Lied to girlfriend and need some advice

[truckingtaz]

i am with this great woman for 6 months. everything was great up until i lied to her about money. i had told her to

 

leave her job and I would take care of her and her kids. Well i didn't plan it out good and my job i was losing money

 

not making what i was. she almost lost her car. that was the first time i lied to her because she had said she didn't

 

like people to lie. I did and I hurt her really bad and now she is unsure if she still wants to be with me, i had said i'm

 

sorry and since than i took on a second job to help get back on track. this time i sat down and planed how much to

 

put away for bills and other things and showed it her and said if i had done this before i wouldn't be in the spot i'm

 

in now and that is maybe losing you. i want to know if by doing what i'm doing and showing her that i am the man

 

she fell in love with if she might give me a second change. we both have said to eachohter that we didn't think we c

 

could love the way we love each other. I just hope our love is strong enough to overcome the hurt i caused and

 

get a second change I also know that i will have to earn and prove to her she can trust me. I love her so much

 

and that was the last thing i wanted to do was hurt her and i did. confused i can't even think and write straight.

 

so please and advice would be great. oh next Tuesday will be 6 months should i get her anything or just let it go

 

for now.

[opaleye]

Is she working again now? Because you don't have to support her and the kids. That's not the only way to prove that you're a man. I don't think that it's hopeless- you intentions seem to be in the right place and you seem genuinly sorry for lying to her. Just keep trying to earn back her trust. Be truthful. For your six months you could just write her a poem or something like that so that she knows you love her and also that you aren't wasting money (which is the danger of buying her something for the 6 months if money is so tight). Good luck.

[deepfused]

I think that you seem to have your heart in the right place for her just got your priorities messed up. I am sure that she understands and if this girl really loves you, then money shouldn't matter. she was able to care for herself and family before you come along. (right?)

 

I think that the trust issue is more important to her than any thing. No matter how bad or ashamed you think the situation may be, try the truth. Your partner might be more understanding to things than you think. Have "faith" in each other and I am sure that things will work out.

 

Tell her that You love her is all you need to give for your 6 months annv. and if she's needing more than meaningful words from the heart, then maybe she's not the one for you.

 

GOOD LUCK!!