Ever dated a lying idiot?

[savethedrama4allama]

That actually is a Klingon?! I'm better than I thought. Yeah so actually you look like a Klingon. Which is similar to an accountant. Just kidding.

[Weird]

it amazes me how so many people choose to date someone simply because of their looks. It is such a stupid thing to do that it boggles my mind. The best is so many people say they don't do this or looks don't matter but they ALWAYS end up with someone who is attractive but is a peice of trash.

 

If I am gonna abse a decision to be in a relationship with someone on anything toher than their personality and intelligence I'd be going on how well off they are. I'd rather be with someone who has financial security and is avg or below avg looking than a hot piece of ass who is flat broke.

[Naive]

Okay let's be HONEST!!! When you first meet someone the first thing that attracts you to someone is the looks then you get to know that person's personality!!!

 

It's rare for someone to see another person walking and say, "wow look at his/her personality" by just passing them by!!!

[Merin]

Originally posted by naive_2001

Okay let's be HONEST!!! When you first meet someone the first thing that attracts you to someone is the looks then you get to know that person's personality!!!

 

It's rare for someone to see another person walking and say, "wow look at his/her personality" by just passing them by!!!

 

[Merin]

Originally posted by Scott S

Are you a RN or LPN?

 

When doing your job duties, it would be of less concern what you look like & more that you know what you're doing & paying attention. One would probably have no idea what you look like, with your hair under a cap, a mask over your face, & wearing "scrubs". On the other hand, someone with a medical fetish might be barely able to contain himself (LOL!)!

 

People are sometimes taken aback when I tell them that I'm an accountant, & an Army Reserve officer. THey say I don't look like either one of those.

 

___________________________________

 

Eagles may soar, but weasels are never sucked into aircraft engines.

 

LOL yeaaahh those scrubs are sexxxyyyy!blah!

Pair it with those oh so sexy safety glasses, snappin on those latex gloves... add the scope for that accessory...and wow, I'm feeling all kinds of sexy!

 

Oh well... what can you do right? I go from still being so pissed over this whole mess... to feeling so badly....

 

TIEMPO TIEMPO....

Writing 1000 times.. I will not date jackasses I will not date jackasses....

[whichwayisup]

Wow! You've been through the wringer and back! OUCH!

 

Hey baby, you did the right thing by dumping his ass! What a fool he is!

 

You are so much better off without him and trust me, YOU will find an amazing guy who will treat you with love, respect and honesty! And he will make you feel so good and happy!

 

In the meantime, you have alot of support here, so I do hope you're feeling better.

 

Big hugs to you!

 

WWIU

[Merin]

Originally posted by whichwayisup

Wow! You've been through the wringer and back! OUCH!

 

Hey baby, you did the right thing by dumping his ass! What a fool he is!

 

You are so much better off without him and trust me, YOU will find an amazing guy who will treat you with love, respect and honesty! And he will make you feel so good and happy!

 

In the meantime, you have alot of support here, so I do hope you're feeling better.

 

Big hugs to you!

 

WWIU

 

You have no idea how much I needed to see this post right now...

Thank you so much...

 

Damn it! I hate when it gets hard

 

My support group... you guys are the best!

 

I cannot say I understand why people do the things they do... I'm going back to the chalk board to continue to write... I will not date jackasses... blah!

[Panther]

Good luck Merin....I know it is hard. I dated a lying conninving manipulative woman who took me for more than money and time,. She took my heart and stomped it. But I thank her for that. I learned a lot of what I want in my next relationship, and more importantly what I don't want, and what I won't deal with. But I won't take this baggage into my next one. Not all woman are evil, and Not all men are Asses. Every individual is different , we were just unlucky enough to pick wrong. But everything happens for a reason, whether it is to make us wiser, stronger, or expereinced enough to choose wisely, and heklp others down the road.

Good luck.

