nothing pains as much.nothing

[hurts2death]

nonono i am definetely better than in the first month i am 100% sure of that. i dont want to feel like i did that month never in my life again

[hrtblds2ez]

In dealing with the anger, hurt and frustration over this b/u I've been trying to solidify the belief that "if its meant to be it will be". This ain't easy as my mind or heart or whatever wants to be in continuous thought and analysis. But, in all practical matters this belief holds true in any relationship.

[Haydn]

Hurts mate, time to to let this go now me thinks. She left. Shes gone. It will hurt you forever if you continue this path. It still hurts me but i accept she is gone and it was her choice. Dont be curious about her. Only pain you will find. Try to move on, even slowly. (Where are you from Btw?)

 

And Aspiring, must you be such a wind up merchant?

 

 

She might have had a very good reason, but didn't want to tell you. Did you ever think of that? I think you need to acknowlede that you might have loved her more than she loved you. She probably thought she couldn't live up to your exaggerated expectations of love and decided you'd be better off.

 

I'm concerned that you've made very little progress in the last few months. Your threads are staying to sound a lot like Vinsanity's.

[hurts2death]

I am from Greece.here now the day became really small and as the winter comes it will be all rainy snowy and dark and on top of that its the christmas attitude that i dont know about others but i feel that i am going to miss her more.i must do sth so i will stay indiferent about her and where she is.Haydin i really really would not be able to leave knowing i did the dumping, thank god at least i am the dumpee

Hurts mate, time to to let this go now me thinks. She left. Shes gone. It will hurt you forever if you continue this path. It still hurts me but i accept she is gone and it was her choice. Dont be curious about her. Only pain you will find. Try to move on, even slowly. (Where are you from Btw?)

 

And Aspiring, must you be such a wind up merchant?

[Haydn]

Hold it together mate. You are doing ok. Let her go. Block the social media aspect. Keep it up and dont look back. OK?!

[hurts2death]

ok friend ,now i will do some leg workout.

Hold it together mate. You are doing ok. Let her go. Block the social media aspect. Keep it up and dont look back. OK?!

[hurts2death]

this aint the girl i used to know TKO

 

like that she was dragging me to the hill

[Haydn]

Hey hurts, i have a little place on Zante. For the summer. Beautiful country. Great food, great people. How are you today? Did you block the FB as Aspiring suggested? The sooner the better.

[hurts2death]

damn zante is sooooooo beautifull. i used to go with the girl i dont recognize anymore to ithaca and kephalonia it is magic

 

assos kephalonia http://uploaded.mygreece.travel/kefalonia/villages/assos_4.jpg

 

irhaca (ithaca will stay in my heart forever.) http://appsmakerstore.com/assets/images/photo_gadget_images/11488/iphone_big/15APR12_007.jpg?1335025206

 

zante the wreck http://mw2.google.com/mw-panoramio/photos/medium/53606482.jpg

 

 

. no no., i just dont log in with my fake account . you probably must visited the the wreck beach right? it is pure magic ionian sea.

Hey hurts, i have a little place on Zante. For the summer. Beautiful country. Great food, great people. How are you today? Did you block the FB as Aspiring suggested? The sooner the better.

[Haydn]

It is a magical place. Its actually the place i want to end up in. I would like to live there one day. So many magical memories and dreams. Blue water. Delete your FB accounts, ok? Keep going my friend.... Your going to be ok.

[Simplysimon]

hi all.. really couldnt believe i would post here,,,but you never know what happens in life...

 

my story is quiet interesting to share and listen your opinions,

 

my name is John i am 24yo and i feel my first hearbreak in my life...

 

she met me online (facebook and at the time i had some kind of depression of being rejected sad enough) i had used every mean you can imagine to impress i know its wrong(including expensive car lifestyle etc stupid things that dont matter)

 

we started chatting and fell for each other and after some time we were chatting like till morning hours,, when i asked for her number she gave it to me straight.... after 2 weeks i went to the city she used to have college to date her and guess what after the date we ended up staying together for 8 months in her house.. we were doing all things together, she was the center of my world while she was still doing her studies and practice(which i helped her get and was driving her everyday to). our hometowns are 1 hour distance with car so after like 9 months she got the degree we moved to our home towns and we were going back and forth to meet each other,

 

 

