Caitie Posted August 29, 2013 Share Posted August 29, 2013 I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half, and just to note, I'm pregnant. Everything was fine when we started dating, as it usually is in any relationship. We started off spending a lot of time together, but we would have those days apart and I would be just fine. I would find stuff to do while he did whatever, and hung out with his friends. I didn't worry about him cheating on me or anything like that last year. Now it's a little different. Whenever he wants to go out, I freak out. I start thinking that he's going to cheat on me. The only time he's away from me is when he's at work, or golfing with his friends. I feel so bad. He even made a comment tonight about me not liking to do anything without him. I don't have a lot of girlfriends here, and it's hard to find anything to do that's interesting. I have no idea what to do. Sometimes I think he would just be better off without me. Link to post Share on other sites
CherryT Posted August 29, 2013 Share Posted August 29, 2013 Do you think your pregnant emotions are talking? or is this how you really feel? Has your BF given you any reason for you to not trust him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Caitie Posted August 30, 2013 Author Share Posted August 30, 2013 I don't think it's my pregnant emotions. I've felt this way for a long time. There was one incident with another girl that looked really shady, but he told me it was completely innocent, and I do believe him. The only problem I have with him going out is that he drinks entirely too much, and then comes home and gets in a fight with me. Link to post Share on other sites
CherryT Posted August 30, 2013 Share Posted August 30, 2013 That's an issue. I would sit down with him and communicate that you are both having a baby... and things like that are not acceptable. He can still go out and have a great time, but he can't come home drunk off his as* because you have a child to care for soon. Would he be open to parenting classes? I'm not sure where you live, but there are some programs available (perhaps at a church or community centre) that will offer new parent programs to help you through this transition. It can help you open up your communication lines with one another and make you feel more at ease and secure. Link to post Share on other sites
emva07 Posted August 30, 2013 Share Posted August 30, 2013 The only problem I have with him going out is that he drinks entirely too much, and then comes home and gets in a fight with me. This can be very hurtful. Especially now that you are pregnant. You are hurt, yearning for the father of your child to come home, sleep with you, spend his night with you and give you all his love. Knowing that when he goes out means a fight is not something to look forward to with glee. Your body is going through so many changes, part of it may be the insecurities that come with the weight gain, etc. Wondering if this is why things are changing. etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted August 30, 2013 Share Posted August 30, 2013 Co dependency issue. Now wait, when he comes home drunk and fights with you, are YOU really the one starting a fight with a drunk person? Do you make bitchy, passive aggressive comments because you are mad that he went out? Do you blow up his phone with the guilt train while he is out? We need more details. Link to post Share on other sites
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