Author IWS2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Author Share Posted September 3, 2013 Man this stinks !!! I feel like sending this reply: "The only mail I sent was to ask your brother-in-law to speak. We spoke by phone, not on E-mail. You can confirm with him. The topic was serious enough to warrant help. In 20/20 hindsight; I could have gone about it differently. As you wish...I am now erased from your life." Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
Author IWS2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Author Share Posted September 3, 2013 I sent it....and now she's back for more.... "That's BS!! My sister read the email to my Mother word for word. All of the attacks and accusations she has been making towards me since you sent it, come from that. So...hide it if you want, there is no denying what you said and did. I'm sure Brian still has it, so I will eventually see it. Please send me your Mother's, Father's, sister's and brother in-laws email so I can discuss a topic about YOU that I feel is serious enough to warrant help!!!! The only collateral fallout this has caused is between you and I. My family is my family, and they will always be there to love, support, help and protect me. You took it upon yourself to get involved in a situation you knew nothing about. What would ever make you think that involving and scaring my family about something you couldn't control, would be a great idea???!!! Next time, I would think again about "throwing stones". " WOW ! Link to post Share on other sites
Author IWS2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Author Share Posted September 3, 2013 Wait.....I didn't E-mail her and she mailed me again: "Just so you know.....you and I will never have a relationship ever again. By involving my family, all the bad came out. I never spoke an ill word about you until all of this. But once the box was opened....now they know the truth about you and everything else that occurred between us. I told you many times, I've learned from my past mistakes. Once you involve family with your "dirty laundry", there's no turning back. So I guess congrats are in your honor. You ruined an amazing relationship with your egotism. I hope your happy because the love that I once had for you is now consumed with anger!! Don't worry, I am finally DONE with my venting!!! Have a nice life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" What is your take on this???? Link to post Share on other sites
Author IWS2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Author Share Posted September 3, 2013 Good Morning! OK....3 more contacts overnight (All Unanswered by me) She texted me 2:20am: "You need to call me NOW....." She texted me 2:45am: "I guess being a coward works in your favor right now....don't you ever contact me or my FAMILY EVER again!!!!!!!" She called me 3:00am ((Biting nails and wondering what to do)) Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted September 3, 2013 Share Posted September 3, 2013 Good Morning! OK....3 more contacts overnight (All Unanswered by me) She texted me 2:20am: "You need to call me NOW....." She texted me 2:45am: "I guess being a coward works in your favor right now....don't you ever contact me or my FAMILY EVER again!!!!!!!" She called me 3:00am ((Biting nails and wondering what to do)) What to do? Ignore. You should have never approached her family. She's pissed and she wants payback. And she can't stand that you've gone into hiding after what you did with zero repercussion. It'll blow over. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IWS2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Author Share Posted September 3, 2013 Zahara; "It'll blow over" as in she'll get over it OR as in she's done with me? Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted September 3, 2013 Share Posted September 3, 2013 Zahara; "It'll blow over" as in she'll get over it OR as in she's done with me? And yes, in a few days she'll get over the fact that you went behind her back and discussed her issues with her family. I believe she has already said more than once she's done with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IWS2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Author Share Posted September 3, 2013 Basically I will respond with, "I believe you've already asked me to erase myself from your life." Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted September 3, 2013 Share Posted September 3, 2013 Basically I will respond with, "I believe you've already asked me to erase myself from your life." For god's sake, ignore it and stop trying to keep stirring the pot. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IWS2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Author Share Posted September 3, 2013 Just now: ME: "I don't know what else you want from me, I believe you've already asked me to erase myself from your life, and I've left you alone." HER: "For my own sanity, I would like to talk to you later. When will you be around?" What sanity? Why??? Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted September 3, 2013 Share Posted September 3, 2013 Just now: ME: "I don't know what else you want from me, I believe you've already asked me to erase myself from your life, and I've left you alone." HER: "For my own sanity, I would like to talk to you later. When will you be around?" What sanity? Why??? Who knows. You both should just get back together. You're both toxic. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IWS2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Author Share Posted September 3, 2013 fyi.....for a Facebook junkie like she is who said she deleted and blocked me......she didn't block me, and her page still shows me she didn't remove me and that we are in a relationship Link to post Share on other sites
