No Point Anymore

[napy666]

To me I don't see the point in life anymore. Life is hard point and check. I have been trying to get a job for years I've only had 2 jobs my whole life minus the writing and photography work but even that didn't pay much or all the time or at all.

 

I have since continued to do the writing and photography thing but it has yet to really pay off. I want to find that job that will pay me 20,000 a year or 40,000 a year.

 

But nothing has come around. Same thing with me and my driver's license I cannot get it. I keep trying and trying and trying and no matter how much classes or practice I do nothing becomes of it.

 

But yet my friends who are fat and ugly have driver's license, cars, jobs, boyfriends, husbands, kids.

 

When yet I'm slender, good looking and I don't even have a boyfriend! Been single for 2 years now it sucks. People keep telling me to wait he will come but yet others say if I just sit and wait he will never come. Plus I keep getting pushed towards the wrong guys getting hurt time and time again.

 

I am a good women, I have love, care, don't fool around, saving myself to have sex, don't drink, smoke, or do drugs or anything like that but yet all the guys turn to the fat chicks or the girls who do do those things.

 

It doesn't make sense. I am just so tired of life I really am. All I do is piss people off and have people repeating themselves because everything they say won't sink into my head.

 

But it does sink it, I do get what they're saying but I keep trying and nothing is happening or changing. I don't know what to do anymore. I try to think positive and enjoy life but nothing good ever happens.

 

I know I shouldn't compare myself to others but I got too it makes me feel like crap not being able to have what they have and yeah I know there are others are have nothing or are worse off than I am. But come on I try hard in life I do and yet nothing nothing nothing nothing.

[snowflakes88]

People give you quality advice on this board all of the time, and you either (1) disappear from the thread and never return, (2) get defensive and rude, or (3) ignore valid questions and continue to whine/complain.

 

If you are an able-bodied person, you can get a job. I've seen you say that you refuse to get an education, don't feel like applying to jobs, only want a job that will pay you mid-5 figures to write and/or work from home, etc. Life doesn't work that way. If you want something, you have to get off your ass and WORK for it. Instead of spending all of your time on dating sites, trying to convince men to move across the country to be with you -- GET UP. Leave the house. Go apply for jobs. Consider a trade. If you want to work from home, think about programs like medical transcription, data entry, those kinds of things. Make your own money. Contribute to your mother and the household. But it all starts with GETTING UP.

 

Sorry to sound harsh, but the solution is easy. Stop being so lazy and GET UP. Make it happen. That's what adults do, and it's probably why your fat, ugly friends have their lives together.

 

Just as an aside, perhaps you want to think about all of the times you've come onto the board depressed about people criticizing your appearance before you start calling others fat, ugly, etc.

[napy666]

Then I will just go kill myself because I don't care anymore.

[napy666]

When it comes down to it all I am is a really terrible person easy as that.

[snowflakes88]

You'd rather kill yourself than get a job. Oh, okay.

[A3sthetics]

I am a guy, feeling a bit like you too but in the male sense.

 

I'm probably older so this won't matter, but when I was younger, I was one of those guys who all the skinny nice hot smart girls liked but I was too shy so I went for the fat stoner chick instead.

 

Let me just say, well.... I just told you if you real closely... the reason guys don't go for you is you are like a car with an alarm, the robber will simply move to the next car without one.

 

 

And guys, are like wimpy burglars. They will move on to the car without the alarm.

[almond]

A negative outlook and self-pity really deters people, and unfortunately, you are radiating both.

 

Sure you may not have it all, but there are definitely positives. Once you learn to focus on the good, and capitalise, things will get better.

 

You are not succeeding because you are just going through the motions, and expecting things to suddenly improve. You really are your own worst enemy. I can almost guarantee you that with your current state of mind, you could get a job and a boyfriend and you would still not be able to be happy for any significant length of time. This problem lies within, and is not due to tangible things that you have not acquired.

 

I recommend therapy. You need to change your attitude ASAP.

[LBlanc]

Then I will just go kill myself because I don't care anymore.

 

don't joke about that...once those thoughts take root, it will be hard to take out... trust me

[HokeyReligions]

Have you considered voluntary commitment to a psychiatric facility for intense therapy?

 

I worked with someone who confided that she had done and that and it helped her tremendously.

[almond]

I missed the suicide comment.

 

OP, suicidal ideation is no joke. You don't need to live like this, things can get better.

 

Please see your doctor. Please get treatment. Your life can drastically improve, you just need to take some steps in the right direction.

 

Good luck.

[napy666]

I'm tired of trying time and time again it gets old and nothing is happening from trying. And yes I would be happy if I finally found a job that pays and a boyfriend.

[clia]

Please contact a suicide hotline or other mental help in your area if you are serious about the suicide threat.

 

How hard have you tried to find a job? Have you applied for a job at every restaurant (including fast food), hotel, and store within a 5 mile radius of your house?

 

You seem to be operating under the somewhat delusional position that everyone is entitled to have a job in their desired field. This couldn't be further from the truth. Ask all the wanna be actors and actresses who are waiting tables in the Los Angeles area. Ask all the struggling bands who are playing to empty bars in podunk towns across the country. The fact is that there are many more people interested in pursuing fields like writing and photography than there are jobs in those fields. While it is admirable that you've tried to pursue your dreams, at some point you have to face the reality that you need to earn a living. You are so stunted at this point because you haven't actually had to support yourself -- which is clear given that you want a job that pays $20,000 or $40,000. Did you just pluck those numbers out of the air? Do you think you could live by yourself on $20,000? At this point, you need a Plan B. You can obviously continue to write and pursue photography on the side, but you need to get a job and learn to support yourself. That will make you way more attractive to a guy. I mean, what exactly do you do all day?

 

As far as dating, do you ever date men who live in your area? From what you post on this site, your plan seems to be to find a guy who lives somewhere else, and to convince him to move to you. That doesn't seem like such a great plan from where I'm sitting. Focus on men who live within 30 miles of you, who you can meet in person. This long distance stuff you are doing is absurd, and is why you got catfished. Better yet, try to meet guys in person and step away from your computer screen. Join Meetup and go to some of their events in your area. You might have better luck.

 

And I don't understand why you can't get your driver's license. Are you failing the written test or the driving test? Do you have learning disabilities?

 

I mean, life is hard. Nothing is going to get handed to you on a silver platter. But you can do better.

[Da Lonely 1]

It sounds like the thread starter is just really stressed about things going on in her life, but it's not fair to log on, bitch about the issues you're going through and then not try to deal with the issues at hand. It's like you just like to come on the boards letting off steam more and more, but not finding a solution to the problem despite the honest advice provided.

 

It's very hard to judge you or others you speak of when we on here don't know the real you, nor your friends. However, you have to look for the value in yourself by making the effort. Find that self-worth and don't always rely on others or compare yourself to their lives or whatever. And you calling your friends ugly even if you are just angry at the present time, doesn't make you sound like a good friend. Really, God created us all differently. We all cannot be Snow White or Brad Pitt. Ha!

 

Sorry, but I just had to point that one out 2 you.

[napy666]

I have tried. Time and time again. I am just so tired of it all.

[Da Lonely 1]

Well, keep trying. Killing yourself won't accomplish anything anyway. What you need to do is focus on building yourself back up in 2013 and then making 2014 a fresh beginning, since it won't be long now until 2014 is here.