is no contact for the best? i miss her

[DownNtOut]

we split up 11 months back,had been together for a year.

we met up at least once a month since the break up to go cinema,theatre and for coffees. we chatted about how our work was goin etc. we wud only meet up by ourselves.

 

i poured my heart out to my exgirlfriend last week. I told her i loved her and only wanted to be with her. She began to cry and told me another ex (from 4 years back) was looking to be with her again. She told me she needed time to think as she wasnt ready. i said that was ok that if i didnt hear from her, that i wud know.

she apoligised for sleeping with me 3 weeks ago.

(It felt to me like it wasnt a '****' it was tender. she stayed in bed with me till lunchtime, holding each other and kissing) It really mixed me up.

 

 

She text me 2 days after i spilled my guts to her. and said she had gone to dinner with the other ex again and decided to try going out with him for a month to see how it goes.

 

she said she didnt want to leave me hanging on. told me i was brave to drive to her town and put myself out there. she said she loved me but only in a 'friendship' 'companionship' way. why did she sleep with me??

also asked questions about my day as if i was gona be fine with answering. like she expected id be ok with friends....

 

 

i text her back and said, 'id miss her. and to take care of herself.'

I have not contacted her since. (over 3 weeks ago now)

i unfriended her on fb and deleted her number.

 

 

 

i guess she understands that im not contacting her.?

its silly but i wonder if shes is angry at me now?

or is she just wrapped up in other ex newness.?

 

she said to me a week before we had sex, 'are you ok with just being friends' 'i wouldnt want to lead you on'

Then she sleeps with me the next week.

[Stilnaught]

Dating your ex on a friendship level is like letting the knife stick in your body after the stabbing: you might be able to live with the pain after a while, but it'll get horrible when some unexpected movement comes along your path, ripping open the entire wound.

 

You didn't mention the breakup reason. What i get from this, is that she doesn't want you because of a few reasons, but still likes everything else about you. Not to say the memories you have. And since you kept talking and going out, you gave her your good sides while she sliced off the bad ones, and stopped being too intimate at times she didn't want it. You became a friend.

 

She may have sex with you, but in the morning, when you're out of her sight, she'll remember the downsides she sees on you, and the emotional pendulum goes the other way.

Work on yourself, and become a better man. The only chance you got after a breakup, is making her notice, and wonder about, the change in you.