How Do I Break It Off

[PutARingOnIt]

I have been involved with this guy for over a year. He was out of the country for a while but now he is back and has been damn near begging to hook up for almost two weeks now. I like him alot but I am just not feeling the sneaking around and going to motels to hook up anymore. This guy is really persistent and doesn't like hearing the word no. How do I let him down easily? Do I just go no contact?

[Owl]

Tell him point blank that you're done, you're not interested in resuming the affair, you wish him well, and would appreciate it if he would stop trying to get you to 'hook up' with him.

 

Be that blunt, that specific.

 

There's no room for questions or error when you do that.

[whatatangledweb]

I agree with Owl. Then I would block him so he can't contact you again.

[Daisy2013]

Easy. Follow Owl's advice. And be strong and don't answer his calls. After being tigether 2 years, one month ago, 5 days after telling me he loved me and wished he could live happily ever after with me, he told me he needed to honor his commitment of 10 years to his wife. no mater how he felt. We've been through this before and always started up again. But this time, I quit. He continued to call as my friend once per week. I wasn't strong enough to ask him to stop, so last week I quit answering. It took 2 tries and he quit calling. Now we pass each other as strangers when we ran into each other over the weekend. My point is it won't take him long to move on if you do.

 

Good luck and be strong!

[whichwayisup]

I have been involved with this guy for over a year. He was out of the country for a while but now he is back and has been damn near begging to hook up for almost two weeks now. I like him alot but I am just not feeling the sneaking around and going to motels to hook up anymore. This guy is really persistent and doesn't like hearing the word no. How do I let him down easily? Do I just go no contact?

 

Just say no. My god, don't worry so much about hurting his feelings especially since it seems he's only after one thing. If anything, his ego will hurt..Not his heart.

 

Him not taking no for answer just shows how arrogant he is and how little he respects you.

 

Tell him no and then tell him not to contact you anymore. if he does contact you, IGNORE.

[georgia girl]

Tell him you are a "one woman, one man" girl. If he can offer that, you'd be happy to see him. If he can't, then it's not meant to be.

 

Then quit answering his calls. He'll get the message. If he really wants a future with you, he'll make sure he becomes a "one woman, one man" guy.

[MissBee]

I have been involved with this guy for over a year. He was out of the country for a while but now he is back and has been damn near begging to hook up for almost two weeks now. I like him alot but I am just not feeling the sneaking around and going to motels to hook up anymore. This guy is really persistent and doesn't like hearing the word no. How do I let him down easily? Do I just go no contact?

 

You can let him down hard too. It's probably preferable when someone is so persistent. Just tell him you don't think this is working and go NC.

[WakingUp]

If you don't want to do it, then good, don't do it.

 

Just tell him you don't want to. If you are quite clear about it, he should stop.

 

Don't worry about letting him down easily. Just state the facts.