NXS Posted September 3, 2013 Share Posted September 3, 2013 Just now: ME: "I don't know what else you want from me, I believe you've already asked me to erase myself from your life, and I've left you alone." HER: "For my own sanity, I would like to talk to you later. When will you be around?" What sanity? Why??? Don't call her back, don't answer her texts, remove and block her number from your phone and remove her from your fb. This woman is a lunatic, don't engage with her any more!! Talking to her is not going to help her sanity, she needs professional help for that. Also don't listen to her bs about talking to her family, you tried to get them to help her and there was nothing wrong with that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IWS2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Author Share Posted September 3, 2013 Thanks NXS.....but what does she want from me after telling me it's over, erase myself, we're done.........? Link to post Share on other sites
NXS Posted September 3, 2013 Share Posted September 3, 2013 Thanks NXS.....but what does she want from me after telling me it's over, erase myself, we're done.........? She wants to lash out and blame everyone else for her problems, she wants to justify her decisions, she wants revenge, she wants to rewrite history. Basically she's a lunatic with the emotional level of a 5 year old child, I'm not exaggerating either this is literally what a 5 year old does when they throw a tantrum. This woman could also be dangerous so do not go anywhere near her again! She could make up all sorts of crap about you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IWS2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Author Share Posted September 3, 2013 That's the problem.... I still do want to see her Link to post Share on other sites
Author IWS2013 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Share Posted September 4, 2013 Her last reply to me after wanting to talk tonight and me waiting it out: A response would have been nice...but at this point I'm past the talking phase. I've gone through so many emotions today and decided that I just have to accept what you did and let go of the anger. You were such a different type of love to me and that's why I'm so devastated and hurt by what you did behind my back. The trust is gone between us and there's no turning back. So now, as hard as it's going to be without you in my life, we both need to move on. The one thing I'm thankful for is that you came into my life when I felt lost and needed someone that loved and believed in me by my side. You brought me back to life and showed me a love I never felt before. Hopefully we will both learn from our mistakes and when we look back on this relationship, we will only remember the good things. So with that being said, what we shared is over. But im hopeful that someday soon I will find that "spring in my step" again. I'm not consumed with anger right now, I'm actually overwhelmed with sadness because you betrayed me in such a hurtful way. Goodbye." POLL: is she really done with me or will she return for more? Link to post Share on other sites
BigGirlPantiesOn Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 This is the dance of the alcoholic. Crazy making manipulation. You can sit this dance out if you choose....it always gets worse, never better. Try Al-Anon. It helps. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IWS2013 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Share Posted September 4, 2013 But from that letter.....do you think she is "DONE" with me for sure? Link to post Share on other sites
Sparkle304 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 I understand that this is terribly painful for you. But don't you think you deserve better than this? Do you really want this drama in your life? *If you witnessed your best friend going through your situation what would you say to him? *If a family member was going through this, what advice would you give him/her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author IWS2013 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Share Posted September 4, 2013 I'm not ready to give up yet. Link to post Share on other sites
tart6245 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 You need to let this go. I know it's not something you want to do, but in this case, as in others, less is more. She seems to be done with you for now, and even if it isn't over forever, you cannot simply hang on wondering when she will come around. Why put yourself through that? Look, I know it hurts. I know you instinctively want to go after her and make her feel for you like she once did, but that's dead and gone and you can't do that. People change. The more you push, the worse it will get until you have a real fight and one of you ends up issuing a restraining order or something crazy like that. What else do you think you can do now given what you have been told by her? Link to post Share on other sites
NXS Posted September 6, 2013 Share Posted September 6, 2013 I'm not ready to give up yet. How are things? Link to post Share on other sites
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