[Merin]

Originally posted by Panther

Good luck Merin....I know it is hard. I dated a lying conninving manipulative woman who took me for more than money and time,. She took my heart and stomped it. But I thank her for that. I learned a lot of what I want in my next relationship, and more importantly what I don't want, and what I won't deal with. But I won't take this baggage into my next one. Not all woman are evil, and Not all men are Asses. Every individual is different , we were just unlucky enough to pick wrong. But everything happens for a reason, whether it is to make us wiser, stronger, or expereinced enough to choose wisely, and heklp others down the road.

Good luck.

 

Thanks Panther.. I know you're right.. it's not ALL guys or ALL girls.

 

I know it will make me stronger.. and I know that in a lot of ways it's the best thing that could've happened.. our relationship has always been hard, never easy (I mean never!) and you know.. when it's always a struggle to find the good in things or excuse the bad.. time to let go.

 

Thanks again

[Panther]

and the hard road youhave been through will make the next good relatsionship that much "sweeter"

[Merin]

Originally posted by Panther

and the hard road youhave been through will make the next good relatsionship that much "sweeter"

 

Well, I'm keeping my fingers crossed there will be a good relationship in my future... right now, it's hard to see.

[whichwayisup]

You are so welcome! And you get lots of hugs from EVERYONE here!

 

Now it's time to PICK him apart, concentrate on the ****ty things. The good things about this fool doesn't exist it was BS. So sit down, write a list of all the crappy things about him and just be blessed now you are not part of it. That in the past has helped me. You are SO much better than that and again, he should be ashamed of himself for the way he's been acting!

 

Hope you have a better day tomorrow! Cry if you need to, but know that it will be less painful soon. The more you keep busy too, the more he'll be out of your blood. I know how much it hurts though, painful process, but in the end, you're better off!

 

Some MEN can just be big smelly TURDS!!! LOL!

 

WWIU

[Merin]

Originally posted by whichwayisup

You are so welcome! And you get lots of hugs from EVERYONE here!

 

Now it's time to PICK him apart, concentrate on the ****ty things. The good things about this fool doesn't exist it was BS. So sit down, write a list of all the crappy things about him and just be blessed now you are not part of it. That in the past has helped me. You are SO much better than that and again, he should be ashamed of himself for the way he's been acting!

 

Hope you have a better day tomorrow! Cry if you need to, but know that it will be less painful soon. The more you keep busy too, the more he'll be out of your blood. I know how much it hurts though, painful process, but in the end, you're better off!

 

Some MEN can just be big smelly TURDS!!! LOL!

 

WWIU

 

Thanks WWIU.. right now, I find myself wondering exactly that.. which way is up!?

 

Writing down all the crappy things about him.. hmmmm maybe a good idea uh? Perhaps I'll write the list on toilet paper.. better to not waste perfectly good real paper or God forbid stationary.. toilet paper for the sh*t he is.. AND then like his words.. wipe my a** with the "list" for what those words were ever worth!

 

Tomorrow is another day... hmmm a trip to Vegas is sounding so damn good! LOL my gf's all want to go.. he of course would never "let me" sooooooo viva las vegas baby!

 

Thanks for checkin in on me WWIU:)

[Weird]

Originally posted by naive_2001

Okay let's be HONEST!!! When you first meet someone the first thing that attracts you to someone is the looks then you get to know that person's personality!!!

 

It's rare for someone to see another person walking and say, "wow look at his/her personality" by just passing them by!!!

 

that has NOTHING to do with getting into a RELATIONSHIP with a person. Sure you may see their looks and be drawn to it but when you start to talk to them you should get to see how they are.

 

I am at a loss as to how my post about being in a RELATIONSHIP with a person got processed in your mind as me talking about just meeting someone but hey, maybe when you meet someone "hot" you fail to actually pay attention to them once you start talking to them.

 

Think some people need to do this thing called actually reading the posts before replying to them.

 

Oh and when I walk down the street and see a girl who may be attractive I don't think "man she would be a great girlfriend!!!" Nah, I think she prolly has no personality and thinks she is the cat's ass.