I WAS NOT RICH-i was showing of. HER MOM SAW THIS and she was like -break up with him he didne even go to the army... ****ing bitch.. and then suddently over a fight at 12 months together (we were fighting about her job i was insisting that if whe would get a job there it would be difficult for us) and she dropped contact straight i was feeling like i cant describe how bad ... at the time she went to a friend (girl) at the capital city 3.5h drive to get a fast track degree on computer(like a month) and while things were almost over suddently she started to call in the middle of the night but she didnt want to reconect just because she missed me and one day i changed her mind to reconnect and i made it what a relief. from there and on we were meeting each other like a secret. i was driving through the mountains in the winter 1 hour just to meet her for 4 hours after her job (in her hometown) and then left back another hour drive through night ice mountain and winter....i was devastated i was only waiting for the weekend to come so she would come and we could stay together at my place alone....this kept like that for an other year and on her job vacation we went to an island we felt really really close,,, though she was still avoiding comming to my parents house or me get to her house while her parents were there...so the third summer we were together like 1 month ago we went to an other island for her vacation from her job and then she went to her parents village for some kind of local celebration in which again i was not invited cause we were not married and there were villgers.....through these days i was missing her but not much and through the last days she were there i got a gut feeling of her leaving me it was awfull and i was right,,,,, i catched her talking 30 min on the phone and i dont know with whom and the next day again like an hour this time (she might be talking to an other guy ? a girl about how to break up? nobody knows-the thing is i was trusting her to death in matters of cheating...

the last days i become to pushy to clingy but nothing that much serious i was just stressed and missing her we didnt fight ... after the second night that she was talking an hour somewhere she cut all lines of comunication with me so i got stressed that much that i drove the car in the middle of the nght to reach her town and wait for her at her job to talk but while i was doing it she called suddently and i went back, so we said i would go the next day...and i did. the last days she was distant in the phone and in close she was too distant when we met,,,, it was this we went for coffee and afterwrads she said......

 

 

 

-maybe we need some time apart.

-i am feeling tired

-we are to close and we left ourselfs

-we must hang out with more people

-we must live things

-be single(o god i wish ididnt hear this) or like single but then no cause i love you she said...

-we must do things not spend time only for each other

 

 

 

 

o my god i couldnt believe it we went for a walk we didnt fight and i left her at her house and drove in the middle of the night back home in a situation of hell.... how her mind was like so different i was devastated......

 

she called to see if i made it back home but i ignored her i was heartbroken ....she send text too to see if i made it,

 

so the next day i sent her a text saying..

 

-look i know you need space i can give space to both of us and have a healthy relationship like we can hobbies on owr own etc.....

 

the next days she was ignoring me after a week she picked the phone we talked like cold people do like how are yu doing and i kept sayong take your time i am ok i hope things will be good i want be anyway pushy again or clingy......

 

but then after somedays i startedtexting her what was going on/-hey please tell me is it what you want to loose me forever or stay in your life ? we will be more open more air etc but i love you.. no response

 

so on wednsday she called me after her job telling it is over

 

-she said.i know we lived to many things together but i want to be on my own with my self-i said ok if that what you want why not saying so..... so i said anything else you want to talk to me cause we will never talk again i guess, then ste froze kind of a way and she said if you ever need anything you are welcome to be calling and i kind lough saying ya take care be cautious by. we hanged up fro there is no contact for me .. 5 hours later she text -what ar you doing?.ofcourse i didnt answer i will never unless i get a reconciliation msg....

 

 

guys my heart is in 1000 peaces really. i was giving that girl a rose every single day when we were together in her house where we used to live together,

 

i feel i want to die, i dont want to call her it is wrong i feel she doesnt want me anymore.....

 

 

 

some info...

 

1)at her job they work only women older than us and divorced which i beleive where commenting negatevily on our relationship cause they were jealus,

2)once she went on a drink with one of them and we fought over this a lot

3)tha last2-3 days she was like she was hiding sth and was distant from me

4)she is my first love and i cant take it i think i will die

5)i know i was pushy and close like relationship but if she truly loves me she will demand space and come back right?

6)together almost 3 years

7)she broke up with her first guy like the same way

 

 

 

though i feel she made her decisions already there is nth anymore, i am alone without her and i have to be man enough to live with that.

 

 

once 1.5 years ago we fought and i hitted her cause of jealusy but she did the same back .after this and till the end we never fought again though..

i asked her is it because i am clingy pushy and she said no

 

i was only getting - we are young i want to live things...

 

 

o god i translate that to GIGS

 

guys please give an advise.....

 

might it be that her mother the bitch changed her mind cause she got married at 16 and didnt have a chance to live anything? might it be there is a new guy sticking to her while she was at her parents village? might it be an other guy from the work outside jobs?might it be the divorced old and jealus bitches at her job ?

 

 

i mean i starve to death to know, if i v been cheated.. ok ....

 

 

Dude you really screwed up here. don't you see it. Women do not find needy guys attractive by any means at all. You put her on a pedestal. Women want to be your everything, the most important thing in your life but when you give it them they blow you out.

You need to back right off. If she wants space tell her she can take it, tell her you love her, the doors open, then walk and never ever contact her again. Just sit back do nothing and wait. If she wants you she will be back if not get someone else. Stop blowing up her phone.

No more flowers, letters emails nothing. You got to learn the game man. Women want to chase never chase them ever no matter if you think the world of them. Always give them something to keep them on their toes and never ever take a women's advice about relationships. They see it completely different to men.

She's not your everything, she's not the only girl who can make you happy I guaranty it.

[strive]

Dude you really screwed up here. don't you see it. Women do not find needy guys attractive by any means at all. You put her on a pedestal. Women want to be your everything, the most important thing in your life but when you give it them they blow you out.

