theone44 Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 I came to the conclusion that being dump or someone who have broken up with you is not as bad as you think. Yes,we get emotional hurt when someone break up with us......remember this, it not all your exes fault ...some of the fault fall on us. I hate when some people,start ranting and complianting how their exes did them wrong. To me ...that is a one- sided story on your part. I bet ya,if i sit down with some your exes,they will give me some of the bad things u did toward them. Now i might not know to much how some women work emotional,when it come to relationship,but i do know this that ,if a woman is getting all her need met at home with her man as long as he is not emontional clingy,a weakling,insecure disrespectful,cheating or abusive toward her. I promise ...she will stick to him like tar. I learn a lot from my break-up,and is now working to better myself for future relationship,or if my ex decided she want to give it a second chance. I'm not going to sit here,like some of ya'll,blaming your ex for the break-up. we need to fess-up,including myself......that we are the cause of some the problem that cause the break-up....esp... us men,we need to lay aside our masculicar and big-headed ego,cause it was some our fault our women decided to leave. Women don't leave us for nothing......some of our behavior had something to do with it. And why men and women....do u keep letting your exes mis-treating u emotional and mentally..well to my knowledge i think some people get a kick of letting themselves getting abuse by other. I been doing the no contact with my ex now going on 5 month........no contact what so-ever and i'm feeling great about my self now. Now i'm single again with more money in my pocket now.....From this day forth,it's going to be all about me now, and go after accomplished, some of my goals in life......by becoming an Real Estate investor...a long time dream of mine.... that where the money is,also taking computer classes on how to fix computer,and to get back into my drawing. Also think about learning to play the guitar. Now do ya''ll get what i'm saying. There to much to life to be worry about some ex,who could care less,if u drop off the face the earth. Oh yes,i miss my ex very much and i know we all on here do,but life don't stop with an ex....life still goes on.......... "Remember one door close and another is open for greater things in life" Link to post Share on other sites
Layzie1207 Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 my situation sucks because i know it is all my fault, and that burden is really really hard especially when i realize how much i love her afterwards. but i did learn a lot about myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 out of curiosity, english isn't your first language, correct? Link to post Share on other sites
Author theone44 Posted November 15, 2004 Author Share Posted November 15, 2004 Originally posted by Layzie1207 my situation sucks because i know it is all my fault, and that burden is really really hard especially when i realize how much i love her afterwards. but i did learn a lot about myself. Hey man at least you know you were wrong in your relationship and that is a great start. Most men on here still can't understand why their women left them,because of their own wrong doing. Money,success,sex or being kind doesn't keep women these day's,but doing what right toward them does. Don't worry layzie she will be back,but first you must do the "No Contact" completely and see what happy. Right now your begging for her back isn't going to work. Just work on yourself and then she will see your self improvement. Link to post Share on other sites
Author theone44 Posted November 15, 2004 Author Share Posted November 15, 2004 Originally posted by Weird out of curiosity, english isn't your first language, correct? LOL...........i know my english is rough i'm really working on it I see english class in the process. Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 15, 2004 Share Posted November 15, 2004 Originally posted by theone44 LOL...........i know my english is rough i'm really working on it I see english class in the process. hey man, it is good you are making an effort to learn it and get better at/with it. I hope I didn't offend you by my question. As for your original post, I agree that many (not all) here try and act like they have no blame for the relationship ending when they in fact do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author theone44 Posted November 16, 2004 Author Share Posted November 16, 2004 Originally posted by Weird hey man, it is good you are making an effort to learn it and get better at/with it. I hope I didn't offend you by my question. As for your original post, I agree that many (not all) here try and act like they have no blame for the relationship ending when they in fact do. You not the only one that told me about my bad English gram-mer,but my friend told me the same thing. I am not up here to put anyone down about what they going thru,but they need to realize that once your gf/bf breakup with you and don't want to be bother by you we need to respect their wishes and leave them the heck alone. When my gf left me i knew it was part of my fault ,but i did get my closure from. I really feel glad about myself,because when she broke up with me i didn't bother her one bit didn't call her i didn't try to e-mail or try to contact her whatsoever. I just gave her the silent treatment and out that is the best way do deal with an ex is to be calm,cool and collective. Your ex will respect you for that and see you as a strong person. I found out that most men and women don't do it. The begging,the pleading and cling to get them back never work anyhow. Link to post Share on other sites
head/heels Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 but i did pee myself when i read your post WEIRD! i was thinking the same thing! I too realize i am at fault in the relationship, but she bottled anything that bothered her or she didnt stress how important the little nuiances were as they came along..... so i was taken aback when she dropped the A bomb and blamed it all on me... well come to find out she didnt think it was at all my fault and she ended up admitting she just said that for a reason so that she didnt feel guilty for leaving me for someone else.... oh well, i know that there are very few out there that will love her with what i did (and she admitted that to her mom after she broke up with--in fact, she said to her mom "i know that i wont find anyone who will love me as deeply as he does") and that she is not healed enough from her first bf and his plague on her self-esteem to ever let anyone into her heart....i came so close that i truly believed she was my everything and i hers. But in retrospect, she was too afraid and guarded deep down to ever really turn herself over to me.....sadly, i was innocent, pure, and white as a lamb and turned over my heart, my virginity and my whole self in the first 3 months.....it just felt tooo perfect when we were together .....oh well SE LA VIE.....and all that jazz night all Link to post Share on other sites
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