 

All I know is so many people go by looks, get to know the person, realize they are not that good a person but stay with them simply because the person looks good. Then they get *****ed over, bitch and maon and wonder why the relationship went sour. Naturally this is done mostly by women who then go and complain and wonder why they can't meet a good guy when they can but they continually choose to go after the "stud" who from all signs is obviously gonna treat them like ****.

[Merin]

Originally posted by Weird

that has NOTHING to do with getting into a RELATIONSHIP with a person. Sure you may see their looks and be drawn to it but when you start to talk to them you should get to see how they are.

 

I am at a loss as to how my post about being in a RELATIONSHIP with a person got processed in your mind as me talking about just meeting someone but hey, maybe when you meet someone "hot" you fail to actually pay attention to them once you start talking to them.

 

Think some people need to do this thing called actually reading the posts before replying to them.

 

Oh and when I walk down the street and see a girl who may be attractive I don't think "man she would be a great girlfriend!!!" Nah, I think she prolly has no personality and thinks she is the cat's ass.

 

For real, you think that when you see an attractive girl? What do you think when you see a not so attractive girl?

 

Anyway.. I know what your point is.. you're right, that you shouldn't get involved in a relationship based upon someones looks. While it may be great to date someone that you find attractive, lets face it.. when your an a** your an a** and looking good isn't going to change that.

 

The guy in question here.. (My EX) in a lot of peoples opinion wasn't good looking.. but heres the thing.. when I first met him, he was so nice.. he seemed very sincere and HONEST. I liked him for who he presented himself to be as a PERSON.. now he wasn't unattractive, but he wasn't like "oooohhhh My God, I've got to get that" know what I'm saying?

 

Well we became involved in a LDR.. he is in the military.. so he was stationed overseas for a good time through our relationship, after that he was stationed in another state from me.. let me tell you that yes (God help me) all the signs started to revel themselves that he wasn't who he had made himself out to be.. wasn't such a nice guy after all.. but I made excuses for why he did this or why he said that.. the relationship was such a struggle. He is also VERY manipulative.. and every time he did something messed up (I mean really crappy to me messed up) he would turn it all around and make it my fault.. or he would just LIE about doing things.. it got to the point that I had one of his friends calling me telling me what he was really up to as he had met me, and thought I deserved better than I was getting in this.

 

My relationship with this guy was very hard (most all the time) he would call me and insist that I not go out for my bday with my friends when he was stationed overseas because he was afraid someone might talk to me.. he insisted on asking me what I was wearing no matter what I was doing or where I was going. At one point we were set to go out with some other friends and he insisted that I wear a particular black dress I have.. then he spent the rest of the night mad at ME when he saw other guys look at me.. he started a fight with me that night and said that I must like the attention.. helllooooo it was HIM who had insisted I wear the damn dress to begin with.

 

He insisted on having my password to my cell phone account so he could check to make sure there wasn't any guys numbers on there.. any and all of my male FRIENDS ONLY FRIENDS.. he put the stop to, saying that all they were interested in was hooking up with me.

 

He wanted me to wear baggy clothing out, because he again insisted that anything less would only be encouraging other guys.. he told me so many times, that he felt so insecure with me.. yet funny.. I didn't give him reason to feel that way.. ironically enough, he was the one who gave me reason to feel uncertain and he went out of his way to do it.

 

So.. I'm the idiot for dealing with it for this long.. but I can assure you, I wasn't that girl who thought I was all that, I wasn't that girl who treated him badly because I thought I could.. I didn't date him because I thought yeah he's an a** but who cares he's hot..

 

I thought he was someone else to begin with.. and yeah my bad for not running as soon as he showed himself for whom he really is.. a mistake I don't intend to make again.

 

Thanks for your post Wierd.. I hope you have an understanding of what I'm saying.

[Naive]

Originally posted by Weird

that has NOTHING to do with getting into a RELATIONSHIP with a person. Sure you may see their looks and be drawn to it but when you start to talk to them you should get to see how they are.

