digger Posted November 18, 2004 Share Posted November 18, 2004 and maybe i do it to myself. For those of you following my story. the divorce happened 2 months ago from the love of my life...i thot wed never separate much less this...and then i find out thru divorce papers she wants to move to Texas, 1000 miles away. A place shes never been or worked, with my daughter. My daughter, after 5 months of silence has begun talking to me again. I asked her if she wanted to come over for Thanksgiving eve and she said "no im leaving town for a few days". Well where are u going i asked. She said--to texas where mom is visiting a freind. I thot she had a job all lined up and maybe she does...but heres what throws me...the daughter said she was all excited cause she has a job interview here next tuesday. My question--do you think--and i read something about it in Blase Harris book..that the mention of a job offer in Texas is a 'scare tactic" of some sort. Why would my daughter be so excited about a job if they were leaving for good??? Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted November 18, 2004 Share Posted November 18, 2004 How old is your daughter? Maybe she's just excited to be going on a trip & understands that a job interview doesn't necessarily mean a job. What are your custodial arrangements with your daughter? ..that the mention of a job offer in Texas is a 'scare tactic" of some sort? I'm not familiar with this book you mentioned - why do you think she would want to scare you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author digger Posted November 18, 2004 Author Share Posted November 18, 2004 well because i just started my own biz--and after a divorce am i need of $$--they asked if id write in the decree "no child supprt if id allow them to move". I had to take the offer. Daughter is 17. The book pointed out an instance where a woman wanted to move 1000 miles away and if that happens you shouldjust agree that 'whatever u think is right honey" is what u should say. Link to post Share on other sites
Author digger Posted November 18, 2004 Author Share Posted November 18, 2004 ohhh-and a scare tactic as in "if u dont shape up--see what could happen?" Make him think--make him sweat. Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted November 19, 2004 Share Posted November 19, 2004 She was the one who filed for divorce & went through with it so I'm not sure why she would want or need to scare you. Maybe she really does have a job interview in Texas. The book pointed out an instance where a woman wanted to move 1000 miles away and if that happens you should just agree that 'whatever u think is right honey" is what u should say. You can't stop her so that would seem the wisest course of action. I'm sorry to hear about your daughter though, especially now that you're starting to speak again. It would be nice to think that your ex-wife considers the father-daughter relationship in regards to her move & also the effect that could have on your daughter - parents recently divorced & then up & move to a different house, new school, no friends - it could be very difficult for her. Link to post Share on other sites
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