spirit71525 Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 Hi all, My husband and I recently separated and he moved out of the house. We have been unhappy for many years, but have two children. If we didn't have the children, I would have left long ago. I always felt I would stay until the children got older, then divorce. A few months ago, I met someone who made me feel desired again, and although it barely went past friendship, I do have feelings for this person. He cut off contact with me months ago, because I was married and he didn't want to be involved, rightly so. I needed to make my own decisions without someone involved, I believe. However, kissing him has made me "wake up" so to speak that I've been resigning myself to an unhappy life for the next 10+ years if I stay in this marriage, and so I suggested a trial separation with my husband. I'm just not sure I'm thinking so clearly??? The most major un-fixable issue with my husband is that I was never terribly sexual attracted to him as I've been to others in the past.. I sort of settled on that, because he treated me so well. But over the years he became very selfish and wasn't a true partner with me in any sense, our relationship disintegrated, it became a sexless marriage because I stopped sleeping with him. I became dependent on only myself for my emotional needs, but that's not what I thought a marriage should be. Is the sexual thing the deal-breaker on why my marriage couldn't ever work? Any thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
karnak Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 If you're not feeling happy, fulfilled and satisfied in your relationship it's because there's something wrong. And yes, sex is a very importants aspect of a marriage. You're doing great by taking some time for yourself and thinking about your future, with or without your husband. You'll inevitably reach a conclusion. Do that which you think will be the best outcome, regarding yourself, your husband and your children. If you stay in a loveless relationship it will be damaging (in the long run) for all parties involved. Link to post Share on other sites
Scott Thomas Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 Any updates? I presume you've stopped posting here. Link to post Share on other sites
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