Author MrTurk Posted August 25, 2013 Author Share Posted August 25, 2013 Looks can be deceiving. She might take off her shoe scream like a banshee she's not getting enough attention and pierce you with a loud stripper heel lol nah...that usually cost extra 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Divasu Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 I'll show you mine if you show me yours. Okay, but then I get to braid it and put a pink bow on it. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 Well if I was wearing loud boots in that environment I'd try to minimize the noise by standing still rather than continuously walk around, but then I'm not looking for childish attention. Many good public speakers/trainers don't stand still when before a crowd. They engage the audience, in part, by walking occasionally in front of them - they move with purpose. I and all of my colleagues do this every day when speaking to juries. It's unfortunate that you deem that "childish attention seeking." You're dismissing people based on the simplest of things. Link to post Share on other sites
NXS Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 I'm pretty short. It takes me at least 2 steps for every one a tall man has to make- in heels that sounds like clackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclack No matter what I do. Why worry about it? Because some dude might be judging me? Nah ill pass Well if you have to take two steps for every one a tall man makes then it doesn't make any sense to wear high-heels. I know a lot of men like them but I don't, they just look ridiculous and are obviously uncomfortable to wear. I prefer women who wear those slipper type shoes, they're more feminine and adult looking. Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 I've been informed in the past, that we women with large chests, intentionally grow them because we require a lot of attention. I'd like to know how that's possible. I've spent much of my time trying to minimize their impact, so to speak - minimize their appearance, so that they don't stand out. It can be difficult, unless I dress in clothes that are much too big for me, as I used to do. I still don't feel comfortable wearing certain things that other women feel comfortable in: I don't have summer dresses (that I feel comfortable wearing). I should have just worn whatever the hell I wanted, and not let other people's vulgar behaviour get to me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 Well if you have to take two steps for every one a tall man makes then it doesn't make any sense to wear high-heels. I know a lot of men like them but I don't, they just look ridiculous and are obviously uncomfortable to wear. I prefer women who wear those slipper type shoes, they're more feminine and adult looking. I see. You prefer your women to be seen, and not heard. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
StanMusial Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 I'm self conscious about the sound my shoes make when I wear heels in a quiet environment. But I have to walk, and some professional clothes look best with heels. I had a pair of shoes I used to wear to work that suddenly developed a squeak. I mean what the hell. Usually a new pair might squeak a bit until they're broken in but these P.O.S's wore for a year and THEN started squeaking. And where I was at the time, it was a hushed environment with people huddled in their cubes writing code. So when I got up to go to the bathroom or get some water I was walking through the cube maze going SCREE SCRAH SCREE SCRAH SCREE SCHRAH all the way down the hall. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
NXS Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 Many good public speakers/trainers don't stand still when before a crowd. They engage the audience, in part, by walking occasionally in front of them - they move with purpose. I and all of my colleagues do this every day when speaking to juries. It's unfortunate that you deem that "childish attention seeking." You're dismissing people based on the simplest of things. I would assume that a good public speaker/trainer would be professional enough to notice how distracting the clunking of their shoes were making and stop walking around like an idiot. She didn't, she just kept walking around making noise oblivious to the audience. Link to post Share on other sites
NXS Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 I see. You prefer your women to be seen, and not heard. Yes, my ultimate preference is having them tied to the kitchen sink, in their lingerie, with a samwich always to hand. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 I had a pair of shoes I used to wear to work that suddenly developed a squeak. I mean what the hell. Usually a new pair might squeak a bit until they're broken in but these P.O.S's wore for a year and THEN started squeaking. And where I was at the time, it was a hushed environment with people huddled in their cubes writing code. So when I got up to go to the bathroom or get some water I was walking through the cube maze going SCREE SCRAH SCREE SCRAH SCREE SCHRAH all the way down the hall. I have a pair where only one of them squeaks, and only sometimes (totally unpredictable, based on how swollen my feet are that day or something!), and it sounds a little like a fart. Sometimes, I announce as I'm walking down a row of offices or cubes, "It's my shoes!" I wonder if one of the guys is sitting in his office or cube and thinking, "That Star, I know she's wearing that farting shoe to get my attention. Fart, fart, fart. What a childish attention seeker." 3 Link to post Share on other sites
tbf Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 Is he hot? If so, I'm staring like a horn dogette! Link to post Share on other sites
Betterthanthis13 Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 No, it wasn't. I cannot fathom a woman picking a pair of shoes thinking, "These are LOUD! Yessss! THIS is how I will get attention from men! With my annoyingly loud shoes!" C'mon. No. She puts them on and thinks, "Damn, I look good in these." I meant sarcastic by extrapolating that^^^ I figured that's what you meant Link to post Share on other sites
