Getting hit on by elderly men

[RedRobin]

My hero!

 

47/29 is not a bad age gap. 60/37 is pushing it. These are M/F age ratios of course; flip that over and everyone would be falling over themselves to praise you and say "You Go!"

Jerry Seinfeld explained marrying a woman 15 years (at least) his junior, that women are more mature and men are more immature, so "we meet around mid 30s".

 

So relax, folks, it's all fun. Have some before you die already.

 

Except it is always the guys pitching these gaps. Not surprisingly

 

Who doesn't want a young piece of *ss who will take care of them in their old age? Sure, I get it. I really haven't the slightest clue what a 29 yr old could possibly see in a 47 year old unless she doesn't have any other options or has some kind of issues herself.

 

So, I'm rather pleased when I see the young ladies telling these guys to shove off. Seriously. What's in it for her?

 

All I can say, is that any old guy who hits on me better bring his *&^%$ credit card and a notary. Even then... I dunno. I'd still rather kill time with some younger guy myself as long as he brings his lunch money

[RedRobin]

Ill take that challenge any day, Fancy pants.:laugh:...

 

 

TFY

 

Really. Well, just for you, I'll up the ante. You have to outclimb me too. Wonder Woman wouldn't have it any other way

[mario_C]

Except it is always the guys pitching these gaps. Not surprisingly

 

Who doesn't want a young piece of *ss who will take care of them in their old age? Sure, I get it. I really haven't the slightest clue what a 29 yr old could possibly see in a 47 year old unless she doesn't have any other options or has some kind of issues herself.

 

So, I'm rather pleased when I see the young ladies telling these guys to shove off. Seriously. What's in it for her?

 

All I can say, is that any old guy who hits on me better bring his *&^%$ credit card and a notary. Even then... I dunno. I'd still rather kill time with some younger guy myself as long as he brings his lunch money

And we were getting along so well.

[thefooloftheyear]

Really. Well, just for you, I'll up the ante. You have to outclimb me too. Wonder Woman wouldn't have it any other way

 

You got it!...Ill even waive the over 45 handicap you were going to give me....we go straight up.

 

TFY

[Babolat]

They aren't hitting on you. They are bored and looking for a free meal. If you want to test that theory, make them pay their half and see if you get subsequent dates.

 

I get much younger men hitting on me too. Most of them I don't take seriously. They are fun to talk to though. If they can run faster than me, I may give one of them a whirl.

 

Anyway, Babs, you seriously don't recognize how much 'mid-life crisis' vibe you give off. There isn't a newly divorced guy your age who hasn't gone through this if he has his own stuff and looks half-way decent.

 

It's not a date in my eyes and she will be paying her 1/2.

 

I am NOT newly divorced, almost 3 years.

 

I am NOT looking for a young chick to date; I prefer woman closer to my age. I did not go looking for her. She texted me and asked if i wanted to have dinner with her. Hey, it's someone to have dinner with, have some good conversation hopefully.

 

I was just being funny here, geez.

[Babolat]

Except it is always the guys pitching these gaps. Not surprisingly

 

Who doesn't want a young piece of *ss who will take care of them in their old age? Sure, I get it. I really haven't the slightest clue what a 29 yr old could possibly see in a 47 year old unless she doesn't have any other options or has some kind of issues herself.

 

So, I'm rather pleased when I see the young ladies telling these guys to shove off. Seriously. What's in it for her?

 

All I can say, is that any old guy who hits on me better bring his *&^%$ credit card and a notary. Even then... I dunno. I'd still rather kill time with some younger guy myself as long as he brings his lunch money

 

I am not looking to marry this girl. It's dinner. Dinner. Dinner. And I did not hit on her, she invited me and I accepted her invitation.

 

She told me she has always been attracted to guys much older than her, so what the heck. I am not doing anything else tonight.

[bentleychic]

Yes, I get it, too. I'm mid 30's. 50 is totally doable to me, though. I don't even raise an eyebrow. 70, though? LOL Mind you, I'm still sweet and kind to them (a must with my job), but that's where it ends.

[Babolat]

I'd still rather kill time with some younger guy myself as long as he brings his lunch money

 

Wait, so I, a man, at 47, accept a dinner invitation from a 29 year old woman and I am going thru a "mid life crisis" and I have issue, etc. yet you, a woman, not sure how old you are, can accpet the same "kill time" from a younger man, and all is good.

 

Hmmmmmm....scratches his chin.....

[bentleychic]

(I get early 20's, too, though. Go figure!)

[Babolat]

I think I will start hanging out at the Senior Living Centers around here, or the malls where they all walk, see if I can get hit on by a 70+ year old hot momma....so I am not going thru a mid life crisis or anything!

 

Love ya RR, you are a little off this time. I get your points though.

[Babolat]

Any other ladies have this problem?

 

I cant get guys my age to talk to me outside OLD. I'm 26.

 

But yet I get this elderly guys hitting on me. For example, I had a 70 year old guy invite me to his assisted living home.

