loyalwife Posted August 29, 2013 Share Posted August 29, 2013 My husband has always been sarcastic. Sometimes his sarcasm is kind of funny but I do wonder how other people would feel especially those we just met. We talked with a couple we just met, the conversation went like this. Husband: Have you traveled to foreign countries? Guy: Yeah, I have been to Beijing. Husband: Hmmm I wonder how your lungs look like. We have been to a small village of about half a million people. The 'half a million people' is kind of funny to me. But the lung joke isn't just because the guy was proud of having been to a foreign country and then my husband spoilt his fun:-( Am I too sensitive or should I ask my husband to be more careful? Link to post Share on other sites
DustinTheWind85 Posted August 30, 2013 Share Posted August 30, 2013 (edited) Honestly, your sense of humor is very hard to change. Some peoples humor isn't funny to others. If he makes you laugh or smile (like part of his sarcasm did), then all seems well to me. Who cares if he isn't funny to them, so long as his sarcasm isn't downright insulting? You could help him pick and choose his sarcasm a bit better, possibly, by kindly letting him know (not right after being sarcastic with someone or he may get hurt feelings) that sometimes his sarcasm may rub people the wrong way and he may want to be a little more tasteful about what he says around strangers just to be courteous. It will just take a little training for him to start thinking about his sarcastic jokes before he says them. But the main thing is, let him be sarcastic so long as it it tasteful. If he shrugs off what you are telling him, grab his shoulders and look him in the eyes so he knows you are serious, and tell him that it makes you uncomfortable and that you would just like him to be a bit more tasteful. That should get through to him and then you two can work on it. Edited August 30, 2013 by DustinTheWind85 Link to post Share on other sites
DustinTheWind85 Posted August 30, 2013 Share Posted August 30, 2013 Actually after reading your other post about how this guy is abusive, I take back all of the above. It really doesn't make sense to me how you are concerned about his sarcastic jokes with everything else he does. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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