nothing pains as much.nothing

[Chi townD]

so happy new year to all members heartbroken and not.let this year make us stronger and mature in heart.

 

so my beloved friends hi , you helped me so much when i got dumped by my gigs ex. it pained so much and thank god i found you,you show me the path,i started walking it and now it has become easier than ever.i can almost see the freedom door in the long end ....i am happy and positive.

 

 

but i have to say sth that happened. my ex send a text. she said"happy new year i wish the new year brings you whatever you w ish. kisses" at 03.00 at night and i ignored. did i do right? what can possibly my ignoring do to her? it seems she got the answer and some days later on my names day she didnt wish me anything .... so thats a super strong nc fro me for like 5 months ....

 

should i have answered her just plane and cold? not to be rude? or her npd bpd gigs personality would trigger her weapons of giving me more pain and abusing me so she can feed her ego? she seems kinda "ready" for guys in her fb so i guess her text was a quriosity breadcrump....

 

If she sent you a text at 3 in the morning to wish you a happy new year, then it was probably a drunk text. She probably doesn't even remember sending it to you.

 

Don't worry about it. You're doing great.

[hurts2death]

but she doesnt get drunk.or at least as i knew her. is it a breadcrump to up pics on her fb with her in my car? and me cropped? lol like i was ment totaly nothing.

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

so happy new year to all members heartbroken and not.let this year make us stronger and mature in heart.

 

so my beloved friends hi , you helped me so much when i got dumped by my gigs ex. it pained so much and thank god i found you,you show me the path,i started walking it and now it has become easier than ever.i can almost see the freedom door in the long end ....i am happy and positive.

 

 

but i have to say sth that happened. my ex send a text. she said"happy new year i wish the new year brings you whatever you w ish. kisses" at 03.00 at night and i ignored. did i do right? what can possibly my ignoring do to her? it seems she got the answer and some days later on my names day she didnt wish me anything .... so thats a super strong nc fro me for like 5 months ....

 

should i have answered her just plane and cold? not to be rude? or her npd bpd gigs personality would trigger her weapons of giving me more pain and abusing me so she can feed her ego? she seems kinda "ready" for guys in her fb so i guess her text was a quriosity breadcrump....

 

Whats up dude? Glad to see things are going well. I was happy to not hear from you haha...meaning that in a good way.

 

In terms of the text, you did the right thing! The past you probably would have freaked out and texted her 900 different things. This shows progress so congrats. I wouldnt have answered nor should you have. Breadcrumbs will happen, and this one seems pretty innocent so yeah. 3:00am on New Years?? I agree with Chi....sounds like drinking was involved. Keep moving forward.

 

And quit looking on facebook! Shame on you.

[Chi townD]

I agree, if you still have her on Facebook, then you're not truly in NC mode. You are still in her life if you can see what's she's up to in social media.

[hurts2death]

haha hi friend. well the truth is i v been banned for some period from forum cause i posted a gun in text form towards a dumper posting for info. but i didnt also felt the need to talk over my ex relationship. things is while you say i do good i took the car on a ride to the beach (we used to do it) and i almost felt her smell and kinda missed her i was driving and i couldnt explain what is missing ,her smell was so unique and magical. anyway thing is my heart is soldering for good.

 

-john

[hurts2death]

nonono i checked her fb through a fake prof with which we not even friends. i went very strong nc, she might felt that i was kidnapped by aliens.i mean TRUE NC

I agree, if you still have her on Facebook, then you're not truly in NC mode. You are still in her life if you can see what's she's up to in social media.

[hurts2death]

so statistically yes she might be a kind of drunk .its new year first day maybe after a party or bar meet or club who really knows but time seems apropriate she might returned home from a girls out.saw again the poor muscleless looking for sex guys and changed her mind? her ego doesnt completely let her apologize?

 

i mean such a situation now.... all these/////

 

i did a math lab formula of her calling frequensy .it seems to be 3π/2 i know it doenst sound as i dotn care i guess i had extra free time to mess around and play.

 

its ok.

[barky2]

Breadcrumb.

 

Glad you left it the hell alone, you said more to her by ignoring then returning the text.

 

The non return said " I'm out enjoying my life and don't want to be bothered with you"

 

If she ment anything other than a simple happy ny, you woulda received more.

 

I'm sure she's embarrassed, good.

 

On the bright side, if she was with some dude she wouldn't have texted you.

 

So she prolly thought " wonder if he's with a girl"

 

BOOM you didn't text .

