2sunny Posted August 31, 2013 Share Posted August 31, 2013 What was her reason she gave for needing to go out today? Would have been the perfect reason to have her followed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mrbungle Posted August 31, 2013 Author Share Posted August 31, 2013 Cheers Dan I know in my heart this has happen...just don't know how to front this up.. I think I'm gonna hang in till just after Christmas to get that and two birthdays out of the way...I don't want the kids suffering...I can take the pain till then..I ain't going to love out either...not going to hand her the he's a b4stard card...I'm gutted Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mrbungle Posted August 31, 2013 Author Share Posted August 31, 2013 Hi sunny...we needed new school cloths...I know she didn't go anywhere but the store...but she left the time between just enough so we wouldn't have any time together...hate what's going on...but you guys and my chats to family have spoken volumes...it's hard to accept and I think I'm imagining it but I'm not Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mrbungle Posted August 31, 2013 Author Share Posted August 31, 2013 Sorry to ask this but is a lack of sex life a deal breaker?... She just says we arnt kids anymore yet she's acting like one... Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted September 1, 2013 Share Posted September 1, 2013 Lack of sex just shows evidence that she's not investing in the R with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mrbungle Posted September 2, 2013 Author Share Posted September 2, 2013 Just an update peeps...had a good/bad weekend...kept busy and totally avoided W...she seems to be getting the message but its so hard doing this 180...I've looked at her web usage and she still chatting to OM but another clown has appeared who she has friended and he live fairly local...he's pestering her with general Chit chat and he's also married!...also she's been looking at web searches my husband hates me...just by the way he looks at me!...ffs I love her to death but I can't keep getting my belly tickled every now and then and her to expect me to be happy...I just want to have it out with her but I suppose I've got to let her ask first..cya all Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted September 2, 2013 Share Posted September 2, 2013 MrB, Quite frankly I am not a great fan of the 180. I see it as a mind game or a stonewalling technique. It implies that they have something to care about before you let go. This method cuts out intercourse and positive interaction. The only good thing is that it cuts out arguments and negative interactions. I much prefer the marriagebuilder Plan A and Plan B approach. The planned approach works together to come to a conclusion. However I'm sure that a lasting personal change in both cases will cause her to reevaluate. Link to post Share on other sites
bubbaganoosh Posted September 2, 2013 Share Posted September 2, 2013 Look. The time for hiding your head in the sand is over and waiting for Christmas or any other day is only making it worse. Lord only knows that it's not an easy thing your going through but shoving the problem down the street is only going make the mess bigger. You wanted to know if being denied sex is a deal breaker. In some cases yes. Sex is an important component in marriage. But when your wife is for all intent and purpose is planning a date with another man to go to a concert and chatting up a storm with another guy on FB IS A DEAL BREAKER. If she goes to a concert with a guy, IT'S YOU! Want to chat with text messages with a guy? IT'S YOU! Your supposed to be the only man in her life, not a couple of bums that's looking to score. Keep it up and if you think you got problems now, you ain't seen nothing yet! Right now your wife is calling the shots. She knows it. She drops her pants and gives you a nod and a wink, I guarantee she'll have you jumping through hoops just to get at it. Time to man up and let her know about the serious big time trouble coming her way if she ever gets the notion of going out with another man and the friendly chit chat with the other is over. There can be no compromise with this. Make sure that she fully understands that her penny ante behavior will result in you filing for a divorce and she can go at it on her own. As far as you getting no sex, tell her also that she either gets her ass to a doctor to find out what her problem is or the marriage is over and above all please do not accept sex that is not genuine. If it's mercy sex to shut you up and you take it pal, you lost. That problem should have been addressed a long time ago and because you never really challenged her, it became her new favorite weapon. Now she's pushing your boundaries further with the concert bull ***** and the other bum she texting. So there it is. I just gave you honest advice. It's up to you to either take charge or get steamrollered. Link to post Share on other sites
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