How do I get over the feeling of being disposable?

[Lasticee]

Ever since I was little I suffered from abandonment issues because of my dad. I used to be outgoing until I hit depression in high school. Even though I know I was the one who isolated myself from my friends, I still feel like they left me when I became depressed. When I overcame my depression, I couldn't go back to my social self but my ex was the first one to break through that. Now that he dumped me too, I feel even worse.

 

We had the type of relationship where we just both felt if we were not be together anymore, we would still be friends. But for him to want absolutely nothing to do with me and even putting all the blame on me, I feel so worthless. I feel so disposable and it's killing me inside.

 

I know me wanting to talk to him is simply because I am lonely, not because I still love him, so how do I get over this? I know it would help to get some friends but I find it hard to make friends in college since they all seem to have their own cliques already and I barely used social media (which is how a lot of people get closer as friends when not at school)

[twixed]

Lasticee,

 

Because we live in a disposable society. Humans have their wires crossed in this westernized world were things are valued and people are used. In the U.S. the average person disposes of 30 lbs per week (13 kgs). Thats approximately the weight of a third of a person!

 

Its so easy to turn the other way when we notice the homeless on the streets, the hungry asking for food and the needy wanting for clothes.

 

Did you know that 85% of the homeless are single women in their twenties with one to two children in tow? Be glad he didn't leave you pregnant.

 

You have to force yourself to be social and this statement,

I find it hard to make friends in college since they all seem to have their own cliques already and I barely used social media (which is how a lot of people get closer as friends when not at school)

is mostly false.

 

There are lots of students at your college who are in the same place you are: highly introverted, experiencing some form of distress and in need of a friend. Additionally, social media has shown to make people even more depressed, so good thing you're avoiding it. Its still early in the semester and (believe it) people are willing to get to know you if you are friendly, smile and get them to talk about themselves. You're on the right track with what you need - something to get your mind off of him and doing something with new friends.

 

Good Luck and be brave.

[Brown-Eyez]

Lasticee,

 

Because we live in a disposable society. Humans have their wires crossed in this westernized world were things are valued and people are used. In the U.S. the average person disposes of 30 lbs per week (13 kgs). Thats approximately the weight of a third of a person!

 

Its so easy to turn the other way when we notice the homeless on the streets, the hungry asking for food and the needy wanting for clothes.

 

Did you know that 85% of the homeless are single women in their twenties with one to two children in tow? Be glad he didn't leave you pregnant.

 

 

There is so much sad truth in your statement!!

 

I too, feel very discarded, and it's a hard feeling to overcome (especially if it stems from old childhood wounds..) and it sure doesn't help that we do live in a society where people are so self-absorbed that tossing something away means nothing.

 

I just gotta keep reminding myself, I do mean something!!

 

so maybe that's why I'm so crazy about recycling?!

[Dolphono]

Ever since I was little I suffered from abandonment issues because of my dad. How do I get over the feeling of being disposable?

 

Q. Who have been by your side ever since you were little?

A. YOURSELF

 

I have two best friends that are always there for me, and their names are: Mr. Me and Mr. Myself. When those two clowns aren't enough of a support team.

Then I head to the nearest closet and get on my knees.

Love yourself and desire to chillout with only yourself, you'll be amazed how all of a sudden, folks outside that close knit cycle will want to be apart of that clique.