Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 4, 2013 Author Share Posted September 4, 2013 Then stop trying to justify it. Just let it slide and move forward and stop trying to spin it. if you read my previous posts, i'm done. there's no point in being part of someones life if they no longer want to be in mines. i've been cut off by her, thats how she deals with ppl, she does it with her family. sad to see her go from relationship to relationship, because she doesn't know what she wants. every guy in her past has dumped her or cheated on her, because she's a handful and has so much baggage. Link to post Share on other sites
mummyjonno Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 if you read my previous posts, i'm done. there's no point in being part of someones life if they no longer want to be in mines. i've been cut off by her, thats how she deals with ppl, she does it with her family. sad to see her go from relationship to relationship, because she doesn't know what she wants. every guy in her past has dumped her or cheated on her, because she's a handful and has so much baggage. And yet you were so hopelessly in love with her and still wanted her back 2 days ago... The only reason you don't want her now is because she verbally kicked your ass and pushed you off a cliff. If she called you tomorrow and said "I'm sorry I love you please take me back" You would, no doubt in my mind. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Malakas Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 dude, i know i f**ked up. what can i say, i'm not trying to make light of the situation. easy for all of you to point the finger at me and tell me i'm wrong. its not helping me at all. have some empathy, i had a nervous breakdown, i let my heart speak and not my mind. OP I understand.You still love your ex still have feelings and care for her.You are beyond yourself with worry and are having a breakdown. I know you were angry and dissapointed at how things went down.You say you have a history with suicide and even her friends worry about you,I suggest you try to calm down and be with your friends and family for now.You have ,through her friend,already let her know that you are sorry for what happened and she knows that you care for her and send your best wishes and prayers.That's what you wanted in the end.Now it's time to take some time off and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 4, 2013 Author Share Posted September 4, 2013 OP, you are dead to her, if she's anything like my soon to be ex. You do not exist to her. You can bring nothing to her. She does not want to see you, hear you, or be in the same room as you. It doesn't matter what her medical state is. My wife would rather be homeless, than to ever even entertain the thought of reconciliation. This is how some people are. We all want to be Forrest Gump, and care for our ex's even after they leave and get sick. Forrest Gump was a movie. Your ex doesn't give a **** about you. Didn't then, and doesn't now. Tough words, I know, but spare yourself the grief! the thing is Forrest and Jenny were never together really, just platonic friends. she only had sex with him because she felt sorry for him. she didn't love him back. hahaha. i used to be the one to take her to the hospital, and all that. i treated her good when we were in love. but you're right, i'm dead to her now. she's a monster, and i miss the old her, not the new one. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 4, 2013 Author Share Posted September 4, 2013 OP I understand.You still love your ex still have feelings and care for her.You are beyond yourself with worry and are having a breakdown. I know you were angry and dissapointed at how things went down.You say you have a history with suicide and even her friends worry about you,I suggest you try to calm down and be with your friends and family for now.You have ,through her friend,already let her know that you are sorry for what happened and she knows that you care for her and send your best wishes and prayers.That's what you wanted in the end.Now it's time to take some time off and move on. thanks for understanding. i let her know that i didn't want it to come to this. i know the only reason her best friend is talking to me is because my ex is worried i was going to commit suicide. i'm not going to bother myself with them anymore. it's time to move on, wait for someone new to come into my life, so i could have the relationship i deserve. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 You have been "dead" to her long ago man, get that through your head, the show was over a long time ago now it's time to go home. You would agree that you screwed up and we all screw up from time to time. Take this as a lesson, learn from it and grow as a person. People may come down hard on you here simply because you have been told countless times to lay low and let things be, however, you independently decided to do the total opposite. Now that's all in the past and leave it where it belongs, don't dwell on it or think "oh just one more time, one more time, I need to apologize!" none of that anymore! dust yourself off and move forward. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 4, 2013 Author Share Posted September 4, 2013 You have been "dead" to her long ago man, get that through your head, the show was over a long time ago now it's time to go home. i know it was. i realized it was all lies when she said she still loved me. when we were intimate, i knew there was something missing. it was cruel for her to lie to me, string me along and telling me we could work it out. hella sucks being lead on like that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mummyjonno Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 But you can't confirm she was lying/cheating on you. Just because she has a new boyfriend doesn't mean that she cheated. He could well be a rebound. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 4, 2013 Author Share Posted September 4, 2013 But you can't confirm she was lying/cheating on you. Just because she has a new boyfriend doesn't mean that she cheated. He could well be a rebound. no, she told me this... "i lied when i said i loved you still." i can't confirm she was cheating, but i was suspicious. hiding her phone from me all the time. saying "theres so many guys waiting for me to be single...i want to be with somebody else!" you know that feeling when your girl is cheating, its all the signs point to it. Link to post Share on other sites
