Rick1 Posted August 27, 2013 Share Posted August 27, 2013 In no contact mode right now, and I am not going to reach out to my ex girlfriend for a damn thing. What would stir up more curiosity and emotions in her? Keeping my social networks open and continuing to be myself? (I get a lot of attention from girls especially because I am a promoter, and I also post pics on instagram and get hit on by girls too.) Or blocking her on EVERYTHING and making myself invisible to her. What would hurt more? She has deleted twitter, and her FB is private. Not too long ago she made her Instagram private too. You be the judge. We've been broken up for 2 months now but in these 2 months there's been a lot of drama between us, including her dating someone else and us having sex last week while she's with this guy. Now I am in NO CONTACT with her and I want to keep it like that for a while. Link to post Share on other sites
mutant Posted August 27, 2013 Share Posted August 27, 2013 In no contact mode right now, and I am not going to reach out to my ex girlfriend for a damn thing. What would stir up more curiosity and emotions in her? Keeping my social networks open and continuing to be myself? (I get a lot of attention from girls especially because I am a promoter, and I also post pics on instagram and get hit on by girls too.) Or blocking her on EVERYTHING and making myself invisible to her. What would hurt more? She has deleted twitter, and her FB is private. Not too long ago she made her Instagram private too. You be the judge. We've been broken up for 2 months now but in these 2 months there's been a lot of drama between us, including her dating someone else and us having sex last week while she's with this guy. Now I am in NO CONTACT with her and I want to keep it like that for a while. NC includes not stalking her on Instagram, FB, Twitter and whatever else is out there. How do you benefit/Move-on by letting her see you shine? and Btw who dumped the other? Link to post Share on other sites
northdevon Posted August 27, 2013 Share Posted August 27, 2013 It sounds like you want to make her jealous and come back to you? I have considered the same approach, while it might work, it might not. I'd attempt to get over her, and she might see you in a few months and see that you are the self that she fell for, and want you back. This guy is a rebound and it wont work between them. But that's none of your business. Work on you for now. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rick1 Posted August 27, 2013 Author Share Posted August 27, 2013 It was a mutual breakup, but I tried to get her back and it didn't work. He's right, I'm trying to make her jealous and get her back. But you're right, I will work on myself and completely block her out of my life. Thanks for the input. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mummyjonno Posted August 27, 2013 Share Posted August 27, 2013 It sounds like you want to make her jealous and come back to you? I have considered the same approach, while it might work, it might not. I'd attempt to get over her, and she might see you in a few months and see that you are the self that she fell for, and want you back. This guy is a rebound and it wont work between them. But that's none of your business. Work on you for now. I'm with this one!! Someone told me the exact same earlier today. NC is all about YOU. You do YOU and only YOU. You shouldn't care what she can and can't see or what she think's anymore. If your facebook is viewable by everyone right now then leave it alone. If it's private then leave it private. Making her jealous will only make her mad and upset. In turn causing more drama, upset, probably breaking NC and you still won't be together. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted August 27, 2013 Share Posted August 27, 2013 I believe most importantly rather than "hurting" her you should deviate your approach towards something more fulfilling. Keep in mind that everything you do from this point forward is for you. I understand you will like her to acknowledge you shining, however, the objective of this whole process is not to inflict emotions in her but rather indulge in the emotions that you will generate yourself for your own sake. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Angry bird Posted August 27, 2013 Share Posted August 27, 2013 LMAO at this Dude, lol... "should I let her see me shine? Hilarious. NC contact for me was erasing absolutely EVERYTHING! Old emails, old photos, twitter, Facebook, i dont google him anymore. I have not seen the X's face in 4 to 6 weeks. I think about him all the time, but not seeing him really helps the healing process. Do You, sweetie Link to post Share on other sites
nerdlingZA Posted August 27, 2013 Share Posted August 27, 2013 Lol I remember 2months after we broke up I was still pleading & begging - but in your case you tryna make her jealous on facebook , don't block her , I've my Ex on FB(she has a BF) but her BF has a bad reputation so she doesn't really post pics of him&her so its easy for me not to block her & trust me she stalks me I know , so does your Ex , so don't block her let her see u "shine" even if she acts as if she doesn't give a **** if u "shine" better than her it will emotionally unsettle her abit Link to post Share on other sites
bentleychic Posted August 27, 2013 Share Posted August 27, 2013 Act like she doesn't exist and live your life as you would if she didn't exist. Don't make decisions about ANYTHING based on her. Good luck 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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