ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 8, 2013 Share Posted October 8, 2013 What is going on with these threads. Hurtstodeath you are over her when the things you do have NOTHING to do with her. From the sounds of things everything you are doing right now revolves around thoughts about your ex. This is not healthy. It is a dangerous road to go down. If you keep feeding these emotions, they will continue to grow. Be careful. We've tried to tell him such things lol. It's his party he can do what he wants. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 8, 2013 Author Share Posted October 8, 2013 why i do that ? i did not chose to see her in my dreams and like that.. all i want is peace...all i want is to when and if i think of her to no have tears(visible or invisible)... Link to post Share on other sites
melell Posted October 8, 2013 Share Posted October 8, 2013 Feel the emotion, and let it go. This is dwelling. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
melell Posted October 8, 2013 Share Posted October 8, 2013 We've tried to tell him such things lol. It's his party he can do what he wants. Off the chain. There are a few posters at the moment egging each other on with this kind of thing -shakes head- 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 8, 2013 Share Posted October 8, 2013 Off the chain. There are a few posters at the moment egging each other on with this kind of thing -shakes head- What are you saying? I'm lost Link to post Share on other sites
melell Posted October 8, 2013 Share Posted October 8, 2013 lol. Oh just recently I have noticed a few posters encouraging each others dwelling rather than encouraging moving on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 8, 2013 Share Posted October 8, 2013 lol. Oh just recently I have noticed a few posters encouraging each others dwelling rather than encouraging moving on. Ah gotcha. From what I've seen on here this past year (which may or may not be the trend) is you will have a rush of new users who are hurt and in pain. They will start a thread and you will have a mix of two users: 1. Those who have been here for a while and have seen and lived the situations trying to give advice (usually NC and moving on) while giving personal stories and other type stories they have heard. 2. Then there is the new users, who are still hurting, are wanting desperately to reconnect with THEIR ex give advice to others they want to hear themselves (IE: "Contact your ex and tell her all your feelings and send flowers with mixed CD's" advise lol). These are also the ones that also seem to dwell a little longer on their situation (I have too so I'm not bashing anyone.) 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 8, 2013 Author Share Posted October 8, 2013 i believe 1 and 2 cant actually "connect" 100% because the 2 is feeling it. and the 1 knows it. i am saying this because when the 1 is over the ex he just forgets how that feeling of pain is exactly...am i wrong? i am trying to become a 1...i guess Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 8, 2013 Author Share Posted October 8, 2013 but literally the process to escape this is like walking through hell.... there are temptetions,memories,physical pain,you are tired all the time,you are hungry or like throwing up,cold swetting, now i see why people say being dumped sucks . it is, a fading love sensation that just goes away and you have 0 control over it. like a meteorite falling on you ....you cant stop it.only accept it and grow Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 8, 2013 Author Share Posted October 8, 2013 i am out going to do some yoga thing. yoga really helped me control the pain. try it Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 8, 2013 Share Posted October 8, 2013 i believe 1 and 2 cant actually "connect" 100% because the 2 is feeling it. and the 1 knows it. i am saying this because when the 1 is over the ex he just forgets how that feeling of pain is exactly...am i wrong? i am trying to become a 1...i guess Not necessarily. I'm 1 and I STILL feel the pain of my situation a year out. I still feel the after-effects of what happened. Some days (VERY rarely) I think about the relationship and how much I miss the really good times we had. The difference is I KNOW its over and I KNOW, without a shadow of a doubt, that I need to move forward. In that aspect, I have succeeded. I will find someone one day (hopefully REALLY soon lol) that will be loads of times better than my ex. The new users havent gotten to this point yet. After bashing their heads against the wall for hours on end and neglecting the facts that are in front of their face, they will come to that same realization too. For me hurts...we only have such a SHORT time on this earth. My god man....if we are REALLY lucky, we will live to our like what mid 70's (average?) If I sit here and waste anymore days sitting around thinking about, dwelling on, and not living life, then why am I living? We get ONE chance on this earth. We get ONE chance to see the sights, enjoy the sounds, and LIVE. Do we really, at the end of the day, want to look back and go "My best times was when I sat alone in my room thinking about a girl who didnt think I was important enough to be in her life?" No way hurts2death. You'll get there...but the FIRST THING YOU HAVE TO DO IS LET IT GO! Once you do that, the world opens up again. If that is you in that picture on this site, you are a good looking dude, so I can imagine that you will find someone again. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 8, 2013 Author Share Posted October 8, 2013 yes it is me and thanks for the copliment.(i thought it was good to upload a real pic and not keep it impersonal cause the dets i put on this thread are personal and the talking we do have helped me MASSIVELY) so you say that time is short.indeed i agree with that more than everything..but time is how we measure it....you see i was with Maria and i was counting even the secs we were together....i was deeply in love .still am and struggling to escape this beautifull nightmare...before her i didnt realize how the years were passing and now i feel i spent a hole decade with her while it was only three years.... now i want to get that feeling single...i do not want to live waiting for an other love.... no no no. its me and i want to be happy with me myself and i john,.i want to be able to feel full alone,,, i am not giving up on love family etc..but all this western civil thing with carreers and jobs and things is all good and evolved the human but made the place bad for love and family.... i wish sometime a woman with morals will want to have family with me and i wish i get through the stages of love again with a more stable end (family) i dont think i will ever be able to live the romeo and juliet thing...even if i get over her 100%....but i am not really sure that to live this is what i want from life... this break up tought me that i must stay on my own feet and try to feel happy with me alone.