EC Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 I don't get people sometimes. Its like I have this friend...and she is wonderful and great but she is so insecure sometimes....and matter what I tell her she's like no I'm ugly, fat, not cool w/e and will mope around all day, and I tell her she's wonderful and a great friend and nothing she still mopes... But as soon as someone else, someone that means nothing tells her what I have been saying all along all of a sudden that person is the best and she walks around all happy all day..and it just irks me. Or like I told her to stop smoking cigarettes because it was bad for her and she never listened...so one day some co-worker at work tells her something and she quits bcause the co-worker said it was bad? Or She will always hang out with me and as soon as someone else even gives her attention she will ditch me. Well not ditch me but like I dont know it's weird. And then she feels all important when she hangs out with this certain crowd that just uses her and talks behind her back and it bothers me. I mean they say jump and she's all ready in the air for them and all they do is backstab her and use her and yet she still struggles to get in good with them..... It just really hurts sometimes and makes me feel useless or like a spec of nothing to her...ugh sorry done ranting... Does anyone else know someone like this? Link to post Share on other sites
tattoomytoe Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 it's not that you are not important, but she may think since you are her friend your opinions are bias somehow. but that also makes me wonder if she has told you white lies or stretched the truth in your favor. why not ask her why she never listens to you? Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 Sometimes it's the people that seem to "Love us" unconditionally, that we tend to NOT listen to as much... It isn't because we don't value them.. it is because somewhere in the back of our minds we think they are just saying we are wonderful.. and don't mean it.. kind of like when your Mom tells you that you're beautiful you know? isn't that like the law? She HAS to say that! It's unfortunate that your friend feels so insecure in herself and is always seeking approval from people she deems to be "cool" but she isn't alone.. lot's of people in the world just like that out there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EC Posted November 17, 2004 Author Share Posted November 17, 2004 Yeah I guess...It just hurts sometime you know..you see them trying so hard for people who could care less about them and receive nothing in return for being there for them. Link to post Share on other sites
tattoomytoe Posted November 17, 2004 Share Posted November 17, 2004 well let her know that you feel very under appriciated. friendship, as with any relationship, is a two way street....each person needs to give and recieve equally, or at least enough to be satisfied. Link to post Share on other sites
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