aydensmommy Posted August 31, 2013 Share Posted August 31, 2013 hey everyone so my husband and i have been married since july 19th. lately it seems as if he doesnt want me anymore, all he does is play xbox and always sends me places with his oldest son... cause he wants "alone time". in a way i dont know what is going on, i just found out i was pregnant and im 5 weeks along. well he told everyone we were trying for a baby and now he wants me to get an abortion cause "he cant afford it". i asked him why we were trying and he said to make you happy and then when he found out i was pregnant he didnt want it anymore..... i went to the ER last night for possible ectopic pregnancy and he said "my honest opinion is i really hope you are having an ectopic pregnancy or a miscarriage because then i wont have to fork out 600 dollars for an abortion" he also said if i decide to keep the baby i have to move out cause he will resent it.. i just dont know what to do, he never spend any time with me and im getting depressed.... help???? Link to post Share on other sites
Eivuwan Posted August 31, 2013 Share Posted August 31, 2013 Why are you still married to him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author aydensmommy Posted August 31, 2013 Author Share Posted August 31, 2013 i thought maybe he would be different or change Link to post Share on other sites
Eivuwan Posted August 31, 2013 Share Posted August 31, 2013 He likely won't change. But he most definitely will not if you do not set boundaries with the way he is treating you. Link to post Share on other sites
ChooseTruth Posted August 31, 2013 Share Posted August 31, 2013 (edited) Oh man, I'm so sorry. That's horrible. Abortions are an awful thing to go through. Please don't do it. I had an exGF in highschool who had had an abortion in the previous relationship and it scarred her emotionally so badly. She felt so much guilt, not to mention the trauma of the whole bloody experience. She wished more than anything that she had kept the baby and spent so much time trying to make up for it. About 20 yrs later my exwife had a "spontaneous abortion" or very early miscarriage and watching her go through just that was bad enough... She was extremely horrified at the feeling of a child dying within her. It was a bloody nightmare. Imagine, if you had done that deliberately! She had actually asked me if I wanted her to abort and I had said no because of my previous experience with my exGF in highschool. Believe me I had reason to want her to abort...we weren't sure if I was the father. Your H has no good reason to ask this of you. Personally it angers me and I think he has no idea what he's asking of you. People are never ready for children, that's just how it goes. You just have to do it. I'm sorry you don't have a supportive husband in this situation... If you divorce, please do it soon. I think the less the baby remembers of the whole thing the better. Can your parents take care of you two if it comes to that? Edited August 31, 2013 by ChooseTruth Link to post Share on other sites
LilGirlandOW Posted August 31, 2013 Share Posted August 31, 2013 Wow, what a *****ing a$shole!!! loose the dead beat! Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted August 31, 2013 Share Posted August 31, 2013 i thought maybe he would be different or change He'd have to change 180 degrees just to get to indifferent as right now he's openly hostile. He says he'll leave you if you have your child? I'd let him follow through! What other children live with you? Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
It-is-what-it-is. Posted August 31, 2013 Share Posted August 31, 2013 I see that your first child's father was abusive to you. I am concerned that you are attracted to men who treat you badly. You may need to consider that he's going to be this way, and you need to protect yourself and your children and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted August 31, 2013 Share Posted August 31, 2013 Now is this the same guy that cheated on you, pulled a gun on you, beat you into preterm labor and broke your ribs while you were pregnant and then beat you again after the baby was born and ruptured your post-partum uterus back in May????? Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted August 31, 2013 Share Posted August 31, 2013 Now is this the same guy that cheated on you, pulled a gun on you, beat you into preterm labor and broke your ribs while you were pregnant and then beat you again after the baby was born and ruptured your post-partum uterus back in May????? Because if so then no, we can't help you if you are going to continue to get naked with him and spread your legs for him after he has shown you the kind of person he is. We can't change him or his behavior and there is no magic words or pixie dust that you can say or do that will turn him into a decent human being. The only thing we can do is to advise you to do whatever it takes to get away from him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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