Body Language - Mind Games

[richdownes89]

So... I've been single a while. I'm not really surprised about that, but it doesn't always bother me. I don't mind, but sometimes, I do wish I had someone to distract me. And I know it'll do it when it's due. I'm not a horrible person, I'm very loyal, very protective.

 

I'm a Scorpio. I'm also an unrequited love poet.

 

But yeah, enough about that... body language and mind games. Something I've got used to seeing when my mother gets drunk. Her whole attitude changes. But I'm not on about her, nor my older sister.

 

I've got a temporary job. I'm in two days a week. As long as I make up the 15 hours a week, it's fine. That's usually Monday and Tuesday a week. Good and bad. I hardly get to know anyone in work.

 

So, as a result, I tried to add one of the co-workers I was working with, on Facebook. She accepts. I send her a message that I like her hair (when she does it up), she should do it more often. Then I send her a smile and a cheeky comment like "I feel honoured to have been put on your friends list." - no comment.

 

Then I find out she's blocked me. Apparently, it was inappropriate to do so. I also write her a note in work, to stop clogging up work emails, it is work email only, she tells me that also was inappropriate to do so.

 

I didn't want the "dirty laundry" hung out in the open, I do respect her.

 

So here's why it's odd. She's single. I'm single. But when hardly anyone is around, she plays these body language tricks and mind games. I study them online and it says she's interested...

 

• She moves her hair so I can see her neck - from the PC angle.
  
• She sometimes flashes her wrist my direction (although sometimes it's short.
  
• She avoids eye contact with me.
  
• Her feet point towards me sometimes.
  
• When I have lunch, although I can't "see" her as such, her body faces where I sit.
  
• She covers her lips when I have to sit at the PC where I'm "forced" to see her in my eye line.
  
• She grooms her hair, although not looking at me, from the same area.
  

 

 

Now, apparently, this could be mistaken as not interested. It could be also be mistaken as shy. I don't know how to read it. She doesn't want to talk to me now but she did. She wanted me to help her with something that she could have done herself.

 

I need help.

 

Any answers for this?

 

I think she's interested but shy to admit it.

 

After all, I am temporary, I am younger than her... but why do the neck actions otherwise?

[DresdenKing]

What do you have to lose? Approach her and confidently ask her out, don't keep writing notes online or otherwise. If she's interested, that's the best way to find out. If she's not, she'll simply deny you; and you get to stop worrying about it so you can move on to the next fish in the sea. Win-win.

[Scales]

Shes not interested in you. No girl who is too shy blocks you one facebook and tells you that you did something inappropriate.

 

Body language in general can only be read once you figure out a persons "natural state". You are looking for oddities or tells. If moving her hair is something she does often and too many people or just by herself, its something she does regularly. For example, I cross my arms regularly when i stand because it feels comfortable for me, but many body language experts would say im acting closed off. Well it would be if I didn't normally cross my arms but I do, its my natural for me too. You've got to find a tell that doesn't happen naturally. Feet pointing towards is good, but in what environment? If you are sitting in chairs across from each other, its pretty natural they would. Or if you are standing across. feet can point towards but if her torso is pointing another direction thats not good for example. Avoiding eye contact also is not a good sign generally unless of course she avoids it with everyone, in which case it doesn't matter.

[richdownes89]

Shes not interested in you. No girl who is too shy blocks you one facebook and tells you that you did something inappropriate.

 

Body language in general can only be read once you figure out a persons "natural state". You are looking for oddities or tells. If moving her hair is something she does often and too many people or just by herself, its something she does regularly. For example, I cross my arms regularly when i stand because it feels comfortable for me, but many body language experts would say im acting closed off. Well it would be if I didn't normally cross my arms but I do, its my natural for me too. You've got to find a tell that doesn't happen naturally. Feet pointing towards is good, but in what environment? If you are sitting in chairs across from each other, its pretty natural they would. Or if you are standing across. feet can point towards but if her torso is pointing another direction thats not good for example. Avoiding eye contact also is not a good sign generally unless of course she avoids it with everyone, in which case it doesn't matter.

 

She doesn't do it that often, she does have long hair but no, she's not always doing it that often, especially to the rest of the office. But that's what I've experienced. It depends the manner in which you cross your arms, you could also be stroking your arms, therefore it could be implied differently. Well, regarding feet, no, not like that. I remember standing about 9:00 to her, so not directly in front of her (say 12:00) and her feet pointed to me like that. She was also semi-talking to someone else at the moment of impact that was going on. Re: Eyes, yes, she avoids eye contact with everyone else. I think she has confidence issues, a lot of the 'body language experts' imply the same. But of course, who knows?

 

I'm also thinking she wanted me to do a physical communication but I don't know. I'm not gonna chase her. No point in wasting time.

 

Thank you both.

RD89.

[todreaminblue]

She doesn't do it that often, she does have long hair but no, she's not always doing it that often, especially to the rest of the office. But that's what I've experienced. It depends the manner in which you cross your arms, you could also be stroking your arms, therefore it could be implied differently. Well, regarding feet, no, not like that. I remember standing about 9:00 to her, so not directly in front of her (say 12:00) and her feet pointed to me like that. She was also semi-talking to someone else at the moment of impact that was going on. Re: Eyes, yes, she avoids eye contact with everyone else. I think she has confidence issues, a lot of the 'body language experts' imply the same. But of course, who knows?

 

I'm also thinking she wanted me to do a physical communication but I don't know. I'm not gonna chase her. No point in wasting time.

 

Thank you both.

RD89.

 

 

i avoid eye contact with guys i am attracted to, dont want him to see it so i never look for too long..... am actually pretty confident with men if i am not attracted......its easy to speak to them as friends ebcause that is all they are to me....just buddies..........when it changes for me is when feelings develop that arent so friendly but there's something else and no it isnt sexual but a defined interest.....and yep gonesky....

 

hardly ever have it so glad about that...i have in the past avoided the guy i liked.....i dont add people on face book unless they ask me too or send me invites..... the only one i have refused to add is my ex......and people i dont know at all

 

did you ever ask her why she blocked you on face book.....you didnt really give a concrete reason.......did she give you one......deb

[jacksonvillae]

I think she has confidence issues, a lot of the 'body language experts' imply the same