crazyinpa Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 ok so here it goes... i have a girlfriend that i have been with for about 3 years... we go to college together and for the most part things are good... i feel that we have formed a strong and good relationship and no matter what it is we can always work out our problems... except for this... so my question is should i be expecting physical pleasure after such a long time together... the main reason i ask this is because i have given her pleasure 100 fold more times then received... i know this makes be a loser or what ever, but i feel that it should be both ways... am i wrong in thinking this... is there something i should do??? is there anything that i can do with out saying anything directly or should something like this even bother me??? or should it be something that i should finally bit the bullet and say something to her and see what her response is? any help in this matter will help me greatly... i have been going crazy thinking about it... Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 but i feel that it should be both ways... am i wrong in thinking this... No - you are not wrong in thinking this. or should it be something that i should finally bit the bullet and say something to her and see what her response is? You've been together 3 years - I think you should be able to talk openly & honestly about any issue that bothers you, including sexuality. Dropping hints or chaning your own behaviour are rarely successful tools of communication & it is very likely that she'll mistake your change in behaviour for something else entirely. Link to post Share on other sites
JackieQ Posted November 20, 2004 Share Posted November 20, 2004 You've been together three years. I assume that means she cares about you. If she cares about you, she probably wants to pleasure you. If you don't say something, how is she to know there's a problem. If you don't want to go at it head on...how about something like, I really like it when you...or it would be fine with me if you... . Or, explore things together...opening up some sort of "how to" book would let you bring up a lot of things that you might not want to just blurt out. Jackieq Link to post Share on other sites
fiyah Posted December 7, 2004 Share Posted December 7, 2004 tell her about it.. and dont ever look down on yourself .. Link to post Share on other sites
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