skibrat Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 hi, I have been in my relationship for 6 mths and it has been LD for 3 months. Neither of us originally wanted a relationship but could not stop and didn't want to, so here we are living in different countries. What I'm having problems with is that my BF has not had a girlfriends for a very long time, and it was only a 4 mth relationship and he got hurt, so he decided to spend his life as a batchelor. But now I have come along, when we are together it is fantastic, so romantic, so much fun, so casual, so just feels great. But after a while of not been together he questions what we are doing and doesn't know what he wants, is scared of hurting me or getting hurt, we then see each other and it is great again and he wants to continue. He talks about the future, well making plans to see each other and the fantasy of a life together. The thing is I don't know how to make him realise that it's ok to feel scared, that I know he has a protective wall up to stop him from getting hurt and also I get scared of him changing his mind. I get to see him in a few days, he seems excited about and making plans of what we're going to do, I'm also getting to meet his family. I just want him to realise that I'm not going to hurt him, that I'm happy to take it slow but I cannot handle him changing his mind all the time. Does any one have any advice for us, he is an extremeley honest man who will talk, it just takes a while. Link to post Share on other sites
Barby Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 You probably can't make him see it, you will have to show him and over time I think he will naturally see how much you are into him and begin to trust you. Being in different countries is probably playing a bigger role in his insecurities. Link to post Share on other sites
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