sarcastic, loud, insulting friend

[simplybrill]

I have this friend whom Ive known for about 5 years now...and for whatever reason he's acting stranger and stranger lately.

 

To make it simple, he's being a real jerk around me whenever we're in public. I used to think, it was because he was bitter because I wouldnt date him...but now I think he's over that and he's trying to find a new girl.

 

Its just wierd, he's got this sarcastic, loud mouth, sometimes even insulting, "I dont care what anyone thinks, Ill do what I want" kind of attitude now.

 

Ive already had to call him out, about being disrespectful to me, and to girls. When I confronted him, he got super defensive and said "well HUN, most of the time when I say that stuff, Im just kidding" and acted like I was blowing things out of proportion and taking it all too seriously.

 

When the fact is...he's downright embarassing sometimes when he says inapropriate things! I dont want to be associated with someone like this, I dont like feeling dragged down by my "friend" here, who didnt always act like this. Its like he took something he used to do- to be funny, and turned it into a lifestyle for himself.

 

He has no concept of time, or situation. He doesnt seem to think that when in a quiet room full of people, before lecture starts - you're not supposed to talk all loud, and have inapropriate conversations, or be really sarcastic. He doesnt seem to get that there's a time and place for everything.

 

What do you guys think I should do - Im sick of talking to him about his behavior because I know what response Ill get...I dont want to be anyone's mother either! He's 20 now, you think he'd know how to act in public! Im at my wits end with this one...

[Pocky]

Let the friendship fade.

[Bronzepen]

Friends come and go.

 

You've talked to him about the way he acts and he doesn't care. Time to cut him lose.

 

If you don't want to hurt his feelings then do it slowly by doing things with him less and less.

 

Till one day he will say, "Hey we hardly see each other anymore." and you say "Yeah, I've been real busy."

[zara]

this happens as you get older. I have a friend who is slowly turning into her own loud, overbearing, insensitive, self obssessed mother and recently both i and other friends have begun to dread having to spend any great deal of time with her.

 

Just allow the friendship to fade, don't invite him places, tell him you are too busy if he invites you - How to Lose Friends and Alienate People the Loveshack Way!

[bluechocolate]

I dont want to be associated with someone like this....

 

Then don't.

 

As the others have pointed out - let it die a natural death.

[simplybrill]

Thanks guys, Ive been trying to let it fade for a while now...we dont hang out, outside of class, and I the only time I really have to interact with him IS when we have that one class together.

 

Im almost at the point of just moving, and sitting somewhere else in the class, so he wont have me to bounce his comments off of anymore.

 

I guess im just shocked and appalled...how can someone be so insensetive, and then act like you should just "stick around" because you know them? I'd like to see him warm up to the people he doesnt know in class, and try to treat them that way haha.

 

Its like he's overcompensating for something, he's always got some kind of stupid looking outfit on...im not kidding...the guy's a metrosexual who wears lipgloss, scarfs regularly,and a pageboy hat, and works at one of those stores in the mall..and that in conjunction with him being all loudmouthed...it would be funny if it weren't so sad.