noble Posted September 6, 2013 Share Posted September 6, 2013 Anyone here ever experienced being in a rut or "bored" in the relationship? If so, were you able to bring back a little excitement by trying to do new things with your spouse or significant other? Does a little bit of a rut, or boredom, mean the relationship is doomed, or is it just another natural phase of being with someone for a long time? And if you've been in a rut, what made you stay rather than just cutting and running?? Link to post Share on other sites
miss_jaclynrae Posted September 6, 2013 Share Posted September 6, 2013 Ruts happen. Hopefully not that often though. For me, it was always about open communication. Feeling bored? Let's talk about it? What can we do to make it better? What do we feel we are lacking right now? If everyone ran when they hit a rut, marriages would never work. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted September 6, 2013 Share Posted September 6, 2013 IMO, a 'rut' doesn't doom a relationship, rather it's how people in the relationship feel and handle the rut that either dooms it or revitalizes it. OTOH, one can have all the excitement and 'new' in the world and, if the feelings are dead, they're dead. Imagine trying to cardio-convert a corpse. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted September 6, 2013 Share Posted September 6, 2013 I don't know you but I can GUARANTEE you are a chick. You're done. Just check out now and get it over with. WHATEVER you do, don't string him along. Let him go find his NEW wife (who will ALSO walk-away. They all do). Want to know what happened when I tried to fix what I perceived as a "rut" in my marriage? Didn't think so. i want to know what you did nervis? Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted September 6, 2013 Share Posted September 6, 2013 Anyone here ever experienced being in a rut or "bored" in the relationship? If so, were you able to bring back a little excitement by trying to do new things with your spouse or significant other? Does a little bit of a rut, or boredom, mean the relationship is doomed, or is it just another natural phase of being with someone for a long time? And if you've been in a rut, what made you stay rather than just cutting and running?? i dont get bored in relationships.....i dont get bored that often alone..i entertain myself....i was in a long distance relationship my ex worked away...he wasnt around to entertain me and i wouldnt expect him to entertain me when he came home either.....even though he entertained quite well...... i dont know if a rut to be is when it becomes routine......i dont mind routine.....stability is cool...... but i do know i am creative and boring is not something a partner ever feels with me.....and i have never felt a partner was boring......i am creative lol....so boredom isnt really a problem i have had to face.....i help people and my partners used to get involved with that...when i have been with someone we together, have enjoyed the quiet and peaceful times........i dont find them boring i find them absolute necessity we would often hide from the kids.......one of us would be dragging each other somewhere quiet and hidden........and we would relish the silence.....together...we never got bored funnily enough.....night times were our time when all was quiet.........and again no boredom there....smilin..........deb Link to post Share on other sites
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