Got to put my life back together right now.

[The Introvert]

Hie everyone........I just turned to this sub-forum in search of advice to achieve what the title says.

I need general advice to fix my troubled life.

 

Firstly, I am an outlaw and fatherlesness has been a huge stumbling block in my life because mom struggles to make ends meet.I am not well-connected and confident like my peers.I don't have any close friends anymore since I left school because of financial difficulties and I am just sitting home jobless whilst my peers are establishing themselves into careers.I have no one to talk to who can really help me out, it's like I am in poverty and isolation in a cold and uncaring universe.I have dreams of establishing a succesful business empire with my young brother who has a side job but thats a fantasy because of lack of capital.....At 20 I find myself rootless and confused....I don't want to turn to drugs and any sort of crime....somebody please advise me...I just can't keep living this way.

[Leegh]

I admire you for wanting to get things going for yourself. Your wanting to advance yourself is a very good trait. Perhaps you could get a job and start saving some money, and build up from there. Many, many successful people have started out with hard times. In addition, are there any books you could read that could help? There are many books out there on virtually all subjects.

[TouchedByViolet]

Get a job as soon as possible. Finding work is probably the single best thing you can do. Exercising would help you feel better about yourself and meet new people too. If you have a vision for school then sign up for that too. Sucks that you got a lot of difficulties to over come but you need to try.

[The Introvert]

Thanks Leegh....thanks TBV.....cool beings.....I just sorted out my CV and I am searching for a job, got a church friend trying to help on that.....ya, I need to make it.

[beautifulearth83]

If you feel you're at the bottom, the only way is up.

 

I'd recommended stripping down your life to what you really have. Not dreams of business empires or anything like that. Just take a look at what you have.

 

I truly believe that everybody has what they need to get to a better place, you just need to know how to play your cards.

 

Quit smoking, stop buying doritos, create a life that works for you. (I don't know if you smoke or eat doritos).

 

But I hope you know what I mean. Don't think so much about how the world is crashing down, and start making some moves.

 

Drugs and alcohol are not the answer, as others have said, getting a job would be one of the best things you could do, no matter what it is. It helps build character and you meet people on a similar path. I wish you the best.

[The Introvert]

Sweet.....I'll definately focus on what I have and hey drugs and alcahol aren't on my radar.

[mea_M]

You know what? The fact that you recognize everything you wrote is so good. I sense real motivation here to turn things around. The question is what first steps can you take?

 

 

Mea:)

[ellowmay]

Damn. Well my suggestion would be to either get an easy job or utilize your situation while you can to soul search. Start meditatin g and try to figure out what you want out of life. Leave your mind open and ask honest questions. Go out and do things.

If you keep yourself open people and opportunities will come your way. Follow your heart. Go for what you want. Find out who you are and stick to that. The more you go with the flow your life naturally takes, the more success you will have, and the happier you will be. Don't live by the standards of others, and don't compare yourself. Find out your destiny and seize that ****.