mr.jon Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 So in the last two weeks I had hung out with the ex a couple of times, and in the last week she called me almost everyday to hang out. The majority of the time I would ignore the call or call back the next day, but on Saturday she convinced me to hang out with her to watch some friends of ours who play in a band. So I'm just hanging out with my friends laughing and whatever just being casual and then my friends leave and it's just me and the ex. She says stop looking at me like that and then starts holding my hand and looks deep in to my eyes tells me that she doesn't need a boyfriend right now and needs to see other people, but that she misses us and does'nt know what happened between us. Sure enough we end up sleeping together and there is a lot of tears but when we leave she seems happy and gives me a big hug and a kiss and tells me we'll see each other soon. So I see her yesterday at school in the doctor's office as I'm walking by and she comes and talks to me and I just play it cool and do small talk with her, and she's totally cold to me with her actions. So as I'm leaving I'm like "hey come visit me after your done" [i have an office at the university] and she says "maybe, but probably not" and walks away. I just feel like a weak pathetic person who keeps playing in to her stupid games and I totally regret not walking away from her on the weekend. I should have made sure that she wanted more from me before I did "Anything" with her. Plus if she want's to see other people and wants to be alone then why the hell would you embrace and start making out with your ex at the bar in front of all your friends. If she wants to casually sleep with someone then pick some drunk prick at the bar not me. I should have more respect for myself, but I feel used Now I just feel like a glorified dildo If any one has advice I'm all ears Here's a more in depth description of our break - up http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?threadid=46615 Link to post Share on other sites
Barby Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 Okay well I didn't read about your break-up but I must say that next time you'll know better. Maybe she was missing you, or maybe she just wanted to get laid...who knows....but since you did it and now she's blowing you off....well you see where you stand. If you're still wanting to be with this girl (which it sounds like you do) and she is only interested in "casual" sex with you, and only at her convience and still wants to date other people......the best thing for you would probably be to avoid contact with her. I'm not sure you're whole story but I think you should move on and find someone who's sure of what they want in life and with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 Originally posted by Barby If you're still wanting to be with this girl (which it sounds like you do) and she is only interested in "casual" sex with you, and only at her convience and still wants to date other people......the best thing for you would probably be to avoid contact with her. I don't know your story either, but I agree with Barby, you really have to move on and find someone else. This relationship is not going to lead to anything. Link to post Share on other sites
Lonestar Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 Never sleep with an ex unless you're prepared for it to be "just sex" That is usually how it turns out when exes end up back in bed, and a good majority of us have done it, myself included. If you're looking for anything more, then you're going to feel used when it's all over. I have to laugh at the "glorified dildo" comment. Sleeping with an ex is easier than sleeping with a stranger, especially when alcohol is invloved. It's also better because there are still emotions there and some level of caring, but it can be a big mistake if you can't keep your feelings separated from the act of sex. Sorry you got hurt but don't sleep with her anymore. You should know better now. Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 yeah don't sleep with her again but if the opportunity arises again and you give in, blast her in the eye with a nice shot of man chowder and laugh. kidding.... Link to post Share on other sites
savethedrama4allama Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 Originally posted by Weird yeah don't sleep with her again but if the opportunity arises again and you give in, blast her in the eye with a nice shot of man chowder and laugh. kidding.... Ew! Man chowder? Eeeeeeeeeeeew Link to post Share on other sites
head/heels Posted November 17, 2004 Share Posted November 17, 2004 eeewwwwwwww!!!!!!! no, in all seriousness...just keep on going and she will feel so damnn guilty one day (if not already) and will one day realize she is fugged up and then you will have your so called revenge... i know it doesnt equate, but really, the truth hurts and she is avoiding it and she will realize she is a user and played with your emotions and is scummmy... dont talk to her about it, it wont help....talk to the lord above.... Listen to KANYE WEST's "jesus walks"..........if you like rap...and jesus... even if he does cuss in the rap.......kanye west that is not jesus! Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted November 17, 2004 Share Posted November 17, 2004 I should have made sure that she wanted more from me before I did "Anything" with her. I think that you have already figured out the answer on your own. If she wants to casually sleep with someone then pick some drunk prick at the bar not me. From her point of view, you are safer and "easier" than that drunk pr*ck. (He might really turn out to be a pr*ck in the alternative sense of the word!) That doesn't excuse her using you, of course, but I hope it helps you understand her reasoning. The only thing to do after this sort of experience is to repair the ding in your pride and self-esteem by deciding not to let yourself be used like this again. Link to post Share on other sites
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