Hung out with Ex not sure how I feel.

[tryingtobehappy]

We have been broken up for about 5 months now. Since the breakup (his choice) we have communicated via e-mails or phone calls at least once a week. I found out he was dating someone else, actually I found out after they were already broken up, he didn’t tell me I heard from a friend. So I just asked him about it, He defined it as “kinda” a girlfriend, but it didn’t work out. I was upset and I didn’t call him back or e-mail him for a month, then I got weak… he was a bit of a moron not understanding why I was so upset… but anyway that was a month ago… we were e-mailing each other back and forth, it was an upbeat subject and he asked if we could go out to dinner. I agreed and we met at the mall, it is the first time I have seen him since the breakup and I guess it went well… he brought up some of our old dates, we didn’t discuss any relationships we may have had since ours ended, I had fun, I guess. I thought I was ok that night but in the morning I was a little sad. He e-mailed me on Monday saying he had a great time but wasn’t’ sure if I did, he said he couldn’t tell what I was thinking. I responded it was nice and that I didn’t understand why he would think I thought otherwise. He actually called it a “date” which I thought was inappropriate since we are now “friends”. He asked me if I could help him Christmas shop soon, and I agreed, so I guess we have another time scheduled to hang out before the holidays.

 

So is he just really thinking we are good friends now or does he perhaps still want more? If I do decide I may want him back (which I am still not sure about any longer) what steps should I take? I am just afraid that if I do become close with him as friends that when we date other people they will not understand and we will have to end it anyway….is anyone friends with their ex’s on this site? How is that working?

 

 

FYI our relationship was great but I think it was too soon for him coming out of a 12 year marriage (with two kids)…I have very few complaints about him, it was all great up until three days before he ended it, he told me his wife (they were still getting separated when we were dating, they are now divorced) was soo nice to him and that he was “confused”… the next thing I now he left me….

[Jilly10340]

Well, if he called it a date then he's probably still interested.

 

I'm still friends with all my ex-boyfriends. But I didn't love them. The one person I did love I can't be his friend. It would just be too hard. We needed to move on with our lives seperately. Actually, my best friend is one of my ex-boyfriends, so I think friendship can work after time if you have no feelings for each other anymore.

 

Do you want to be back together with him? Do you really. If you do, my advice would just be to wait and see where things go and let him make the first move.