My LDR Bf is ignoring me, is it over?

[Danaeliselou]

Me and my Long distance boyfriend have been dating for 4months (thursday). We met in april got together in may and then in july he came up on july 2nd and didnt go home until aug 13.

 

He has been home for 1 week and 3 days now. While he was up here his phone got shut off, and that was the only way i could contact him (still not turned back on). So when he left he said he will use his house phone to call, the day he got home. I never heard anything. I had his email so i been sending him an email, talking as if i normally do (about my day, how is he ect. ect.) But he has yet to reply. He said when he got back he was going camping for a few days, but only a few. Oh and he also has to move into his dorm by sept. 3.

 

My best friend says that i keep making excuses of perhaps why he is not answering me.

Of course we were around each other 24/7 for a month and half and course we had our fights. But we left on a good calm positive note. He said he loved me, we exchanged some things so we could always be with each other. And he was already planning the day he could come back (oct. homecoming) Why would he do so much, and i do so much for him, just for him to go back home (3 hours away) and never speak to me again.

 

I have no other way of contacting him, except email. I dont know much about his friends or family, except what he tells me. We were planning on thanksgiving me coming to his place, and meeting them then.

 

Anyways....I freaking out because he is not replying to me, and i know some guys are heartless and break up with girl by ignoring them and never speaking to them again.

 

I feel i can wait it out, but i rather accept it now, if its going to happen. He honesty really doesnt do much, and should have the time to contact me. And i feel that he is possible of being a coward and doing this, bcuz he wouldnt want to face me.

 

If he is reading my emails, and just ignoring me, what should i say to him in my very last email to him. (im going to wait it out a lil longer first)

[Els]

Have you seen any sort of activity from him online? Facebook etc? Or has he literally disappeared off the face of the earth?

[Danaeliselou]

Have you seen any sort of activity from him online? Facebook etc? Or has he literally disappeared off the face of the earth?

 

he does not do social networking. only email. the only social networking hes ever done was meetme. (how we met) but when we got together he deleted his account (i remember bcuz he asked me why i didnt delete mine yet) I being checking and it still says this user has deleted their account.

 

when we met i asked him about facebook, and stuff and he says he doesnt have time to do all that. he told me only got on meetme on occasion in hopes to find a gf. he found me, and we kiked but with his phone being off he has no access to internet (stupid phone) and when i kik him it says "this users phone has been off for an extended amount of time, when it is turned back on we will make sure to get it to them"

Edited August 25, 2013 by Danaeliselou

[blueoak]

Do you have his phone number? Is email is the only way you can contact him? If it is, I would say, move on girl. I would never date a girl without leaving her my number.

[aussietigerwolf]

this guy sounds very busy to me but.... him giving you no other way to contact him would worry me... my boyfriend and I have many ways of contacting each other and we just live in the same city.

[TMichaels]

How did you meet/get to know this guy?

 

Best,

TMichaels

[ThisGal]

Sounds like he got what he wanted (sex) and he's done. It's a hard pill to swallow but you have to be honest with yourself. Unfortunately, there are a lot of men who will take the time to meet a woman of the internet, pretend like he's interested just to get in her pants. It's pathetic. He stayed with you for over a month, had his fun, went home and decided to disappear. He was too chicken to confront you and be honest about not wanting anything more so he'd rather just not respond to you at all.

 

He has your # .he could call you with someone else's phone if his phone is off, it's really not that complicated. Your friend is correct, you need to stop making excuses for the guy, he's just not interested in anything serious. And he made plans with you to fake the funk, he wanted to make it seem like he was serious when he was making plans to come back in Oct, meet your family for Thanksgiving and he even faked the 'camping trip' so you would think that's why he was not able to write you. Listen, in this day and age it is really too easy to communicate with anyone. He's not stranded on some Island, he's capable of reaching out to you. Like you said, he's a coward.

 

Besides, you should have NEVER allowed a complete stranger (because really, that's what he is until you meet them in person) into your home without knowing all there is to know about him. His home address, not only his address, but a friend or family's address, and not only his phone # but his sibling's # or another relative or friend that's close to him, just in case of an emergency. It's not wise to meet someone and not have this type of information for yourself. Don't do it again. It's foolish.

 

And honestly I don't think you should bother writing him another email. What for?? He's just going to ignore it again. You're only hurting yourself. Don't prolong this, he has already moved on and you should do the same. Take this as a huge lesson learned and move past this. You got taken advantage of. You'll be alright, though. . Don't initiate communication with him. And if he has the audacity to write you out of the blue (which he may, with an excuse at that) then don't respond. Mater of fact, you should just block him now because anything he has to say is pointless. You deserve someone who will respect you and not use you and mislead you. Good luck.

Edited August 30, 2013 by ThisGal