What do I do about this?

[Zelias]

We met working at a retail store, she worked there for 2 months, and I was already there for 2 years, at first I didn't really care when i saw her, she just looked uninteresting. I overheard that she was leaving for Florida and was studying Law. She went down there because her sister would be there, except she would be a senior, anyway, I asked her if she wanted to hang out for a final time, she agreed and I took her out to a waterfront. It was a beautiful day, and we spent 7 hours together, but things escalated quickly, by that, we were pretty much BF/GF material within a matter of 3 hours. We just hit it off, it was like I've never seen this side of her. We agreed to see each other one more time before she was leaving for Florida and we had serious things to talk about. She's 19, I'm 24, I told her how she felt about me and if she would like to let this relationship go and we start all over again with new people. She answered that she didn't want to, her feelings for me were too strong, she told me she trusted me and would not choose anyone else. She is a very different girl, in which for a 19 year old, she is more mature than most girls her age. Now here is where more of the mess begins, my mother and sister are not fond of me dating a different culture other than Croatian, they want me to only find a Croatian girl. I've been there and done that, those girls are only interested coming to America, nothing more, this girl on the other hand has affection towards me, and I really like her and we connect well. My mother and sister don't want me to date different cultures because the language is not the same, you get the point, carrying on the legacy of dating a Croatian girl. I feel like I'm being crushed here, don't know what to do, my GF is leaving, we will be entering in a long distance relationship, she'll be back for Christmas and next summer, and I have my family hanging on my shoulder saying to pass on this, love is sometimes really hard to pass on, you know. I've been seeing this girl from time to time, I haven't told anyone, except my parents, no one else knows, not even my best friend knows I'm dating someone, because if it gets out, the people I know here will spread this **** like crazy, and believe me it's not good, if you were me, what would you do? continue on with this relationship and see where it goes, let the girl go and listen to the parents, because they only want what is best for you even if you don't agree with them, or this girl is playing you and you should just look for other options while keeping this one at bay?

[Balzac]

#1 Question. How exactly is a 19yo studying law? Do you understand that law school is 3 years of education beyond an undergrad degree?

[TMichaels]

#1 Question. How exactly is a 19yo studying law? Do you understand that law school is 3 years of education beyond an undergrad degree?

 

 

There are such things as "pre-law" majors or curriculums, you know...

 

Best,

TMichaels

[justwhoiam]

if you were me, what would you do? continue on with this relationship and see where it goes, let the girl go and listen to the parents, because they only want what is best for you even if you don't agree with them, or this girl is playing you and you should just look for other options while keeping this one at bay?

She's only 19, she will be in FL for a few years. Florida, you know? You can keep in touch with her, but I guess it will fizzle out.

Regarding your parents, if I were you, I would date whomever I want. We can't make everyone happy, and choosing someone just because they were born somewhere doesn't sound like a good idea. Also, you are living in the US, and how do you date a Croatian girl? You go down there twice a year? I mean, there are LDRs like this leading to a serious, committed relationship (with cohabitation) or marriage, but love is there to begin with. Distance becomes an inconvenience. While you would be deciding to put yourself in this situation deliberately. It sounds stupid. The girl might really look for an easy entry to the US... Parents should guide their children, help them, teach them well, give them advice... the rest is up to the children. You are 24, you're not 16. Stand up for yourself, be a man.