 

Good for you. Let her head spin.

 

I'm sure she checked her phone all night and even the next day.

 

Stay strong.

 

You just got a lot of power back, leave it there.

 

 

 

Barky

[hurts2death]

barky you are very good in communiacting with people like me.you seem to know the game insideout.i thank you. now lets leave her spinning till she gets detached from body lol/

 

-john

[pickflicker]

nonono i checked her fb through a fake prof with which we not even friends. i went very strong nc, she might felt that i was kidnapped by aliens.i mean TRUE NC

 

That's not NC. No matter how you look a ex up online, if you're doing that, you're not NC. And it's definitely not true NC. You disappear, but you must not look them up either.

 

haha hi friend. well the truth is i v been banned for some period from forum cause i posted a gun in text form towards a dumper posting for info

 

Also, WTF? You threatened someone who dumped their partner because they asked for advice? Harsh.

[hurts2death]

it was a joke. i did not threaten anyone commn. lol lets stay on topic. the ignoring i do combined with her not so easy gigs road will lead where?to me? to even more gigs? i am just curious.

That's not NC. No matter how you look a ex up online, if you're doing that, you're not NC. And it's definitely not true NC. You disappear, but you must not look them up either.

 

 

 

Also, WTF? You threatened someone who dumped their partner because they asked for advice? Harsh.

[pickflicker]

it was a joke. i did not threaten anyone commn. lol lets stay on topic. the ignoring i do combined with her not so easy gigs road will lead where?to me? to even more gigs? i am just curious.

 

Doesn't sound like a joke to me.

 

The rest of your conversation, I don't understand. I don't think she's coming back to you, if that's what you're asking. It looks like she's been gone a while.

[hurts2death]

its been a while of time that i sense sth growing inside me.

 

 

-I AM HAPPY THAT SHE LOVED ME.I DONT HATE HER.I AM GLAD FOR EVERYTHING SHE DID.AND NO HATE FOR WHAT SHE DIDNT.-

 

i think of her as of sth good. is it friends that nc helped me touch freedom? is it this? the rescue? feeling indiferent and only glad about the common past?

 

it is weird, since its a roller coaster of emotions. i hope that this when it commes again stays. i never thought i could not feel jealousy .hate. revenge.pitty/

 

 

love is such a complex thing. ....

[hurts2death]

sadly from this high now its getting me under and a lot. tommorow is anniversary day. in the mean time she keeps posting backround pics on fb with phrases like.-when you decide to dont care life is better,- or nth is impossible.-

 

could easily be cause i ignored the hell out of her.

 

it pains so much as i get close to tomorrow day....i wonter what she might be thinking.

 

lets hope this relapse is supposed to happen and is temporal.

[pickflicker]

sadly from this high now its getting me under and a lot. tommorow is anniversary day. in the mean time she keeps posting backround pics on fb with phrases like.-when you decide to dont care life is better,- or nth is impossible.-

 

could easily be cause i ignored the hell out of her.

 

it pains so much as i get close to tomorrow day....i wonter what she might be thinking.

 

lets hope this relapse is supposed to happen and is temporal.

 

Why are you looking at her Facebook? That's not No Contact.

 

Stop looking at Facebook.

[hurts2death]

i cant kind of. she keeps signalling.....in a way. am i loosing it here? oh god,

[pickflicker]

i cant kind of. she keeps signalling.....in a way. am i loosing it here? oh god,

 

Stop looking at her Facebook. This thread is MONTHS old. How can you still be wallowing this badly?

 

Stop looking at her Facebook. Every time you do, you reset No Contact to zero. You haven't been in NC at all. That'w why you're still posting this kind of stuff months later, preferring to be run over by a car than dumped. Seriously? Have you ever been in a car accident? I'd take being dumped any day of the week.

Edited January 12, 2014 by pickflicker

[JDPT]

H2D-

 

Think of you mental state just a few months ago, there is no denying that you've made profess, we all have friend.

Focus on you and no oneness, I'm certain I've told you that in the past.

Nothing is perfect and that's what I'm recently learning to embrace, take it as it comes and make the best of the situation. Hang in there, we are all here with you.

[Fufu]

sadly from this high now its getting me under and a lot. tommorow is anniversary day. in the mean time she keeps posting backround pics on fb with phrases like.-when you decide to dont care life is better,- or nth is impossible.-

 

could easily be cause i ignored the hell out of her.

