Author hurts2death Posted October 9, 2013 Author Share Posted October 9, 2013 i mean why i hustle with this? why i care what she will say? i am sure i cant be with her as a couple for sure.... so why i care,,,? ah maybe justice will come oh boy i m feeling good....... going to grab a latte.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 9, 2013 Author Share Posted October 9, 2013 i sence it... she is going to call again and again and cause i am ignoring 100% she will text an apology or sth.. yeah baby. now there is this scenario i have that she might ate some of the greener grasser and made her sick if you know what i mean.. but guess what i am feeling better and more over her than ever..... so why she tries? i think i am transforming from dumpee to dumper.....lol justice is knocking on...i will love to see her on her knees crying asking for an other chance and me say no way...yeahhhh baby Link to post Share on other sites
Jim86 Posted October 9, 2013 Share Posted October 9, 2013 All you care about is your damn ego; pathetic. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Jim86 Posted October 9, 2013 Share Posted October 9, 2013 And why pretend you're over her? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 9, 2013 Author Share Posted October 9, 2013 (edited) yeah sure . hey random poster why dont you spent a sec read my story from start...this woman destroyed me.....inside out tore me up...so before you spent time posting troll things read my thread.. we are not together anymore so i love me the johny boy if you call ego loving myself just call it as you like thanks have a nice day john Edited October 9, 2013 by hurts2death Link to post Share on other sites
Jim86 Posted October 9, 2013 Share Posted October 9, 2013 yeah sure . hey random poster why dont you spent a sec read my story from start...this woman destroyed me.....inside out tore me up...so before you spent time posting troll things read the thread.. thanks have a nice day john I have read every word you've written. You don't care about her, just your ego. You just said if she came back you'd love to turn her down for revenge. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 9, 2013 Author Share Posted October 9, 2013 dude love between us died you know? it is not anymore......and she is playing me...while she is clubing and all this s hit.... no idont care about her....and neither she cares about me.. she aint the saint.... she troubles with me.. the only i did was i vanished from her life as she asked from the depths of her heart.... so what are you saying.... Link to post Share on other sites
Jim86 Posted October 9, 2013 Share Posted October 9, 2013 dude love between us died you know? it is not anymore......and she is playing me...while she is clubing and all this s hit.... no idont care about her....and neither she cares about me.. she aint the saint.... she troubles with me.. the only i did was i vanished from her life as she asked from the depths of her heart.... so what are you saying.... It just comes across that this has caused you so much pain because of the hit to your ego rather than missing someone you dearly love. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 9, 2013 Author Share Posted October 9, 2013 continue ,,,, lead me to the way of therapy... really there is no reason for me to argue .after all she is gone now... Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 9, 2013 Author Share Posted October 9, 2013 btw how the hell am i going to remain 100% calm and over her if she calls me? it is like a dead ghost appears up..... why she makes it like that.... i sence it is not for good reason but for her to get ego boost...... i mean i started feeling better thinking it over and out like she dont exist anymore through nc..and she calls? Link to post Share on other sites
reddragon588 Posted October 9, 2013 Share Posted October 9, 2013 You have all these posts about how much her calling you hurts you.. And yet you do nothing about it. Posters have given you a wealth of ideas on how to address this situation and you have done nothing about it. At some point you have to make the decision that you want to start moving on and you want to start feeling better, that you're tired of being hurt. Once you reach that point you have to take action. Clearly you haven't reached that point yet or you would be taking action. For your sake I hope you get to that point soon. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Jim86 Posted October 9, 2013 Share Posted October 9, 2013 continue ,,,, lead me to the way of therapy... really there is no reason for me to argue .after all she is gone now... Was that sarcastic, I genuinely can't tell?! Let's say you're being genuine.... You gotta be honest with yourself, and I genuinely want to know, are you hurting so much because you got dumped or because you lost her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 9, 2013 Author Share Posted October 9, 2013 am i a mazohist? i feel like even if i see her having sex withsomeone now i will not care but why i find it interesting her calling me? sth aint right here ...You have all these posts about how much her calling you hurts you.. And yet you do nothing about it. Posters have given you a wealth of ideas on how to address this situation and you have done nothing about it. At some point you have to make the decision that you want to start moving on and you want to start feeling better, that you're tired of being hurt. Once you reach that point you have to take action. Clearly you haven't reached that point yet or you would be taking action. For your sake I hope you get to that point soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 9, 2013 Author Share Posted October 9, 2013 not i mean what i say no sarcasm..i am here to post the break up chronicles and heal...share my story have inputs you know? you can tell whatever you like .be my guest.. truly i hurt cause i lost her...not because i get rejected,,i am far better in all aspects i dont care getting approved by her. i care about loosing her after all this we used to have....Was that sarcastic, I genuinely can't tell?! Let's say you're being genuine.... You gotta be honest with yourself, and I genuinely want to know, are you hurting so much because you got dumped or because you lost her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 10, 2013 Author Share Posted October 10, 2013 is it really normal to stay loyal to your partner emotionally and at the same time trust a friend the same or more? she told me back then that she talks now and then with a girl that works at a bank that she visits for her job tasks... only that..they also started hanging out 1 month before the break up... now i find out that that girl has influenced my exs style i mean everything clothes,shoes,flip flops,swim suit,dressess,the way of standing,.... so i believe that my ex started getting close with her before letting me go.... how you call this? Link to post Share on other sites