Betterthanthis13 Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 Well if you have to take two steps for every one a tall man makes then it doesn't make any sense to wear high-heels. I know a lot of men like them but I don't, they just look ridiculous and are obviously uncomfortable to wear. I prefer women who wear those slipper type shoes, they're more feminine and adult looking. Can't wear those. I fractured my foot a few years ago and it healed wrong because I didn't get a cast. Weird bump on top of foot- calcified bone. So now my choices are: sneakers with a big piece cut out of them (looks really dumb), flip flops, or strappy heels or flats that don't irritate that part of my foot. Strappy flats are called sandals and are as inappropriate for work as flip flops. How should I proceed with shoes for work and not look "ridiculous" or annoy you with my clackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclack Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 Staring is creepy. I don't stare at people. If I wanna look at you, I do, but I make it subtle, not long, lingering, creepy stares. Link to post Share on other sites
tbf Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 Staring is creepy. I don't stare at people. If I wanna look at you, I do, but I make it subtle, not long, lingering, creepy stares.There's nothing wrong with this! http://cloud.attackofthefanboy.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/laser_beam_eyes.jpg Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 There's nothing wrong with this! http://cloud.attackofthefanboy.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/laser_beam_eyes.jpg Link to post Share on other sites
NXS Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 Can't wear those. I fractured my foot a few years ago and it healed wrong because I didn't get a cast. Weird bump on top of foot- calcified bone. So now my choices are: sneakers with a big piece cut out of them (looks really dumb), flip flops, or strappy heels or flats that don't irritate that part of my foot. Strappy flats are called sandals and are as inappropriate for work as flip flops. How should I proceed with shoes for work and not look "ridiculous" or annoy you with my clackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclackclack I'm sorry to hear about your foot it must be a nightmare trying to find appropriate footwear. I should probably be the last man you would take advise on about shoes, not liking high-heels makes me an outlier. But if you're going to wear them then don't use them as an inappropriate distraction. Link to post Share on other sites
Betterthanthis13 Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 I'm sorry to hear about your foot it must be a nightmare trying to find appropriate footwear. I should probably be the last man you would take advise on about shoes, not liking high-heels makes me an outlier. But if you're going to wear them then don't use them as an inappropriate distraction. That's kind of my point- I don't wear them as an inappropriate distraction and I've never heard of someone who did (except strippers) They are just shoes Some women love shoes--- some men love fantasy football-- Fantasy football annoys me- but--- I have never once thought that men participate in fantasy football specificaly to annoy me or women in general Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 Are we talking about professional work environments? As a professional woman, I'm thinking about work at work. Sure, I like to look good while doing it. Looking put together gives me a confidence boost, but my mind is on my work, not distracting others with my shoes. I assume the vast majority of professional women are the same. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NXS Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 That's kind of my point- I don't wear them as an inappropriate distraction and I've never heard of someone who did (except strippers) They are just shoes Some women love shoes--- some men love fantasy football-- Fantasy football annoys me- but--- I have never once thought that men participate in fantasy football specificaly to annoy me or women in general Well I don't work with strippers but I do work with some women who dress for the sole purpose of getting attention. If I turned up for work with a 'wifebeater' shirt on I'm sure there'd be plenty of hostile stares and I'd be accused of being overtly sexual, however these women are the female equivalent but nobody says anything to them. One of them as I've previously posted wears really outlandish clothes, all kinds of clashing bright colours and hats, I sometimes look at her more out of curiosity and then divert my attention straight away and she seems to think I'm attracted to her. Or maybe she doesn't, but it's a bit annoying and just attention seeking. Link to post Share on other sites
Betterthanthis13 Posted August 25, 2013 Share Posted August 25, 2013 Well I don't work with strippers but I do work with some women who dress for the sole purpose of getting attention. If I turned up for work with a 'wifebeater' shirt on I'm sure there'd be plenty of hostile stares and I'd be accused of being overtly sexual, however these women are the female equivalent but nobody says anything to them. One of them as I've previously posted wears really outlandish clothes, all kinds of clashing bright colours and hats, I sometimes look at her more out of curiosity and then divert my attention straight away and she seems to think I'm attracted to her. Or maybe she doesn't, but it's a bit annoying and just attention seeking. I'm not being facetious here- if she is consistently out of line with her wardrobe and acting like an attention seeking man-distraction and you think it is on purpose- I'd say something to HR. that's what they are for. I wouldn't want to work around that either. Link to post Share on other sites
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