(i am getting there i enjoy life alone ). in the end we are borne single and we die that way..love is come and go.. now this thing here is what really really helped me and gave me a better perspective...and it is great Not necessarily. I'm 1 and I STILL feel the pain of my situation a year out. I still feel the after-effects of what happened. Some days (VERY rarely) I think about the relationship and how much I miss the really good times we had. The difference is I KNOW its over and I KNOW, without a shadow of a doubt, that I need to move forward. In that aspect, I have succeeded. I will find someone one day (hopefully REALLY soon lol) that will be loads of times better than my ex. The new users havent gotten to this point yet. After bashing their heads against the wall for hours on end and neglecting the facts that are in front of their face, they will come to that same realization too. For me hurts...we only have such a SHORT time on this earth. My god man....if we are REALLY lucky, we will live to our like what mid 70's (average?) If I sit here and waste anymore days sitting around thinking about, dwelling on, and not living life, then why am I living? We get ONE chance on this earth. We get ONE chance to see the sights, enjoy the sounds, and LIVE. Do we really, at the end of the day, want to look back and go "My best times was when I sat alone in my room thinking about a girl who didnt think I was important enough to be in her life?" No way hurts2death. You'll get there...but the FIRST THING YOU HAVE TO DO IS LET IT GO! Once you do that, the world opens up again. If that is you in that picture on this site, you are a good looking dude, so I can imagine that you will find someone again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 8, 2013 Author Share Posted October 8, 2013 (edited) bump i feel better....slightly anxious but better..... i never had that power before in my workouts... i mean being dumped is like taking a superman shake for muscle i guess i am on a good road if i am making jokes of it....or kind of a jokes.. i found a councellor and will go once a week for coffee with her...glad i at least found one that sounds serious ,lets see what she says.... Edited October 8, 2013 by hurts2death Link to post Share on other sites
jimloveslips Posted October 8, 2013 Share Posted October 8, 2013 i feel better good, i'll feel better when you put your shirt back on... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 8, 2013 Author Share Posted October 8, 2013 ok now i need help. she is calling me on my other number (this time no hidden number) i was right that the previous times with the hidden number it was her, she missed me probably... what am i gonna do? i am sitting on a fence broken hearted. oh god what is happening to me... please help me..... she ment the world but she broke the glass..... it is all destroyed now... how would you feel if your dead love called you... heeeeeelp Link to post Share on other sites
reddragon588 Posted October 8, 2013 Share Posted October 8, 2013 Block her again. This chick cray. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 8, 2013 Share Posted October 8, 2013 ok now i need help. she is calling me on my other number (this time no hidden number) i was right that the previous times with the hidden number it was her, she missed me probably... what am i gonna do? i am sitting on a fence broken hearted. oh god what is happening to me... please help me..... she ment the world but she broke the glass..... it is all destroyed now... how would you feel if your dead love called you... heeeeeelp First, stop with the over-dramatics. You sound like an emo middle school girls diary lol. Second....again, this is what we've said before. You arent at the end of the leash right now because you arent answering. Once she realizes you are there again, she will go RIGHT back into not caring. Why go through all of this pain again? Its just a vicious cycle. Thats why you should change your number (this is probably #496 we've told you this lol). If she REALLY wanted to be with you, she would be. This causal calling from blocked numbers and just calling randomly just shows immaturity NOT reconciliation. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 8, 2013 Author Share Posted October 8, 2013 maybe she wants to say sorry and give her a chance? but then again why call at 01.00? night. it is weird. i say this cause now she called without hidden number... i am staying strong not going to do her this favor.... she must learn to eat the S hit she did now.. nice and slowly... i will talk to her unless she does extraordinere measures to show me she loves me and needs me and i will not be able still to love her back... such a mess..... anyway the thread is live we get some action here. lol Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted October 9, 2013 Share Posted October 9, 2013 She is clearly way too emotional and contacts you impulsively. Remain committed to NC. NC will always do good by you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Stealth3 Posted October 9, 2013 Share Posted October 9, 2013 Are you sure she is calling you? How do you really know, does she leave a vm? Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 9, 2013 Author Share Posted October 9, 2013 yes it is her her numbers shows up on my phone....she called 01.00 so now guys it is these moments of IF if this is somewhat of a chance to recon? why on earth to call like that ? but then again why that time that she feels propably lonely at bed? might be there is also a chance 0.01% she forgot yo hide the number..... what am i gonna do? please lets explain why she might be calling? Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 9, 2013 Author Share Posted October 9, 2013 no she does not leave a voice mail...it is her number i can read it on my screenAre you sure she is calling you? How do you really know, does she leave a vm? Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 9, 2013 Share Posted October 9, 2013 yes it is her her numbers shows up on my phone....she called 01.00 so now guys it is these moments of IF if this is somewhat of a chance to recon? why on earth to call like that ? but then again why that time that she feels propably lonely at bed? might be there is also a chance 0.01% she forgot yo hide the number..... what am i gonna do? please lets explain why she might be calling? Because she is immature. Quit overthinking all of this. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 9, 2013 Author Share Posted October 9, 2013 well sth tells me i am going to recieve a text ..... right? i mean after an unanswered call? it comes the text.... Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 9, 2013 Share Posted October 9, 2013 well sth tells me i am going to recieve a text ..... right? i mean after an unanswered call? it comes the text.... lol good f***ing lord. Ignore it all. Problem solved. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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