ImGoodNow Posted November 18, 2004 Share Posted November 18, 2004 I have a long time friend that is for the most part a good guy. He's trustworthy as a friend, but his attitude and actions towards relationships with the opposite sex are questionable. He often takes interest in women that already have boyfriends, or even husbands on rare occasion, becomes their "friend", and is then very manipulative and tries to win them over. Recently this friend of mine has met my fiancee's sister for the first time. After just two meetings as a group, he's emailing and instant messaging her, asking her to go out to the movies (just the two of them), etc. He is making it very clear to me and my fiancee that he just thinks she is a nice girl and wants to be friends with her. However, given his track record of becoming friends with women he's attracted to and trying to make something more out of the relationship, I am skeptical. I love my future sister-in-law and am very protective over her. If one of my friends ever did anything to hurt her, they would definitely answer to me. Both my friend and my future sis are intelligent, responsible adults and I don't feel right about trying to put the nix on this new friendship, but it makes me nervous because I think that my friend may be up to something more. Should I keep cool and only step in if it becomes clear that my friend is trying to put the moves on my future sis, or is there a tactful way that I should address it now? Thanks for any advice. Link to post Share on other sites
lorenita1984 Posted November 18, 2004 Share Posted November 18, 2004 i think you should talk to your friend and tell him what you are thinking if he is really your friend he will understand and respect what you think Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted November 18, 2004 Share Posted November 18, 2004 You neglected to make clear if your sister-in-law is single, but I'll assume she is. If this really concerns you (and I think it would concern me) your fiance could have a quiet word to her sister about this guy. At least then she'll have fair warning & can take it from there & you've managed to stay out of a situation where you could be seen as bad mouthing your friend. Of course there is a risk that something could get back to your friend, but hey, sisters talk - there's nothing he can do about that. Link to post Share on other sites
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