now and I iniated NC in September and have stuck with it. I asked my ex for another chance a couple of months ago and he flat out rejected me. I made a complete fool of myself and I feel like I could never forgive myself for acting and looking so desperate. The only reason I asked for another chance is b/c we were still seeing each other as friends and he was bascially leading me on. I was deeply hurt and scarred by his rejection. I was angry and I felt like "getting revenge" on him would make me feel better. In the end, I did get revenge, but I hurt him so much and it wasn't worth it. They say, "you always hurt the ones you love" and that's totally true in my situation. I didn't mean to hurt him like I did,but he hurt me in our vicious cycle of tainted love.

 

If you are willing to take the risk of being rejected or possibly accepted, who knows? Then take it, but don't expect anything and you'll be much better off. It is not too late if he loves you and has matured. Since he did send you an email, I would say go ahead and contact him. Just be careful and don't hurt yourself anymore than you have to in the process. Keep us posted.