 

THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT I AM SAYING!!! Before you get in a relationship with someone you see their physical attribute then you get to see how their personality is, now this does not happen with everyone, but mostly that's the way it goes.

 

I am at a loss as to how my post about being in a RELATIONSHIP with a person got processed in your mind as me talking about just meeting someone but hey, maybe when you meet someone "hot" you fail to actually pay attention to them once you start talking to them.

 

Don't JUDGE me!! Look dude you have to relax. I only put in an example as to how a relationship may start with looks and then progress to more than that. And for future reference don't try to dissect what I am like when I meet someone because if someone needs to know I WILL BE THE ONE TO INFORM THEM!!!

 

Think some people need to do this thing called actually reading the posts before replying to them.

 

I think someone has to take deep breaths before replying back!

 

Oh and when I walk down the street and see a girl who may be attractive I don't think "man she would be a great girlfriend!!!" Nah, I think she prolly has no personality and thinks she is the cat's ass.

 

Well I'm sorry you are so sour and negative! Because a person has good looks it does not mean they have no personality and they think they are the S*IT. The same goes for a person that "lacks" good looks, it does not mean they have nothing to offer. I don't know if you've had bad experiences or what but you are plain grouchy and it's contagious.

 

All I know is so many people go by looks, get to know the person, realize they are not that good a person but stay with them simply because the person looks good. Then they get *****ed over, bitch and maon and wonder why the relationship went sour.

 

Yeah this is true, but it's not what I'm referring to so I will not even bother with it any further.

 

Naturally this is done mostly by women who then go and complain and wonder why they can't meet a good guy when they can but they continually choose to go after the "stud" who from all signs is obviously gonna treat them like ****.

 

STEREOTYPE!

[Merin]

Originally posted by Weird

 

 

All I know is so many people go by looks, get to know the person, realize they are not that good a person but stay with them simply because the person looks good. Then they get *****ed over, bitch and maon and wonder why the relationship went sour. Naturally this is done mostly by women who then go and complain and wonder why they can't meet a good guy when they can but they continually choose to go after the "stud" who from all signs is obviously gonna treat them like ****.

 

Whoa!! This was a add on I hadn't seen...

 

I DIDN'T start dating my BF based on his looks AT ALL. Not by ANY stretch of the imagination.

I started dating him because he had PRESENTED himself to be a good person.. and that make him attractive TO ME.

 

My "Vent" here wasn't "Why is my GOOD LOOKING boyfriend an a**h***" or "Ever stay with a guy who is an a**h*** but damn he looks good?"

 

I'm not sitting here wondering why I got screwed over and complaining that my studly boyfriend was just always such an a** but I put it all aside, because he looked good.

 

I take the heat for staying in the relationship even though it was really a struggle.. I really cared a lot about him, and wanted to believe and see the best in him.. and when I say see the best in him.. I mean what was in his heart, not his exterior.

[whichwayisup]

No matter how much you polish a turd, it's still a turd!

 

Writing down all the crappy things about him.. hmmmm maybe a good idea uh? Perhaps I'll write the list on toilet paper.. better to not waste perfectly good real paper or God forbid stationary.. toilet paper for the sh*t he is.. AND then like his words.. wipe my a** with the "list" for what those words were ever worth!

 

Then FLUSH right down the crapper!

 

Take anything else you have and BURN IT!

 

Say "BE GONE FROM MY LIFE!" He isn't even worth calling a bastard anymore. Think he may have graduated to the term I loved to use on my EX waaaaayyyy back when many years ago as "THE GDMFASOABWFMU" Hehehe.

Each letter is RUDE so there ya go! (I will PM you the words of it...It's fun to say and rolls off the tongue nicely!)

 

Goodnight and good thoughts only! Try to anyways!!

 

WWIU

[Merin]

Originally posted by whichwayisup

No matter how much you polish a turd, it's still a turd!

