Author Merin Posted November 15, 2004 Author Share Posted November 15, 2004 Originally posted by izzybelle married one, divorced him and now he's marrying someone else! i'm just glad it's not my turn any more to try to keep track of which version or which story he told to which friends.... now i just need to keep my kids from thinking it's ok to ummmm stretch the truth until it doesn't even resemble anything that happened. unfortunately, they've already come to recognize their dad's "version" of reality as being warped. so for all of you that realized what a mess they were and got rid of them before you had kids that would get subjected to all the drama.... congrats!!! Stretching the truth... if there was a competition in the olympics for this, he would've had the gold Link to post Share on other sites
beejsea2 Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 I'm finding out the the man I spent the last four years with has done nothing but lie to me. He told me that he loved me and we were going to get married. Now I find out that he's gone back to his ex wife...the same woman that he told me was a mistake....I guess now he's telling her the same things (lies) that he told me!! It hurts when someone that we loved and trusted blind side us by all the deception!! My ex left me about a month ago when I was at work and left a lousy note!! I heard from him when a check from our joint account didn't clear because he told me to close the account! I know that I will be better off!! I need to move on! Link to post Share on other sites
savethedrama4allama Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 Damn merin, judging from the guys here, you won't be single long! Did you catch him cheating or what? What happened in specific? Or did I miss it? Its Monday morning, cut me some slack Congratulations on picking yourself up & dusting yourself off. Strong woman that you are, I never had a doubt! Link to post Share on other sites
on the edge Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 Originally posted by reservoirdog1 Dated one, married her, currently divorcing her lying ass. We've been separated a year and I still catch her in inconsistencies, attempts at manipulation, blatant hypocrisy, etc. That in the midst of her supposed efforts to "change her ways." exactly the same here! scoot over and make room for me in the boat, 'cause we're in the same one! been separated for three months, currently in the process of divorcing his sorry ass! what is with some people these days?! do they have no conscience? how do they sleep at nite knowing that they have looked at people and lied straight to their face without so much flinching?! my stbx still thinks that he has done nothing wrong and that he has an "excuse" for it all....amazing! Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 Hey Merin, I hope you are feeling better now, you are too nice and beautiful to be feeling bad over someone that does not deserve it. Chin up girl!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 Originally posted by Merin2 Yes thats me! Thanks.. made me feel a little better;) Wow! So he's a liar & and idiot. Now we know he's also blind as a bat. Or perhaps gay. In any case, good riddance, it appears! Link to post Share on other sites
jamwinswim Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 girl.... Im sorry I aint be around to give you my 50cents, but you know my opinions anyways. Im sorry to hear things aint going as okay as it should, but you're coming around, at least contemplating the idea that he is in fact "not cool" (thats the polite way of putting it). Its terrible when emotions are involved - you know how that goes with me. I'll be in touch. Besides. It looks like if the shack were a nightclub, you'd be getting PLENTY of attention. Pick of the crop I say. ttyl M. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted November 15, 2004 Author Share Posted November 15, 2004 First thank you so much you guys.. you honestly have no idea how much better it makes me feel to have your support... I was doing really well with things over the weekend... Monday morning hits.. and of course he is text messaging me, telling me loves me blah blah... he's sorry... blah blah... Now I'm just pissed you know? OMG why can't he just leave me alone to get on with things? Give me that time without his constant bullsh*t and drama... blah! Savethedrama and Naive... love ya gf's... where would I be without you guys to b*tch to? LOL Thank you Naive for checkin in on me again.. I appreciate it. Savethedrama... I'll PM you about the f**ked up details of this mess... Scott... thank you for your kind words.. it's really helped a lot. Jamwin (((J)) thank you for the email today... I'm doing alright, and you're such a great friend to me.. This is hard, and you know it pisses me off that it is... because he isn't worthy of any thing... I'll hit you back in a bit J. THANKS YOU GUYS A LOT! Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 Originally posted by Merin2 First thank you so much you guys.. you honestly have no idea how much better it makes me feel to have your support... Happy to hear you're feeling better about things. You seem to be a very nice person. You deserve a relationship with a man that will love & cherish you. Incidentally, the fact that you're drop-dead gorgeous is beside the point. Whether one looks like a supermodel or more like Quasimodo, no one should have to put up with those things in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted November 15, 2004 Author Share Posted November 15, 2004 Originally posted by Scott S Happy to hear you're feeling better about things. You seem to be a very nice person. You deserve a relationship with a man that will love & cherish you. Incidentally, the fact that you're drop-dead gorgeous is beside the point. Whether one looks like a supermodel or more like Quasimodo, no one should have to put up with those things in a relationship. Scott... Thank you so much. Truth... no one should have to put up with not being treated right regardless of what they look like... Sadly enough... I sometimes think, how I look was the most important thing about me as far as he was concerned.. it was what he focused on, and seemed to appreciate.. obviously all he appreciated, because it seems it didn't make any difference that I was a good person, and gave of myself to him without hesitation, or question... Again, Thank you Scott.. I always enjoy reading your threads... well spoken and kind. Link to post Share on other sites
