I Don't Understand Overweight Women At All

[Keenly]

There are only a few things that bother me about obese and overweight girls.

 

Mainly just the listing of " average " build .

 

 

 

That being said, I'd totally date an overweight girl , assuming she didn't weigh more than I did. That's the line. They are just as capable of making me happy as any other girl.

[quankanne]

so sorry to hear that, 2sure ~ she shouldn't be worried about size, but about the fact that she's HEALTHY at such an early age. Because after you hit a certain point, it gets harder to stay healthy, no matter what you do.

 

as for "curvy" or being overweight, it's all in the mind. I've seen absolutely gorgeous heavier women who are more womanly and sexy in how they carry themselves physically and mentally than some slim, fit woman who is driving herself nuts worrying that her body's not "perfect" enough, and really, that is a shame. You're a woman ~ and large or not, you've got a beautiful body because a woman's body was created to be beautiful. Stick with that basic fact and all the other crap doesn't matter.

 

of course, being on the far end of 40, I really don't give a fart what people think about my body shape, because it's *mine* ... I do, however, give a fart that I need to work at being healthier, and that's more important than "looking better."

[insomniax]

Curves on a woman are awesome! The only time i ever have a problem with an overweight girl is when she complains about it but does nothing to change it. Outside of medical complications of course.

[dichotomy]

I have recently read BMI is less regarded then it used to be. Weight can also be misleading in some instances (it would be for me). However, height to waist ratios seem to be gaining some more relevance.

 

Waist To Height Ratio Calculator

[dichotomy]

Average is average.

Last time I checked, in US the aerage woman is a size 16 - which, btw falls in plus size as far clothing goes.

So if a woman says she's average, you can expect love handles.

 

Maybe it's not women's perception of the 'average' that it the problem.

 

But I love reading how men on here complain that women only go for tall and athetic men and then read this kind of crap.

 

Sometimes when I hear guys saying a girl is too big, my first thought tends to be, "dude, maybe it just your too small".

[PlumPrincess]

Also I became more aware of the pics their first pic is some gorgeous dude by the third pic he starts looking more like Homer Simpson.

Oh God, so true...

[Maleficent]

Sometimes when I hear guys saying a girl is too big, my first thought tends to be, "dude, maybe it just your too small".

 

Hahahaha! That's right! Never thought of that one

[Leigh 87]

I still don't understand why a person does not understand overweight women.

 

..... I imagine the OP gawking at bigger women and being like: :eek: man. I don't understand them.

 

Maybe a science 101 about genetic predisposition and its correlation to body shape and body fat% will better educate the OP.

[Maleficent]

Oh God, so true...

 

When it comes to online dating, if I don't like the guy's look on his worst photo, it's a no. period.

[Imported]

Average is average.

Last time I checked, in US the aerage woman is a size 16 - which, btw falls in plus size as far clothing goes.

So if a woman says she's average, you can expect love handles.

 

Maybe it's not women's perception of the 'average' that it the problem.

 

But I love reading how men on here complain that women only go for tall and athetic men and then read this kind of crap.

 

 

Just show a current picture. How hard can this be? Pictures that show exactly what you look like, never mind descriptors. The times I have browsed online dating sites, I never used body type as a search criteria. What ever pops up, I just scan through pictures. Sometimes I see pictures that appears like the girl is attractive and then I click to check it out and ...clearly that was one of few flattering pictures.

 

And yeah, there are men (I guess) and women that put up old pictures of when they actually looked attractive along with their current pictures. I appreciate that they put up what they look like now, but what was the point of putting up old pics from many pounds ago? AM I suppose to think....'oh wow, she use to look attractive and have a tight body...' and then hold that image in my mind while looking at a face hidden by fat and a body with rolls of fat? I just think that person is holding onto the past that has slipped away. They'd be better served seeing and thinking of themselves as what they are now and trying to change that if they want than they are living in a fantasy that they still look like what they use to ....nevermind the extra 50+ lbs. Some of it is really sad because they use to look really good and then....WTF!@@!! OMG!! So sad! And moving on.