mummyjonno Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 no, she told me this... "i lied when i said i loved you still." i can't confirm she was cheating, but i was suspicious. hiding her phone from me all the time. saying "theres so many guys waiting for me to be single...i want to be with somebody else!" you know that feeling when your girl is cheating, its all the signs point to it. Do you realize when she said "I lied when I said I loved you still" That was simply to hurt you. That wasn't true at all it's a tactic to hurt you. It doesn't mean she want's you by any means... but that was intended to sting! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 4, 2013 Author Share Posted September 4, 2013 Do you realize when she said "I lied when I said I loved you still" That was simply to hurt you. That wasn't true at all it's a tactic to hurt you. It doesn't mean she want's you by any means... but that was intended to sting! i understand that, wouldn't doubt she was trying to hurt me on purpose. because she was verbally abusive. i never put her down the way she did to me. i was passive. but when i had the balls to fight back and defend myself, i became the bad guy. that's a reason why we broke up, because i told her the truth about her being a pain in the a$$. she can't take rejection but she can sure deal it. Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 i know it was. i realized it was all lies when she said she still loved me. when we were intimate, i knew there was something missing. it was cruel for her to lie to me, string me along and telling me we could work it out. hella sucks being lead on like that. Don't dwell on it, don't do it. We can all make ourselves nuts dwelling over the past. We do and say things that we wouldn't otherwise do or say in a better mental state when in a relationship. Just a few days ago I happened to be at my parent's home and my mother asked me to help her with text messages on her Iphone5 as I was going through my mother's phone (with her permission of course) I saw so many texts from my ex to my mother saying "oh I love him so much I would never leave him!" yeah sure, just a month after she was dumping me. What I'm trying to say is we can't hold our exe's words hostage they are in the past, gone with the wind, nonexistent. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 4, 2013 Author Share Posted September 4, 2013 Don't dwell on it, don't do it. We can all make ourselves nuts dwelling over the past. We do and say things that we wouldn't otherwise do or say in a better mental state when in a relationship. Just a few days ago I happened to be at my parent's home and my mother asked me to help her with text messages on her Iphone5 as I was going through my mother's phone (with her permission of course) I saw so many texts from my ex to my mother saying "oh I love him so much I would never leave him!" yeah sure, just a month after she was dumping me. What I'm trying to say is we can't hold our exe's words hostage they are in the past, gone with the wind, nonexistent. i know, i have a problem with that. looking at old text messages from my ex, saying "i'm sorry, i haven't been myself lately. i want you back baby." then 2 months later, boom, broken up. complete 180. Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 i know, i have a problem with that. looking at old text messages from my ex, saying "i'm sorry, i haven't been myself lately. i want you back baby." then 2 months later, boom, broken up. complete 180. Delete those messages, you keep inflicting torture for no apparent reason. And yes it's easy to get rid of stupid text messages and emails like I did, just click delete. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 4, 2013 Author Share Posted September 4, 2013 Time to initiate NC, OP. Delete any and all emails , texts & chats, ask her friend to stop updating you on her condition, box away all mementos, seek some counselling, engage in hobbies and meeting new people. This chapter of your life is closed. already did that. i'm almost over it. she's a horrible person. i want someone better than her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 4, 2013 Author Share Posted September 4, 2013 Well, I hope you're realising the need for this and how important it is. NC is a bitch. It's a decision that needs to be made over and over again, every day. That's why you need a support network. Friends, family, hobbies, something to occupy you. all i have is this site really. all my friends and family don't want to hear about her, and my problems with her. they know she's psycho. i don't know if i'll ever be interested in talking to her again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted September 4, 2013 Author Share Posted September 4, 2013 You don't talk to your friends about it, you use them as a distraction. You go out, you have fun, you get active, you flirt with pretty girls. You use a counsellor to talk about it. being with my ex, i've learn just because a girl is pretty, doesn't mean their inside is too. hahaha. Link to post Share on other sites
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