savethedrama4allama Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 Speaking for all the Quasi's out there...NOBODY deserves this. -Quazimoto4yrmama Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted November 15, 2004 Author Share Posted November 15, 2004 Originally posted by savethedrama4yrmama Speaking for all the Quasi's out there...NOBODY deserves this. -Quazimoto4yrmama You know you're a sexy Llama! Even if you had flea's in that lovely white coat of yours... you still wouldn't deserve an idiot to spend your time with;) Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 Originally posted by Merin2 Sadly enough... I sometimes think, how I look was the most important thing about me as far as he was concerned.. it was what he focused on, and seemed to appreciate.. obviously all he appreciated, because it seems it didn't make any difference that I was a good person, and gave of myself to him without hesitation, or question... That is sad. Apparently a very shallow & superficial man. That being the case, he may never have the opportunity for a sincere & true love relationship. Fortunately for you, you know better. I once had a co-worker who could have very easily been on the cover of Vogue. A stunningly attractive blonde in a size 4 tall. She wore eyeglasses, & I commented once on how flattering they looked on her, very professional looking. She then informed me that they were fake. She had gone to Lenscrafters, picked out a frame & had non-refractive lenses fitted. She wore them on the job to tone down her looks, because some of her co-workers simply would not take her seriously. They saw a gorgeous blonde & immediately assumed that she was an airhead. With glasses, she looked more taciturn, & more businesslike. Interestingly enough, every woman with whom I have ever dated or had a relationship with has worn corrective lenses/eyeglasses. Including my wife and ex-wife. Link to post Share on other sites
savethedrama4allama Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 Originally posted by Scott S Interestingly enough, every woman with whom I have ever dated or had a relationship with has worn corrective lenses/eyeglasses. Including my wife and ex-wife. Doesn't most of the US population require corrective lenses? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted November 15, 2004 Author Share Posted November 15, 2004 Originally posted by savethedrama4yrmama Doesn't most of the US population require corrective lenses? Hmmm... Maybe thats what my problem was/is? I need corrective lenses to see when someones a jackass and a liar? Crap! I've got less than 20/20 vision there obviously!!!!! You know Scott... I think thats an interesting point about your co-worker... it's more interesting to me and sometimes amusing as well because when I tell people what I do for a living... they look at me like this> than they say really? then they tell me they didn't think people who do what I do for a living looked like that (me) and I always wonder what people who do what I do for a living are "suppose" to look? Go figure... Shallow... yes he is/was very much so. Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 Originally posted by savethedrama4yrmama Doesn't most of the US population require corrective lenses? That's a good question. I don't know. Of people I've observed, I would estimate 25-30% have worn eyeglasses. Of course, if they're wearing contact lenses I would have no idea. I am somewhat amazed that at age 44, I still have 20-20 vision. A few years ago, my brother got glasses. I found out he needed them one night riding with him. He was driving on the freeway about 70 mph, then commented that he couldn't wait until Monday to get his glasses, saying "I can't see past the f**king hood line!" He then admitted to exaggerating, of course, but it was still very unnerving. Link to post Share on other sites
savethedrama4allama Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 Yeah that sounds scary Scott. Well my llama requires corrective lenses (those sunglasses are prescrip.) In real life I am extremely blind but I've worn contacts every day since the age of 14 so no one would know the difference. Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 guy sounds like a complete jackass. you seem cool and you look good and he blew it...funny to me. why did you get involved with the guy and do you have a hsitory of dating jackasses/idiots? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted November 15, 2004 Author Share Posted November 15, 2004 Originally posted by Weird guy sounds like a complete jackass. you seem cool and you look good and he blew it...funny to me. why did you get involved with the guy and do you have a hsitory of dating jackasses/idiots? Do I have a history of this? LOL No no history of choosing idiots/jackasses in my past. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 I sometimes think that it's a part of life to date at least one jackass in your lifetime, this will help you appreciate the good and genuine people out there!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted November 15, 2004 Author Share Posted November 15, 2004 Originally posted by naive_2001 I sometimes think that it's a part of life to date at least one jackass in your lifetime, this will help you appreciate the good and genuine people out there!!!!!!!!! Could have a point! Good God, I'm looking for something good to have come of this... Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 Originally posted by Merin2 Could have a point! Good God, I'm looking for something good to have come of this... Believe me girl, you will get re-payed for this!!!!!!!!! Hopefully with a big hunk who is honest and has all the goods......ALL OF THE GOODS!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 Originally posted by Merin2 You know Scott... I think thats an interesting point about your co-worker... it's more interesting to me and sometimes amusing as well because when I tell people what I do for a living... they look at me like this> than they say really? then they tell me they didn't think people who do what I do for a living looked like that (me) and I always wonder what people who do what I do for a living are "suppose" to look? Are you a RN or LPN? When doing your job duties, it would be of less concern what you look like & more that you know what you're doing & paying attention. One would probably have no idea what you look like, with your hair under a cap, a mask over your face, & wearing "scrubs". On the other hand, someone with a medical fetish might be barely able to contain himself (LOL!)! People are sometimes taken aback when I tell them that I'm an accountant, & an Army Reserve officer. THey say I don't look like either one of those. ___________________________________ Eagles may soar, but weasels are never sucked into aircraft engines. Link to post Share on other sites
savethedrama4allama Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 Actually you kinda look like a clingon, or whatever that thing is. Sorry for butting into this conversation, I can't help it. Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 Originally posted by savethedrama4yrmama Actually you kinda look like a clingon, or whatever that thing is. But once one has had a Klingon, one will never go back to puny humans! Yes, I am a trekkie. But I swear I'm not a geek! _________________________________________ Dammit Jim! I'm an accountant! Not a doctor! Link to post Share on other sites
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