 

Writing down all the crappy things about him.. hmmmm maybe a good idea uh? Perhaps I'll write the list on toilet paper.. better to not waste perfectly good real paper or God forbid stationary.. toilet paper for the sh*t he is.. AND then like his words.. wipe my a** with the "list" for what those words were ever worth!

 

Then FLUSH right down the crapper!

 

Take anything else you have and BURN IT!

 

Say "BE GONE FROM MY LIFE!" He isn't even worth calling a bastard anymore. Think he may have graduated to the term I loved to use on my EX waaaaayyyy back when many years ago as "THE GDMFASOABWFMU" Hehehe.

Each letter is RUDE so there ya go! (I will PM you the words of it...It's fun to say and rolls off the tongue nicely!)

 

Goodnight and good thoughts only! Try to anyways!!

 

WWIU

 

GDMFASOABWFMU!!! I'm sooooo using that!

 

Thanks

[Scott S]

Originally posted by Merin2

Tomorrow is another day... hmmm a trip to Vegas is sounding so damn good! LOL my gf's all want to go.. he of course would never "let me" sooooooo viva las vegas baby!

 

Vegas?

 

Gee, why settle for that? Closing the Cabo Wabo Cantina every night for the next few days would be even more cathartic (I'm writing metaphorically here, of course!).

 

Plus, a nice warm beach to lay out on while you all sleep off the hangovers!

[Merin]

Originally posted by Scott S

Vegas?

 

Gee, why settle for that? Closing the Cabo Wabo Cantina every night for the next few days would be even more cathartic (I'm writing metaphorically here, of course!).

 

Plus, a nice warm beach to lay out on while you all sleep off the hangovers!

 

Cabo Wabo... whoo hoo!

 

[Scott S]

Originally posted by Merin2

I DIDN'T start dating my BF based on his looks AT ALL.

 

First, I will readily admit that I am a normal, healthy, straight male with good eyesight. Therefore, yes, I find an attractive woman pleasing to the eye. Mea Culpa! Mea Culpa! Mea Maxima Culpa!

 

My wife is a very pretty woman, & of course I felt attracted to her. As we became friends, I found she also has a very gentle spirit, a gracious manner, & a very warm & kind heart. While it was the pretty woman outside that initially attracted me, it was the wonderful inner person with whom I fell in love.

 

I have met physically very attrative women, who inside are bitter, cantankerous old shrews, & I wish nothing to do with them.

[Scott S]

Originally posted by Merin2

My relationship with this guy was very hard (most all the time) he would call me and insist that I not go out for my bday with my friends when he was stationed overseas because he was afraid someone might talk to me.. he insisted on asking me what I was wearing no matter what I was doing or where I was going. At one point we were set to go out with some other friends and he insisted that I wear a particular black dress I have.. then he spent the rest of the night mad at ME when he saw other guys look at me.. he started a fight with me that night and said that I must like the attention.. helllooooo it was HIM who had insisted I wear the damn dress to begin with.

 

He insisted on having my password to my cell phone account so he could check to make sure there wasn't any guys numbers on there.. any and all of my male FRIENDS ONLY FRIENDS.. he put the stop to, saying that all they were interested in was hooking up with me.

 

He wanted me to wear baggy clothing out, because he again insisted that anything less would only be encouraging other guys.. he told me so many times, that he felt so insecure with me.. yet funny.. I didn't give him reason to feel that way.. ironically enough, he was the one who gave me reason to feel uncertain and he went out of his way to do it.

 

Goodness, it gets more interesting every moment! A liar, an idiot, & now a control freak! Why on earth did you let this prize slip away?! (LOL)

 

I actually appreciate when Gina dresses up all hot & sexy when we go out. It makes my heart flutter when men are trying to steal glimpses of her. If I thought she should keep hidden from view, we would live in Saudi Arabia or Afghanistan.

