soooconfused Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 Some of you may or may not have read some of my previous posts...in a nutshell, I am 34, my wife is 30. We have been married for 8 years, separated going on 2 years now. We have a beautiful 5 1/2 yr old daughter together. I would say i was primarily to blame for the marriage falling apart, i dont blame her one bit for the separation two years ago. I took full advantage of the situation and started dating right away. I also wanted her back, guess you could say i wanted my cake and to eat it too. I slept with 4 people during the separation, she slept with two. Fast forward to today. We are now back together (going on 6 months now). Still living apart, but getting ready to move into a brand new gorgeous single family house that we bought together which will be ready in march. I know she loves me more than life itself. My situation is one that i know many people only dream of, i am very happy for everything. However....even though i was with more people than her during the separation i still have a hard time with the fact that she slept with two people. It is tough to lay down in her bed knowing she has slept with other people in it. She has been able to accept what i have done and look beyond it. I find it completely amazing how she is able to do this and only wish i could do the same. She is truly a godsend coming back to me, she even did this against many peoples wishes because they thought i would only hurt her again. I want to give this 100%. I know she didnt do anything wrong because we were separated with no intentions of getting back together. I just need to figure out a way to get the mental crap out of my head...i thought it would be gone by now but it isnt....what can i do??? Link to post Share on other sites
Loam Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 It's quite possible that she feels the same pain as you on the inside, however she just chooses to keep it hidden. Have you told her that this bothers you so much? As to advice for getting over your gf sleeping with other people... I guess you just have to accept that while you are broken up she is free to do as she likes without considering you in every decision. I've had to deal with this, and although painful you can get over it. Another suggestion is maybe you should have (I don't know what you did) taken it slow on the physical side of the relationship and spent alot of intimate time together before actually engaging in sexual activity... this might have allowed both of you more time to deal with the sleeping with other people thing and feel closer together. Link to post Share on other sites
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