Confused122 Posted September 9, 2013 Share Posted September 9, 2013 Came upon this site and felt like I needed to get out. My story together for 10 years married for 5 years no kids me 28 husband 32. Husband is treatening for divorce and is saying that he is not happy but still loves me. He has rejected me for sex for the past month which made me very depressed. We have had a lot of problems in the past with alcohol abuse. We both enjoy drinking and goin out but just recently my drinking has caused me to turn into a very violent person. And I have treatend him with a knife and all sorts of things. He has become so cold recently there was a very bad fight which scared him and I said some very awful things that I should have not. he does not believe in counseling both of our families know that we are going trough a very rough time. He has always had many friends and he also has a very good career. I know that there isn't anyone else he has assured me. I promises that I will change begging him not to leave as I dont know how to live without him. Our families are having very difficult time with this as well. He has rejected me and I am very attractive I just don't know if he is being distant because of the fight or he is really ending it. Thanks any advice would help and forgot to add just 2 months ago he has received his 10 year permanent visa to stay in the US. I was having thoughts that maybe that is why he would consider divorce Link to post Share on other sites
Balzac Posted September 9, 2013 Share Posted September 9, 2013 Have you considered dealing with your drinking problem? Link to post Share on other sites
Sparty97 Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 The second "pulled a knife on him" came out you lost me. Would you stay if he did the same? Would you want sex with him? If I were him I would already be gone. This is not a simple "counseling issue". ...heh..."he's gone cold"... I wonder why. Link to post Share on other sites
melell Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 Get professional help and don't underestimate the power of addiction. When you look at the lives of people with addiction this kind of stuff happens over, and over, and over again. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 Came upon this site and felt like I needed to get out. My story together for 10 years married for 5 years no kids me 28 husband 32. Husband is treatening for divorce and is saying that he is not happy but still loves me. He has rejected me for sex for the past month which made me very depressed. We have had a lot of problems in the past with alcohol abuse. We both enjoy drinking and goin out but just recently my drinking has caused me to turn into a very violent person. And I have treatend him with a knife and all sorts of things. He has become so cold recently there was a very bad fight which scared him and I said some very awful things that I should have not. he does not believe in counseling both of our families know that we are going trough a very rough time. He has always had many friends and he also has a very good career. I know that there isn't anyone else he has assured me. I promises that I will change begging him not to leave as I dont know how to live without him. Our families are having very difficult time with this as well. He has rejected me and I am very attractive I just don't know if he is being distant because of the fight or he is really ending it. Thanks any advice would help and forgot to add just 2 months ago he has received his 10 year permanent visa to stay in the US. I was having thoughts that maybe that is why he would consider divorce I would want to divorce you, too. You cannot possibly think your marriage can be successful when this is the level of chaos and violence you create. Deal with your addiction first. For YOU. Link to post Share on other sites
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