 

A couple summers ago, we were out shopping together. Gina was dressed for the summer weather. We went into a store where she picked out a top. When she wrote out a check to pay for it, she presented the clerk with her driver's license. You should have seen him when he saw her date of birth, realizing she was 44 years old. The look was priceless! His eyes got all wide, he did a double take at her several times, & stood there with his mouth open. Mister smooth, I thought, trying not to laugh at the man. After we left, we both had some belly laughs at his expense, but the experience was quite a self-esteem booster, I must say.

[Merin]

Originally posted by Scott S

Goodness, it gets more interesting every moment! A liar, an idiot, & now a control freak! Why on earth did you let this prize slip away?! (LOL)

 

I actually appreciate when Gina dresses up all hot & sexy when we go out. It makes my heart flutter when men are trying to steal glimpses of her. If I thought she should keep hidden from view, we would live in Saudi Arabia or Afghanistan.

 

A couple summers ago, we were out shopping together. Gina was dressed for the summer weather. We went into a store where she picked out a top. When she wrote out a check to pay for it, she presented the clerk with her driver's license. You should have seen him when he saw her date of birth, realizing she was 44 years old. The look was priceless! His eyes got all wide, he did a double take at her several times, & stood there with his mouth open. Mister smooth, I thought, trying not to laugh at the man. After we left, we both had some belly laughs at his expense, but the experience was quite a self-esteem booster, I must say.

 

Scott, You rock!

 

LOL seriously!! I think it's so great that you and your wife have this kind of relationship... in my case it's been so long since I've felt good about (Me) being (Me) that it's hard to relate to how your wife must feel knowing you're okay with her being herself on the exterior.. not feeling that she needs to dress "down" or feel badly about her figure. That you feel pride in having her by your side because you know she is yours. No matter whom else may look at her.

 

Thats the funny thing in this... I was always HIS. Didn't matter to me (and I actually didn't notice) if other guys were looking. The other interesting thing to me.. is I dressed up for HIM.. you know? blah.. go figure.

 

You and your wife are both very fortunate to have one another and be comfortable with being "us" know what I mean?

 

You're awesome Scott;) Thanks for your posts, they inspire me.

[Scott S]

Originally posted by Merin2

Scott, You rock!

 

LOL seriously!! I think it's so great that you and your wife have this kind of relationship... in my case it's been so long since I've felt good about (Me) being (Me) that it's hard to relate to how your wife must feel knowing you're okay with her being herself on the exterior.. not feeling that she needs to dress "down" or feel badly about her figure. That you feel pride in having her by your side because you know she is yours. No matter whom else may look at her.

 

Thats the funny thing in this... I was always HIS. Didn't matter to me (and I actually didn't notice) if other guys were looking. The other interesting thing to me.. is I dressed up for HIM.. you know? blah.. go figure.

 

You and your wife are both very fortunate to have one another and be comfortable with being "us" know what I mean?

 

You're awesome Scott;) Thanks for your posts, they inspire me.

 

Oh, you're too kind! But I think you're very sweet too!

 

Actually, self-image is something we've both had issues with, & sometimes still do.

 

Neither of us were a part of the "in" crowd in school, didn't date much until later in adulthood, etc. Looking back, it does not seem so significant now, but at the time it was a life & death issue. And that being an impressionable age in life, events & experiences mold you, like it or not.

 

The funny thing is, my wife had never really thought of herself as being attractive. Seeing photos of her in high school & college, I believe I would have been dumb-struck actually meeting her, thinking "she's so cute, she'd never be interested in me." When I first met her, I assumed she had a boyfriend, & found it quite hard to believe or understand when I learned otherwise.

 

But apparently until our paths crossed, men never told her she was pretty, or sweet, or warm, or anything else. There is a Sammy Kershaw song called "She Don't Know She's Beautiful" that I believe the writer had Gina in mind when he penned it.

 

In a love relationship, one of a partner's most important duties is to affirm & reaffirm the other. Not to diminish, not to try to control. Evidently, your nimrod of an ex does not understand, or will not understand what a love relationship is, or what it means to be in one. You deserve much better than that!