scubasteve Posted September 1, 2013 Share Posted September 1, 2013 So the only date I ever been on was meeting a girl from online for coffee ever since then it seems I can't get a single date. I don't have a lot of free time to actually go out and meet people. Online dating seems like a bust. So should I just take a break from dating all together? Link to post Share on other sites
daisylane Posted September 1, 2013 Share Posted September 1, 2013 I couldn't have said it better cherrypum. Dating shouldn't be a full-time job. I would look into joining a fitness centre or another place where you could socialize with people. Link to post Share on other sites
tart6245 Posted September 2, 2013 Share Posted September 2, 2013 It will come with time. I haven't been on a legit date is almost 2 years now - when I say legit I mean I know it's a date when I go on it. Link to post Share on other sites
El Brujo Posted September 2, 2013 Share Posted September 2, 2013 Why is the OP complaining? I haven't been on a date in almost 2 years, and before that, I was dateless for 23 years. On the positive side, during the last 2 years, I've had the time to have a yard sale, built new furniture for my living room, fixed up my kitchen and bathroom, and wrote and published 2 new books. Not exactly sitting around feeling sorry for myself if you catch my drift. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author scubasteve Posted September 2, 2013 Author Share Posted September 2, 2013 I dont think dating should be a fulltime job. and something that you have to do all the time. so a year no date is noting wrong with it. and i think the best thing to do even when you dont want a partner is socialize. and meet people. talk to them and just be friends. instead of planning dates where everyone think they have to act a certain way. by socializing you meet people more the way they are, because there is no pressure to impress. and starting as freinds you can see better what kind of person the other is. beside you have more freinds then. and if you see someone you like more after a while socializing you can ask her on a date. also i think taking time for yourself to think about life and better yourself etc. is good. instead of keep dating and having relationships one after another.. That's why I'm in school. Trying to get a better education for me. So far it's doing good keeping my mind off of things . Link to post Share on other sites
Scales Posted September 6, 2013 Share Posted September 6, 2013 The key to getting a date is looking at how you spend your time. A lot of people don't have dates and are happy doing other things. The truth is if you do not go out looking for dates, they will not come to you. This applies for women and men for the most part. You really have to make it a priority. I recommend not doing online dating unless you are prepared to do the research. Doing activities outside your house in groups is the best way to gain a social circle. When socializing, the best thing to do is to make friends by being positive and providing conversation. If that seems like a problem, you can only get better by going out and trying to improve. The more people you know, the more events you are invited to, the more friends of friends who are looking to date open up. It is key to try to pinpoint the behaviors that are keeping you from succeeding at getting a date. the first question I would ask myself is "How many times did I ask someone out/get asked out last year?" if the answer is less than 2, you need to know why. If you asked out a bunch of girls and got rejected every time, you should try to understand why. Changing your image and behavior is a great way to improve yourself for dating. Link to post Share on other sites
MilkyWay Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 (edited) The key to getting a date is looking at how you spend your time. A lot of people don't have dates and are happy doing other things. The truth is if you do not go out looking for dates, they will not come to you. This applies for women and men for the most part. You really have to make it a priority. I couldn't agree more with the poster Scales. Doing activities outside your house in groups is the best way to gain a social circle. When socializing, the best thing to do is to make friends by being positive and providing conversation. If that seems like a problem, you can only get better by going out and trying to improve. The more people you know, the more events you are invited to, the more friends of friends who are looking to date open up. It is key to try to pinpoint the behaviors that are keeping you from succeeding at getting a date. the first question I would ask myself is "How many times did I ask someone out/get asked out last year?" if the answer is less than 2, you need to know why. If you asked out a bunch of girls and got rejected every time, you should try to understand why. Changing your image and behavior is a great way to improve yourself for dating. Also totally agree with poster Scales on this point. If you go to my profile and read my post in the "In Search Of" section of Loveshack, http://www.loveshack.org/forums/transitioning/search/416446-25yo-female-single-all-my-life-want-have-bf-sexual-experience I did a posting on Loveshack, because i am a 25 yr old female who never had a bf or sexual experience, because i have a dating preference that does not suit me well in my region, am insecure about my body and never looked for people to go on dates with. although i have been hit on by people i could never be attracted to, and if i do fall for someone, fall for someone who is unavailable- married. Edited September 10, 2013 by MilkyWay Link to post Share on other sites
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