 

The current admirer is 50s/60s. We met at the park. Mind you, no younger guys have given me a second look, or if they have they haven't struck up conversation. He was actually going to dump his gf to date me. Not only did he think I wanted him, but he was gonna make his rebound b!tch. Keep in mind all I did was talk to him a few times, which will probably stop. He did everything to try and get me to his house-wine,foot rub, etc. Even if he was young I wouldn't date him. It looks like he is impulsive and will end a relationship without due cause. If he'll do it for you, he'll do it to you.

 

My grandpa is like this,too. He's 70, saggy, toothless, and hunchback but hits on girls younger than me. He George Burns old but thinks he 30 and sexy.

 

I guess I'm not looking for advice, but I wonder if other girls are going through this?

 

Can anyone say Hugh Hefner?

[Babolat]

Any other ladies have this problem?

 

I cant get guys my age to talk to me outside OLD. I'm 26.

 

But yet I get this elderly guys hitting on me. For example, I had a 70 year old guy invite me to his assisted living home.

 

The current admirer is 50s/60s. We met at the park. Mind you, no younger guys have given me a second look, or if they have they haven't struck up conversation. He was actually going to dump his gf to date me. Not only did he think I wanted him, but he was gonna make his rebound b!tch. Keep in mind all I did was talk to him a few times, which will probably stop. He did everything to try and get me to his house-wine,foot rub, etc. Even if he was young I wouldn't date him. It looks like he is impulsive and will end a relationship without due cause. If he'll do it for you, he'll do it to you.

 

My grandpa is like this,too. He's 70, saggy, toothless, and hunchback but hits on girls younger than me. He George Burns old but thinks he 30 and sexy.

 

I guess I'm not looking for advice, but I wonder if other girls are going through this?

 

I re-read your post. On my first read I assumed this man just hit on you. It sounds like you two met up a few times. is that right? And you are wondering why he is still hitting on you? You will "probably" stop talking to him? Then you comment on how he would end a relationship. Really makes me wonder what the content and context of your talks have been....not judging BTW, just saying.....

 

Boundaries...Boundaries...define them up front.

[carhill]

IIRC, Clint (Eastwood) met his current wife Dina when he was 63 and she was 28, and they've now been married about 17 years. I guess not all elderly men are created equal

[SincereOnlineGuy]

Any other ladies have this problem?

 

I cant get guys my age to talk to me outside OLD. I'm 26.

 

But yet I get this elderly guys hitting on me. For example, I had a 70 year old guy invite me to his assisted living home.

 

The current admirer is 50s/60s. We met at the park. Mind you, no younger guys have given me a second look, or if they have they haven't struck up conversation. He was actually going to dump his gf to date me. Not only did he think I wanted him, but he was gonna make his rebound b!tch. Keep in mind all I did was talk to him a few times, which will probably stop. He did everything to try and get me to his house-wine,foot rub, etc. Even if he was young I wouldn't date him. It looks like he is impulsive and will end a relationship without due cause. If he'll do it for you, he'll do it to you.

 

My grandpa is like this,too. He's 70, saggy, toothless, and hunchback but hits on girls younger than me. He George Burns old but thinks he 30 and sexy.

 

I guess I'm not looking for advice, but I wonder if other girls are going through this?

 

 

 

A study was done in the early 1990's seeking to learn the ideal age of a woman, for dating, as perceived by men.

 

In order to calibrate the answer to all men (instead of just reaching a raw average of all responses - which would be something like "27.349272118")... the answer was: Half a man's own age plus seven years (was the average man's ideal age in a woman he'd like to date).

 

(*** now of course this did NOT take into account what was in (or who was behind) the bra right in front of his eyes while at a bar on a lonely Friday night - this was him, being asked to select a number out of the blue, in answer to a survey)

 

 

So, at 26, it then stands to reason that men 38 are focusing (their bifocals) on you. And if one happens to get attention from groups of 21yo's, she needs a 70yo to help offset those numbers.

[FitChick]

IIRC, Clint (Eastwood) met his current wife Dina when he was 63 and she was 28, and they've now been married about 17 years. I guess not all elderly men are created equal

 

I guess you hadn't heard that they've been separated for a year and she is dating her high school sweetheart.

[carhill]

No I don't keep up with such matters, but that doesn't obviate the reality of their dynamic as germane to this topic. He was an 'old man' hitting on a 28 year old who happened to work at the local TV station near where he was formerly the mayor and it turned into a relationship, marriage and adding some offspring to his substantial brood. Very similar to what is being discussed in this thread, with the exception that the OP's creepy old man isn't Clint, which was the point of my post, in that not all elderly men are created equal and it is the perception of the man which drives the opinion, not the age of the man himself.