You need to back right off. If she wants space tell her she can take it, tell her you love her, the doors open, then walk and never ever contact her again. Just sit back do nothing and wait. If she wants you she will be back if not get someone else. Stop blowing up her phone.

No more flowers, letters emails nothing. You got to learn the game man. Women want to chase never chase them ever no matter if you think the world of them. Always give them something to keep them on their toes and never ever take a women's advice about relationships. They see it completely different to men.

She's not your everything, she's not the only girl who can make you happy I guaranty it.

It looks like you're giving him advice to play games with all the chasing/not chasing and keeping them on their toes. These games never end well. :/

 

But hurts2death, simplysimon is right in that you need to back off. But do it for yourself, and only yourself. Let go and heal, you will be happier for it.

[hurts2death]

no game to be played. the show is over, dead and gone. first true love first heartbreak. i gave my self 110% and in return i recieved betrayal.

[hurts2death]

basically that woman rescued me from my stupid depression back then . when i met her everything went sunshine, she was my sun i was a flower.

 

as i cruise around the city i see places and all these flashbacks come back. its scary. love makes you fear like a kid.

[hurts2death]

[hurts2death]

dont bash me for the avatar i changed it to put you all in the story better. i dont feel nostalgic. i try as much to view it all as dead thing of the past.as an object.

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

dont bash me for the avatar i changed it to put you all in the story better. i dont feel nostalgic. i try as much to view it all as dead thing of the past.as an object.

 

Good god almighty CHANGE THE AVATAR!!!!!!! This makes you look REALLY creepy. We don't need pictures to make stories better this isn't a children's book. Good god I can't get over how awful that looks.

[hurts2death]

you got me scared. ok ok,,, its cause of privacy? what can be recognized in 2 pixels anyway. creepy? i was never creepy. i am cool i am telling you.

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

you got me scared. ok ok,,, its cause of privacy? what can be recognized in 2 pixels anyway. creepy? i was never creepy. i am cool i am telling you.

 

MUCH better lol. You have to see this in the eyes of others. Lets say I was your ex and saw that online. ...I'd probably file a restraining order on you haha. I know how you're doing and its better so that's cool but man that photo was over the top.

[melell]

Is the Avatar the one that he has now? That's not so creepy?

[hurts2death]

:laugh::laugh::laugh: dont you like me melell? - i like you

Is the Avatar the one that he has now? That's not so creepy?

Edited November 26, 2013 by hurts2death

[hurts2death]

ok so christmas is not far and i start to sence the void. i hope i make through these days. its rainy dark cold and all people are being closer these times.i wonder how she would feel.

 

i am not completely over her yet. i am walking a path towards exit and freedom though. i must succeed if i want to be normal.

 

thats how she turned out.

[hurts2death]

its been a while. i am feeling almost cured. so heartbroken brothers stay strong the path gets easier. trust me. you will be rescued just be patient.

 

so now ehn and if i check her prof on FB i feel numb i mean nothing what is evidence of her disorders is that she approved that she sucks personalities and values. she has liked and joined all yachting groups or mercedes fan or luxury4play pages on FB. she in a way tries to be me? lol thats so weird.

 

anyway christmas is ahead and i have my sis with her daughter comming so i hope i will pass the eve and the hole magic of the holidays feeling free and good.

[hurts2death]

merry christmas to all . to all brokenherted friends here.

 

i have to say the last days the holiday scene makes me much more sensitive.

 

it like death kissess me again. i am slightly getting re heartbroken. oh god when this vent will go away.

 

i was polite, i gave her what she asked,i didnt beg ,i didnt disturb at all , why i feel like she stolen sth from me?

 

it resurfaces sadly for me. i hope it subsides soon. i keep occupied, i keep a hobby and i focus on work and fitness.

 

and the think is jesus i really miss her. i must be very bad with my self i cant explain it.

 

last night i watched this movie. with family. Silver Linings Playbook (2012) - IMDb please avoid it. i got so much similar with the main actor i was crying like a little girl.

 

i am relapsing 5 months in,

[hurts2death]

so happy new year to all members heartbroken and not.let this year make us stronger and mature in heart.

 

so my beloved friends hi , you helped me so much when i got dumped by my gigs ex. it pained so much and thank god i found you,you show me the path,i started walking it and now it has become easier than ever.i can almost see the freedom door in the long end ....i am happy and positive.

 

 

but i have to say sth that happened. my ex send a text. she said"happy new year i wish the new year brings you whatever you w ish. kisses" at 03.00 at night and i ignored. did i do right? what can possibly my ignoring do to her? it seems she got the answer and some days later on my names day she didnt wish me anything .... so thats a super strong nc fro me for like 5 months ....

 

should i have answered her just plane and cold? not to be rude? or her npd bpd gigs personality would trigger her weapons of giving me more pain and abusing me so she can feed her ego? she seems kinda "ready" for guys in her fb so i guess her text was a quriosity breadcrump....