 

Anyway, describe yourself as whatever, but have current pictures that actually shows what you look like. I will do the same! I have no problems clicking through pictures. My internet is pretty damn fast and I can scan easily.

[Joyvke]

Being overweight right now I'm trying to work my way down. I'd like to weight around 66kilos/ 145lbs at a height of 163/ 5,4". Perhaps 70 will do as well. I like to be curvy and I used to be back then as well. Hourglass shape, so I'd love to get there once more. Galbladder got removed, many dramalamas etc.

[crederer]

I am BBW and proud of it

 

#girlpower

 

If that is you in those pics, you're far from BBW.....( I actually typed "BBQ" originally, which I found to be really humorous for some reason)

 

As for the OP, who cares man? Some women are big and some are small and some are in between. If they claim they're "curvy" and you feel they're more than that, then what's it to you?

 

I personally know a couple skinny girls that eat like horses and don't work out at all, and I know a couple of bigger girls that eat like rabbits and are large. I like girls all shapes and sizes. Variety is the flavour of life.

[Moe'sTavern]

If that is you in those pics, you're far from BBW.....( I actually typed "BBQ" originally, which I found to be really humorous for some reason)

 

As for the OP, who cares man? Some women are big and some are small and some are in between. If they claim they're "curvy" and you feel they're more than that, then what's it to you?

 

I personally know a couple skinny girls that eat like horses and don't work out at all, and I know a couple of bigger girls that eat like rabbits and are large. I like girls all shapes and sizes. Variety is the flavour of life.

Some people like to nitpick about anything I guess.

[FitChick]

.One thing I have learned in life and business is....

 

"Its always better to underpromise and over deliver"

 

Always...

Which is why, tempted though I am, I will never have

on my dating profile. Plus I couldn't afford it anyway.

[thefooloftheyear]

Which is why, tempted though I am, I will never have

on my dating profile. Plus I couldn't afford it anyway.

 

Some of those photographers can make chicken salad out of chicken shyt!

 

TFY

[Eggplant]

Use the BMI and body fat percentage as an objective measurement.

[BradJacobs]

Why do overweight women always make it seem like the only option for a woman to be is either BBW or super anorexic? What happened to just a happy medium of having some curves but still being pretty athletic and having a flat stomach?

 

 

Also since when did Curvy turn into euphism for BBW? Curvy should mean a girl with a nice shapely figure and a nice midsection

Generally speaking the poor see everyone with money as rich much like every fat person sees a skinnier person as a stick.

 

Not hating on BBWs. Giving you a reason as to why BBWs seem to think there are only two types of bodies.

[Kristine]

My favorite is most men say athletic and toned, they are so not athletic or toned. They are anywhere from underweight (skinny), to no muscle tone (i.e. average), and few fatties thrown in there. I almost always avoid the people who cannot even describe themselves accurately.

 

If your skinny admit it, if your average say it, if you've got a few extra pounds own up to it! That is all I'm asking. Not every guy is athletic and toned.

[Leigh 87]

I still can't believe that this guy made a thread saying he couldn't believe overweight women.

 

[TB Rhine]

To be fair, I think he was saying specifically that he didn't understand why overweight women are so critical of ladies thinner (or more attractive) than they are. And as an overweight man, I have to say this is a quality I've noticed in women moreso than men.

 

Basically, I've never heard a guy - fat, thin, average, or otherwise - say anything to the effect of, "Grumble grumble, these stick-thin Brad Pitt types, starving themselves to look good... is that what women REALLY want?" This is not to say that heavyset men don't gripe about not getting enough attention from women, just that they don't seem to feel the need to tear down or belittle more attractive guys.