melell Posted October 10, 2013 Share Posted October 10, 2013 What your ex does now is none of your business. Period. She can dress how ever she wants, she can be influenced by her friends as much as she wants. She can even meet the guy of her dreams, marry him, and give him everything she refused to give to you. That is the reality of it. You have a choice, continue to analyze her and question things-never getting a solid answer. OR realize that thinking of her is a waste of your time. I will tell you, without doubt, you are hurting yourself by going over all of these things. What you are doing now is the opposite of healing. Reading peoples advice and making conclusions is fine, but only to a point. You need to completely direct your thinking away from this. In my opinion this site is a godsend for people who want to understand what happened so they can let it go and move on, and get help through the process. You have been given the advice, you have understood it, but now you are just wallowing in it instead of getting to the moving on part. Be smart. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 10, 2013 Share Posted October 10, 2013 is it really normal to stay loyal to your partner emotionally and at the same time trust a friend the same or more? she told me back then that she talks now and then with a girl that works at a bank that she visits for her job tasks... only that..they also started hanging out 1 month before the break up... now i find out that that girl has influenced my exs style i mean everything clothes,shoes,flip flops,swim suit,dressess,the way of standing,.... so i believe that my ex started getting close with her before letting me go.... how you call this? GOOD LORD!!!! LET IT GO!!!!!! You will STAY as miserable as you feel now until you LET IT GO! It doesnt matter what she said or did. Nothing of that matters now. There is a better chance of Michael Jackson coming back from the dead and singing Billie Jean in front of the entire world than your ex coming back. Honestly dude...QUIT obsessing about everything. She might ring you up every once and a while, but again, it means NOTHING. MANY ex's do this. We obviously all care and are trying to help....but you have to keep helping yourself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 10, 2013 Author Share Posted October 10, 2013 melell this was happening a month before the break up..she kept it hidden getting close to her.... and i am sure she played major role influencing her to break up with me....\ but you are right what happened happened... Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 10, 2013 Author Share Posted October 10, 2013 wow you burned my last tiny hope that i dont know i want.... exs call every now and while? thats weird... i am helping my self.....a lot believe me i have found source of happiness many not one i thank you all for the support it was the best therapy.... but we just talk about it......nth more. GOOD LORD!!!! LET IT GO!!!!!! You will STAY as miserable as you feel now until you LET IT GO! It doesnt matter what she said or did. Nothing of that matters now. There is a better chance of Michael Jackson coming back from the dead and singing Billie Jean in front of the entire world than your ex coming back. Honestly dude...QUIT obsessing about everything. She might ring you up every once and a while, but again, it means NOTHING. MANY ex's do this. We obviously all care and are trying to help....but you have to keep helping yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
melell Posted October 10, 2013 Share Posted October 10, 2013 melell this was happening a month before the break up..she kept it hidden getting close to her.... and i am sure she played major role influencing her to break up with me....\ but you are right what happened happened... That happens all the time. Often when people meet a new group of friends also. At the end of the day it was her choice. I challenge you to stay off this site for 2 weeks, and stop questioning things for 2 weeks. Be a strong, do it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 10, 2013 Share Posted October 10, 2013 wow you burned my last tiny hope that i dont know i want.... exs call every now and while? thats weird... i am helping my self.....a lot believe me i have found source of happiness many not one i thank you all for the support it was the best therapy.... but we just talk about it......nth more. I think the underlining issue here is that you talk about it SO much that there is no time to move forward. You say you are moving forward, then keep talking about her. The thing with ACTUAL moving forward is to get her out of the forefront. You ask us 900 questions about her and what she is thinking, her reasons for things, and why she does the things when the answer to all of them is it doesnt matter. She can live her life now. She could be having orgy parties at her house with twelve dudes OR she could be miserable with a spoon and ice cream....either way, none of it matters anymore. The step (and final) that MANY people on here are scared to take is acceptance because they know when that step is actually taken, there is NO chance of reconciliation and that scares a LOT of people on here. They all want that hope that MAYBE one day, their ex will crawl back to them and life can come off pause and continue. You need to learn to accept the truths in this situation. She left you. Yeah, that blows a lot. Your ego hurts, you overthink, and you lose a LOT of confidence. But, as in other things in life, this is where you grow a pair and move on to bigger and better things. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
melell Posted October 10, 2013 Share Posted October 10, 2013 I can't tell if you 'like' posts as a way to patronize or not... because you like posts, then do the opposite. .. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 10, 2013 Author Share Posted October 10, 2013 what about my no contact? i am keeping it strong i believe i am enough over her....i am calm think of other women.... it is just interesting... and from her calls raise a curiosity thats somehow hard to resist but i know hat you are correct thats why i like the posts. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 10, 2013 Share Posted October 10, 2013 what about my no contact? i am keeping it strong i believe i am enough over her....i am calm think of other women.... it is just interesting... and from her calls raise a curiosity thats somehow hard to resist but i know hat you are correct thats why i like the posts. Its all breadcrumbs. Again, you arent there responding, which will make her call more to see why you arent falling all over here. She wants the ego boost. Once she realizes you are there again, then she is back to not caring about you and you are back to square one in this process of moving on. You've done well...dont screw it up. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts2death Posted October 10, 2013 Author Share Posted October 10, 2013 friend there is no way i screw it up...i am building it for almost 2 months now...but dont their ego break sometime?Its all breadcrumbs. Again, you arent there responding, which will make her call more to see why you arent falling all over here. She wants the ego boost. Once she realizes you are there again, then she is back to not caring about you and you are back to square one in this process of moving on. You've done well...dont screw it up. Link to post Share on other sites
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