she came back to me...

[silenoz]

Every post I've made has been to do with one girl... We had been together for over 1.5 years. She left me last May because she didn't think things were working between us. Our relationship was getting stale. We spent most of the summer apart, I met one girl in the last few months and we got on really well but I don't think she's right for me. My ex met a few guys and slept with two of them, and then decided she had made a big mistake...

Everything she's done over the last few months has hurt me so much, I've been so cut up over everything. After we split I tried so hard to get her back but couldn't. Eventually I gave up and started to move on and she went off to another country to work. Then, a few weeks ago she started to contact me again and told me she was still in love with me. After several phone calls, emails etc... she knew she had to see me again and said she would try to win me back. So a few days ago she made a huge effort to get over to me and we've been hanging out and talking, trying to take things slow but we can't help but kiss and hold each other all day and night. I've never felt so in love.

We're both young, (I'm 22, she's 20), neither of us were ever with anyone else before last summer. She keeps telling me she loves me and she's cried so much over the last month because she knows she's made mistakes and hurt me more than she can imagine.

I really want her back, I can't lose her again and I don't think we can ever be "just friends". She says she wants me but we're both worried that I'll never be able to get over the pain she's caused me. When I'm with her all that pain goes away but I can't help but worry. And I keep thinking of the fact that she was with other people. Can I ever get over this? I've taken risks with her in the past and been hurt, I want to think that all the bad things that have happened in the past will just stay there (in the past) and that we can both start again stronger.

We're both so much in love, but I know the pain is still there, I do feel resentment for everything she's done to me. The only thing I'm 100% sure about is that I love her and want her in my life.

She has to go back to work overseas in a few days, and I know that will just make things harder...

Am I just making another mistake or can this work?

[Weird]

well, only you can decide if if it worth trying again. You have to find if you have the ability to forgive her for the crap she has done to you and if you can and if you both will make an effort to communicate and make sure past mistakes don't happen again then I don't see why you two can't get back together and have it work. The long distance thing thugh will be tough and for me personally, I don't know if I could get back together because of that.

 

Oh and if you do decide to get back together have her get a damn STD test. Nothing like people who suddenly start sleeping with anyone after they break up with their first sexual partner.

[head/heels]

just take the time away to talk to her slowly but dont start going back out with her away...tell her you love her but need time to get over her indiscretions and put them truly in the past....

 

you cant be with her if you have any resentment....only if there is a clean slate!

 

or you will torment yourself and her and your relationship will be a complete sham!

 

finally, tell her that when she comes back you want her to be with you and just be patient with you and continue to talk as much as you do now.

 

that is my 2 cents good luck!

[daphne]

damn weird.

 

you're like my male alter ego. i'm tired of saying ditto so i'll just say "what he said".

and best of luck to you original poster.

[Weird]

Originally posted by daphne

damn weird.

 

you're like my male alter ego. i'm tired of saying ditto so i'll just say "what he said".

and best of luck to you original poster.

 

badass.