wife had a pa and I informed husband

[Realist3]

I called his gym to prove a point that I am not lying!

 

Prove a point to whom?

 

"Well, I called his gym and he hasn't been there for...." Do you know how crazy that sounds? It is none of your business. You have been stalking these people.

[wanting more]

Why didn't you go to HR?? Why didn't you talk to her?

 

Why were the BSs at an HR meeting. Why would you get fired?

[Realist3]

I would say the chances of him getting fired are extremely high. You can't cause other workers strife by prying into their personal lives.

 

Secondly, I'm sure he said everything to HR that he said here, which ain't good. If in fact he does have PTSD that is not something that the HR dept. is going to want to keep around especially how it manifested itself in this instance.

[Journee]

So, did an affair of any kind take place or not? I have read this thread but it's went kind of wonky in the facts department.

 

I'm all for people not wasting their lives away with cheating ,lying and self- serving individuals.... but are you sure that the monkey wrench was thrown at the right gears?

[Betterthanthis13]

Why didn't you go to HR?? Why didn't you talk to her?

 

Why were the BSs at an HR meeting. Why would you get fired?

 

Worth reporting this question- it's very odd that the BS's would be present at an HR meeting

[tru]

bs meaning om and ow were waiting outside the hr office. Don't know why they came maybe to see if what I was saying was true or maybe they wanted me fired. Either way I don't trust cheaters they screw around on their spouses and they'll turn on you to.

[Coolit]

Tru, you are using wrong abreviations. OM is the other man meaning dude in affair. same for OW. The Betrayed spouses are BW and BH respectively.

 

But this story has got crazy. Too many holes so I call bs.

 

1. A year to stew but only thought to tell BH.

2. He went to BH home for a work get together... Which means BH knows her work people

3. As someone pointed out, BH sees the pics on her mirror and has now seen OM irl. Ummm, duh?

4. A lot of things are jumbled and being added

5. Okay, as if they would use the mole thing to prove anything. Because anyone with a brain would know OM would lie and say he doesn't know. Or did I misunderstand that part? Frankly the whole thing is too bizarre.

[tru]

I just got back from hr the two lovers were caught on camera kissing in the copyroom the old man who had reported it also gave the date and so when security went over the tape they saw kissing and fondling mma guy/coworker/lover was fired along with his lover. I don't care to comment on what hr said to me because it's irrelevant no I'm not fired. but it still brings me back to the original question why would a guy let his wife put up two pics on his wife's vanity mirror of her coworker/mma guy/lover? how could he not see those pics in his bedroom? Wouldn't that destroy his self esteem? Imagine having sex in front of those pics.

Edited August 29, 2013 by tru

[Betrayed&Stayed]

but it still brings me back to the original question why would a guy let his wife put up to pics on her vanity mirror of her coworker/mma guy? Why how could he not see those pics in his bedroom? Wouldn't that destroy his self esteem? Imagine having sex in front of those pics.

 

I'm glad it all worked out. As far as your question, let me quote Ricky Fitts in the movie American Beauty: "Never underestimate the power of denial".

[Artie Lang]

why would a guy let his wife put up two pics on his wife's vanity mirror of her coworker/mma guy/lover?

 

he might very well be a cuckold.

 

 

f*ck the naysayers who said you were meddling. you did the right thing. people like that should be outed. im glad these two douchebags got the axe, and for the record i would've shot a text to the BS's that said "I told you."

 

furthermore, i would've pressed charges on the wife had she slapped me in front of people like that.

Edited August 29, 2013 by Artie Lang

[tru]

cheaters are bad ppl to have in the work place. They are not honest and humble, fun is more important than fidelity. They're Poor workers constantly shifting blame for having not completed their work and many of them are lazy. No I can't have a cheater alongside me. What drives me crazy is that they try deceive me into believing that those pics were being hung as a collectors item. You see what I mean about humility they think that they're so believable that not only can they con their spouses but that they can con others too.

[wanting more]

You wanted to tell them and you did. They were fired and they'll have to explain that to their BSs.

 

Please stop obsessing over the pics. She, her husband can believe/think whatever they want to about them. It's not your concern now.

[Artie Lang]

agree. there's no room in the workplace for this kind of bull****.

Edited August 29, 2013 by Artie Lang

[tru]

yeah they're gone! Don't have to see them anymore. **** like this bothers me after being with a promiscuous wife and having not knowing any red flags it makes aware that I should develop some defense.

[HopingAgain]

Do these people have kids? These people you had fired? How do you feel about being the one that took food/clothes etc. away from them? You think they can't be trusted, yet you sat for an entire year and plotted this. Wow.

 

Oh, get real! Stop trying to make OP feel guilty for doing the RIGHT thing and following his conscience and values. One thing that many WS and APs often neglect to realize is that natural consequences come as a direct result of their own bad behavior.

[Artie Lang]

you make it seem like this was all the OP's fault. obviously, they weren't thinking of their kids while they were having an affair.

Edited August 29, 2013 by Artie Lang

[tru]

I don't think that the bw had any money to begin with. Yeah I think he's probably a cockhold that makes sense plus his power of denial.

[2sunny]

yeah they're gone! Don't have to see them anymore. **** like this bothers me after being with a promiscuous wife and having not knowing any red flags it makes aware that I should develop some defense.

 

You would help yourself if you deal with the issues YOU have.

 

Are you still with your promiscuous wife?

 

What can you do for yourself to get past your anger?

[2sunny]

I don't think that the bw had any money to begin with. Yeah I think he's probably a cockhold that makes sense plus his power of denial.

 

And this is how you felt with your wife, eh? Work on this FOR YOURSELF.. .

[Artie Lang]

something tells me that she had her suspicions but put it on the backburner, only to have you "slap" her in the face with it- the TRUTH. that's what she's really mad about.

 

 

yup, i say cuckold because no man-- in his right mind --would ever allow another man's picture to grace his bedroom, unless there's a "special" agreement. add to that, her dominant behavior when addressing his presence at that meeting: need i say more.

Edited August 29, 2013 by Artie Lang

[tru]

that's my thinking too that they are into that sort of thing the first time I saw bs/husband he had on a pink shirt.

[Owl]

Don't feed them, they'll starve.

[HopingAgain]

That's right. NATURAL CONSEQUENCES. NOT the consequences this... person, decided upon. This person has NOTHING to do with this, yet felt it perfectly acceptable to get in the middle of someone's life. You've no idea what the situation was. What if it was consensual? What if everyone involved knew? What if they didn't? NOW, he's made things miserable at work too? Where do you get off putting YOUR morals onto someone else??? BUTT OUT.

 

It is still natural consequences because the cheaters own actions and misconduct placed them in a position to be fired. Contrary to the belief of selfish and entitled people" others should not have to suffer just so they can be comfortable. If they knew that getting it on at work could cost them their jobs than I guess they just should have kept it out of the workplace.

[tru]

cheaters are toxic in the work place! Even it was between the two of them, they were fired for cheating on the job.

Edited August 29, 2013 by tru

[BetrayedH]

Do these people have kids? These people you had fired? How do you feel about being the one that took food/clothes etc. away from them? You think they can't be trusted, yet you sat for an entire year and plotted this. Wow.

 

They got themselves fired.