 

it pains so much as i get close to tomorrow day....i wonter what she might be thinking.

 

lets hope this relapse is supposed to happen and is temporal.

 

I think to a great certain degree, you allow yourself to keep running in circles. Make the right choice, know nothing about what she's doing or saying because really it doesn't concern you anymore.

 

Don't let yourself get strung along...

[hurts2death]

friends thank you for the support. you r the only one to really talk to like that.

 

 

the thing is i am sure i am going better inside me. some days ago i took a taste of how it feels to be completely free inside. it was awesome.then a big down followed. weird enough i cried... i must figure out not to trigger my soul when i visit places alone that we used to go together.

 

i am sorry but since love dont have measure, i would never be able to love someone with the handbrake on. i literally gave it all to her, she was my first "love" 3 years planning to get married. almost a year of living together.

 

by her choice to dump me for trying single life i really really WITNESSED HELL. and i dont oversay it here. i have been through everything with physical pain believe me nth compares at all.....

 

its just some hours before anniversary day. i am going to paint some walls in my building, i want to make it pass like i sleep to not think of it at all.

 

i am sure i will win this battle.i took a taste of freedom and i will do everything to make it like that for me. i deserve it.

[hurts2death]

guys breadcrunps apply also for calling hald a year after break up? are the dumpers starting to feel the break up at this point?

 

hell she wont give up. the more i ignore the more steps she does to madness.

 

she called me hidden number at 05.30 probaply she returned from drinks?

 

and why she called me? i ofcourse ignored and returned to sleep.i am a good boy i sleep fully at night.

 

 

it seems indeed seh gets curious why i didnt answer her text on new years first day. ................

[hurts2death]

it seems that each time saturday night she goes out she misses me? a dumper perspective on that?

wtf it sounds crazy. i mean. ok she dump me for having the freedom of flirting and all that bull****. and when she does that she thinks of me?

 

people aint that crazy?

[hurts2death]

barky fufu jdpt how r you?

 

i am doing well almost free inside me. i just did sth stupid.

 

someone called hidden number and i answer(i thought it could be job related)

 

once i answered i heard her family backround noises.and she hanged up.

 

so this is the first time of contact? does it count?

 

why she still calls?

[hurts2death]

well remember me? still alive.

 

i recently started getting some calls from my exs district. weird enough.

 

i witnessed it people.

 

almost a year after break up i saw pics of my ex with her new guy. i felt nothing. zero. absolutely as i am looking some stranger, maybe i am healed?

 

sometimes though i feel pain in my dreams. cant seem to get away from my subconscious.

 

the greatest fear of my life now is sth i dont care about. and it feels strange.

 

i already clearly think of my next gf.

[leoc1973]

this happens to so many young couples. When you said that you got angry with her for having a drink with another woman I knew exactly what was going on. She is young and she wants to have fun. Its as simple as that. I am sure she loves you but she feels suffocated. I had this happen to me when I was your age. I tried everything to get her back but I will almost guarantee that as soon as you let her go and meet someone else and stop calling or texting or messaging her she is going to try to come back to you.

 

She will send you a message saying something like "hey I hope you are doing well" or "I was listening to a song and it made me thing about you" She will say something that makes it sound like she doesn't care very much but she does.

 

If you want her back.. when she sends you a message and I almost guarantee she will you have to either ignore her first message or you have to pretend you do not care or you care very little.

 

That saying "if you love something let it go and if it comes back its yours forever" Sayings like that don't just appear out of nowhere. They came from people and their experiences.

 

Sounds totally stupid but you have to let her go if you want her back. Go to the gym to workout and go have fun with friends and other women. Especially other women. I never ever thought I would get over my ex when I was your age and I never thought I would love anyone more but I met the love of my life after she broke up with me. Then she was the one begging and I told her to go to hell.

 

Go to the gym and work out. Go out with friends. Play video games. Do whatever you want because sometimes it feels so free to be single. Just think about it man you can do whatever you want with whoever you want and you don't have to answer to anyone. You can sleep with a different girl every night of the week and not feel one big guilty for it.

 

If you are having trouble sleeping then come on the internet and read a million stories from other people till your eyes are so tired that you can't stay awake. Take a few minutes every day to cry or scream or punch something or whatever but then the rest of the day you live your life. You don't put your life on hold waiting for her because if she doesn't come back trust me. When you are an old man you might not even remember her name and that will be a lot of valuable time you wasted. Have some fun bro! you are single.