 

I can remember sitting in some of my college classes and hearing heavyset (or even just a little bit chubby) women complain about how hot, thin or toned women are "not what a REAL woman looks like," they have to starve themselves to be that way, etc. And I look around the class of a hundred or so people and think to myself, at least 60% of the women in here are what most would consider to be very attractive, so what world are these "real" women living in? They act like attractive women are some rarity, an unrealistic standard that all women are unfairly held to, that such women must starve themselves and otherwise ravage their bodies to look that way, etc. And it's patently untrue.

 

Essentially, I think a certain subset of women (women who may not be the exception, but are not the rule, either), for the purposes of bolstering their self-esteem, have been encouraged to think of themselves as "the average," as what "most women" look like, and to see anyone more or less (usually more) attractive than they are as some sort of aberration - as "part of the problem," so to speak. And again, I'm an overweight man, who knows what it's like to be treated with disdain by the opposite sex, so I say this with all sympathy for the self-esteem issues and dismissive behavior these women must deal with, probably on a daily basis.

 

I think this may be women's equivalent to the Alpha vs. Beta/Nice Guy vs. Jerk mentality among men. Since men are judged, in terms of what women are sexually responsive to, primarily by their possession of certain aggressive/alpha male characteristics - characteristics that have been socialized out of many men because they're no longer as economically advantageous as they once were - and women are judged primarily on base physical attractiveness, you get a parallel sort of dichotomy at work. Hence, you get women complaining about men only going for "stick-thin supermodels," and men complaining about women only going for "a**holes who treat them like sh*t."

[bentleychic]

Yes, women abuse the body type description on dating sites. "Average" could be 100 pounds overweight, and "Athletic" doesn't require any muscle tone at all.

 

And I love the common description "I'm not a stick thin Barbie and I'm not 350 lbs either." Great, so there's only a 250 pound range to guess, in which I'm guessing about 335.

 

But don't worry, she's not hiding anything with 8 pictures of just her face.

Considering size 14 is the "average" size for women in America, I think even men are confused on the dating sites if they are calling fluffier girls fat and liars for saying they're average. LOL

 

FTR, I never know what to consider myself. My perception in the mirror is not the same as reality. Maybe if I just put BBW, people will be happy when they meet me and I'm smaller?

 

/tongue in cheek

Edited September 22, 2013 by bentleychic

[thefooloftheyear]

Considering size 14 is the "average" size for women in America, I think even men are confused on the dating sites if they are calling fluffier girls fat and liars for saying they're average. LOL

 

FTR, I never know what to consider myself. My perception in the mirror is not the same as reality. Maybe if I just put BBW, people will be happy when they meet me and I'm smaller?

 

/tongue in cheek

 

Not a bad idea!

 

Its always better to underpromise and overdeliver!

 

TFY

[bentleychic]

Yeah, but what if I get there and they're a chubby chaser and then they come post on LS about this dumb broad that lied about being BBW on her dating profile?

 

Damned if you do, damned if you don't! :-p

 

 

(FTR, what I said about the mirror, I still myself as my 60+lbs self that I was a few years ago. My brain hasn't quite caught up with my body. LOL)

[dichotomy]

Yeah, but what if I get there and they're a chubby chaser and then they come post on LS about this dumb broad that lied about being BBW on her dating profile?

 

 

I resemble that remark.

 

But then again, defintiion of a big woman is relative for certain guys.

Edited September 25, 2013 by dichotomy

[bentleychic]

I've never been with a guy that didn't appreciate bigger woman. (And by bigger, I mean curves. I was 135lbs when I got married and had the hour glass figure and really no fat to speak of. I WISH I looked like that now. LOL) Now I'm bigger than that thanks to having kiddos (and enjoying baking and eating, I'll be honest) and when I talk about gaining weight, bf says "WHERE? You haven't gained weight!" Ummm...yeah, I have. Not much, but I sure have. When I talk about losing weight, he tells me he hopes I won't get too skinny or lose my @$$. LOL He loved the way I looked 60lbs ago and he loves the way I look now. I'm not sure he'll be as thrilled if I lose the final 30lbs that I'm aiming for!