MissingMyHubby Posted September 8, 2013 Share Posted September 8, 2013 first off thanks to everyone for also criticisms and keeping up with my Saga... I think I finally realized everything that everyone was telling me... here goes: there was a day last week where she invited me over for coffee at her house with another mutual friend of ours. I got there an hour after he did. stayed 30. left and went for a jog by her house. I took a picture of the trails that she was on aware of, sent it to her and she replied "ill flip u over, rape u, throw u in the lake, and wash my hands and legs with ur hair" I didn't really respond to that... we go to the same doctor and coincidentally had appointments 2 hours apart so she asked if I wanted to exercise with her in between. I said that was fine. She ended up running late but said " my huz doesn't know the meaning of meeting up w my manchild." during our run she admitted to not being able to get a read on me because my texts come off different then I am a real person. we ran out of time but that was all I got. a couple days later we had a few funny texts and one of the things she said was " only you can send me this and make me smile.." it was nothing sexual tho, just a funny picture or something. later that day she said " thank God we understand each other." (our humor i guess.) at the end of it all, she said something very sexually explicit about putting a ball in my mouth etc etc with a smiley face, said she was out with her family now so I didn't respond. finally, yesterday, she's at an estate sale send me a picture of herself. this was the first time getting a self pic. it was a funny face so i sent her an old one of me. here is where I realized something: 1. One txt after MY pic response, she tells me how she's wearing a mask and wants to do her huz with it on. 2. Another time, last week, she mentioned something about being horny and I responded and then her next text was "ur lucky u dont have kids. im gonna rape my huz tonight." I realized something after all this. (yes, I realize I'm to blame for continuing to talk to her but hear me out). it seems whenever she perceives flirting to get slightly out of hand even if its by her own doing, she will put a kabosh on the flow by throwing out of nowhere banging her huzband. sorta to put me in my place. i feel like a cheap used tampon. she has texted me twice today 4 hours ago and now and im not responding. i finally see what everyone else sees. she is using me for an emotional or ego boost. admittedly I probably was too. so I guess it's time to do the fade.. but of course the other day she invites me and my girlfriend over next wkend to watch django and get drunk. the house and we'll be out with his friends. at any rate, am i correct this woman is a user? All her friends ARE male. another red flag. yep. i think i nailed this one... Link to post Share on other sites
acrosstheuniverse Posted September 9, 2013 Share Posted September 9, 2013 She sounds crazy. I would RUN, not walk, away from this one. She will wreak havoc on your life. Time to do your fade. I'm sure if your gf or her husband had any idea of the number and content of texts, they'd be less accepting of your friendship. Does your gf know what she texts you about and how frequently she gets in touch...? Also, you basically cheated on your gf at the party already, by kissing this chick. There's no point now saying you'd never act on it, you already did act on it. Unless your gf is okay with kissing other women. In which case I'm assuming you already told her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MissingMyHubby Posted September 9, 2013 Author Share Posted September 9, 2013 Gf was sitting nxt to me when i kissed her. my gf also kissed her. it was like spin the bottle and we were drunk. # of texts my gf doesnt know. and this married girl deletes hers by the hour (she told me.) My update: none. she texted couple times yesterday. I waited 5hrs to respond. as of today, i sent nothing nor have received nothing. So anyone have any comments on the bulk of my last dialogues? Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted September 9, 2013 Share Posted September 9, 2013 She sounds like a very bizarre person. I would distance myself from her. Link to post Share on other sites
acrosstheuniverse Posted September 9, 2013 Share Posted September 9, 2013 Gf was sitting nxt to me when i kissed her. my gf also kissed her. it was like spin the bottle and we were drunk. # of texts my gf doesnt know. and this married girl deletes hers by the hour (she told me.) the guy would start the circle with the smoke and basically what you do is exhale to the next person and then they pass it to the next person. the married chick sat next to me via her own choosing. my gf what is fine with her at this point because she was loosened up and having fun. I was taking the married girls smoke and we had a little tongue action that no one else could see for each 5 second of passing the smoke. after a few times of that I left the circle and encouraged my gf to take from her and continue to the original guy ( which she did.) I thought your gf and the rest of the circle couldn't see the tongue action...? Look, this isn't an accusation, or a moral judgement, or anything. But this married woman has clearly gotten under your skin bad enough for you to come to a forum to make multiple posts about her. Right now, based on your feelings, what do you want more? Your relationship with your girlfriend, or your budding affair with this married woman? The way things are going, I'm confident you won't be able to keep both. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MissingMyHubby Posted September 9, 2013 Author Share Posted September 9, 2013 Well i probably got a little excited from the newness of the situation and so forth and we clicked well off the bat. but things got slightly derailed and now ive come to the late realization that im just her boy toy. I could just call out her shot and say "hey i dont wanna be with u or anything so u dont need to throw a "banging husband" comment out there when im just responding to something u started in the firyt place." however, it may be better left unsaid...? Yes i wanna be w my current gf. just made me realize i gotta spice it up some Link to post Share on other sites
Author MissingMyHubby Posted September 10, 2013 Author Share Posted September 10, 2013 So i didnt text all day yesterday and got one at 10pm saying where her and another guy were meeting to exercise. i responddd 5 minutes later asking which locale. nothing back. i think she wanted to leave me hanging. at 7am she texts where and ends w my nickname she gave me.. i told her i had plans to exercise later and she said u could come for coffee still. i then told her i made plans w another friend. then she said she will be exercising same spot same place thur morning. so i said alright cool. that was it. kinda weird going from most days texting all day to nothin sunday really, nothin yesterday, and a couple quick ones today. Maybe she got the hint? Maybe shes looking for me to chase her? Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
TheGuard13 Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 She's an attention whore. You're her boy toy. Link to post Share on other sites
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