[thefooloftheyear]

No I don't keep up with such matters, but that doesn't obviate the reality of their dynamic as germane to this topic. He was an 'old man' hitting on a 28 year old who happened to work at the local TV station near where he was formerly the mayor and it turned into a relationship, marriage and adding some offspring to his substantial brood. Very similar to what is being discussed in this thread, with the exception that the OP's creepy old man isn't Clint, which was the point of my post, in that not all elderly men are created equal and it is the perception of the man which drives the opinion, not the age of the man himself.

 

Meh, take away the money and PLayboy mystique and he is just another dried up old man..Hed be a fool if he didnt take full advantage of it, so I wont fault him there. That type of resume is pretty much the key to the city of scoring little hotties..

 

TFY

[RedRobin]

Wait, so I, a man, at 47, accept a dinner invitation from a 29 year old woman and I am going thru a "mid life crisis" and I have issue, etc. yet you, a woman, not sure how old you are, can accpet the same "kill time" from a younger man, and all is good.

 

Hmmmmmm....scratches his chin.....

 

I'm not dating men young enough to be my kid and saying "Go me!!" Oh, and I believe your 29 year old friend has issues too. It's not all on you.

 

You like being the daddy and the fixer.... so this should work out great for you.

 

but back to the topic... the OP wonders why much older men hit on her.

 

OP, it really comes down to the fact that lots of men can't have healthy relationships with women that don't involve getting their d*cks in them somehow. It's kind of sad, really...

 

That the only way they can validate themselves as men is through the sexual attention of women young enough to be their children.

[RedRobin]

The cloud of aging men's angst is thick like pea soup in here.

 

One thing you have to give women credit for... when they feel old, they get plastic surgery (something they do to their own bodies).

 

When men feel old, they exploit someone else's body and youth... and feel zero guilt about it whatsoever.

[Sanman]

Wow, this is an impressive OP...complaining that men hit on you and don't hit on you all at the same time. It really is not gender biased. Women in nursing homes hit on me all the time. They love chatting up the young doctor. So what if the guy is hitting out you? 99 out of 100 times a guy in his 50/60/70s will strike out. However, that 100th time is all he needs. Women want men to ask them out and chase them, thus these guys are doing just that.

[Radu]

I like RR and her attitude on things.

 

'Everyone who does different than i think they should be doing, has a problem in the head.'

Very democratic, egalitarian, and totally not judgemental.

 

On a serious note RR, now.

I don't know your background, but you have a problem and it's visible in your dedication to the cause of 'all men who date/marry younger women are scum', there is no middle ground, no room for excuse.

And that's as far as i'll go with trying to read into this ... because i'd rather not get reported.

[hotpotato]

I re-read your post. On my first read I assumed this man just hit on you. It sounds like you two met up a few times. is that right? And you are wondering why he is still hitting on you? You will "probably" stop talking to him? Then you comment on how he would end a relationship. Really makes me wonder what the content and context of your talks have been....not judging BTW, just saying.....

 

Boundaries...Boundaries...define them up front.

 

I wouldnt call it meeting up exactly.

 

The guy chases, literally.

 

Like ill be walking minding my own business and listening to music. Then I hear

 

Thump thump thump

 

And some heavy breathinhg.

Its him literally running after me.

 

Then he will park next to me if he can.

 

I was in a similar situation but with a younger guy. He keyed my car when I told him to leave me alone.

 

See what kind of luck I have.

[hotpotato]

Wow, this is an impressive OP...complaining that men hit on you and don't hit on you all at the same time. It really is not gender biased. Women in nursing homes hit on me all the time. They love chatting up the young doctor. So what if the guy is hitting out you? 99 out of 100 times a guy in his 50/60/70s will strike out. However, that 100th time is all he needs. Women want men to ask them out and chase them, thus these guys are doing just that.

 

Its not just hitting on me. He is going to lengtgs to literally chase me, tell me what kind of porn he likes, trying to get me to his house, parking next to me when there are plenty of other available parks, implying that he will leave his gf if I say the word,, making comments about my body and how i 'bounce' when I walk...

Edited September 19, 2013 by hotpotato

[hotpotato]

IIRC, Clint (Eastwood) met his current wife Dina when he was 63 and she was 28, and they've now been married about 17 years. I guess not all elderly men are created equal

 

Honestly, they are not. I used to chat online with a guy who was 45 when I was 20. He was 6*3 and buff. He didnt look old at all. He looked like he was in his 30s just more salt and pepper. Very handsome spanish/italian guy. I might have dated him if he didnt live so far away.

 

I guess it would be like saying Kathy Bates and Salma Hayek are not created equal...

[Radu]

I'm 30, and there's a few 60yr old women that i know, who on very little income look movie star good at their ages.

I would deffinitely date them, but not date them seriously long term.

 

The reason is that i want a family, and they are done with that ... forever.

 

I think a major reason for why men look to younger women by default is child bearing.

 

Like i said above, i'm 30 [soon to be 31], but because of horrible life choices i'm nowhere near where i should be at my age. Probably will not be for another 3-4yrs.

And that, is my main reason for looking at girls in their low 20's.

I figure that i have enough time before things get serious and we end up planning for a family to get my life on track.